Messages By: stitcher77

I just want to say that I am so proud of Marri who has turned out to be a much better person than her Mother who is a crack cocaine user.  I also want to tell her too that I have gone through a lot in my life time since I was born and despite of everytlhing that I have gone through I have graduated from High School, I have graduated from college as well and I didn't have no help whatsoever or suport for that matter from either one of my mothers - my biolocial mother nor my step mother.  My biological mother died when I was real young but I still dodn't have no support or love from my step mother when I was going to college nor did I when I had to go and have Jaw Surgery.   

  

Marri, whatever you do please don't give up....keep oin doing what you are doing and if you can try to find another place to live.  You are a very beautiful girl and I know that there are people out there who saw the show last week of you and your mother  that are so proud of you as well too.   

  

I am so sorry Marri that you have to go through what you are going through but keep your chin up okay.   

  

Take Care Marri and I'll be praying for you as well. 

  

Linda

I have always been afraid of asking or telling people what I want to do or would like to do or ask them a question and the answer to the question would be the answer NO.  When I was growing up everytime I wanted to go someplace or do something my step mom would always tell me NO but if I asked my Dad he would say yes every time within reason of course.  I have always been told most of my life and I felt so left out of everything including my youth group from my church.   

  

In a way I am still afraid that people is going to tell me NO but not as much as it was when I was growing up.  I am pretty much on my own now and it feels so good to be able to do something without having to ask someone if I can do this or do that or go somewhere.   

I have always wondered if it is okay to be playing with yourself when you are single and don't have a boyfriend/husband  around to satisfy your sexual needs.  Sometimes I feel guilty about it and other times I don't.  I have a hard time in keeping boyfriends due to my health problems.  I met this wonderful gentleman once and I did go with him for a while but all he wanted to do is to have sex and that was it.  He was a older gentleman too..he was 20 years older than I am.  I feel like there is more to life than just having sex everytime I turn around.  I quit going over to his house due to that reason right there.  He wouldn't go anywhere with me or anything else - he just wanted to have sex and that was it.   

  

I would like to have some suggestions in this double topic. 

  

Thanks, 

stitcher77 

I grew up in a Alcoholic Home.  My Biological Mother was a pure Alcoholic.  My dad had her go to Rehab three different times through AAA.  Each time she would go right back to her drinking.  I was born with FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome).  When that Mother sat there in front of Dr. Phil and told him that she drink while she was pregnant with her children and said that she was drinking while pregnant due to other Pregnant Mothers drinking and nothing happens to their children when they were being born.   

  

When I heard that I was very upset.  How can a Alcoholic Mother sit there and say that on Public TV.  I can't remember what the Mother's name is but I am very upset at the Mother for saying that.  I am living proof that YES there is a BIG CHANCE of a newborn being physically handicap and metally handicap due to a Mother drinking while being pregnant for nine months.   

  

I do not want to hear another Mother making statements like that ever again.  I would love to be on Dr. Phil's show just one time to tell everyone my story of being raised in a Alcoholic Environment.   

  

I was born with a bone disease (Condition) called Osteogenesis Imperfecta, Part of my brain was damaged due to FAS, I had to take Speech Therapy, I was a slow learner in school, I was held back twice in elementary school.  I've had over 20 broken bones in my body.  All of this is DUE TO MY MOTHER DRINKING WHILE CARRYING ME FOR NINE MONTHS.  Now is that PROOF ENOUGH FOR ALL OF YOUR MOTHERS OR FATHERS TO QUIT DRINKING. 

  

I put myself through College after being out of High School for a long time.  No Suport did I get from my step mother who was abusing me verbally and emotionally after my Dad passed away in April of 1981.  I graduated from College in May of 2001 with a Technical Certificate in CIS (computer Information Systems).  All of the professors and my two dear closest friends and my two brothers were there to see me Graduate from my College.   

  

I hope I don't get kick off of this board for saying what I did about parents who drink but it is a very sad situation for any mother to drink while being pregnant.  I hope that I made a big impact on anybody that reads what I wrote today.   

  

Thanks for reading my post. 

  

  

  

  

Hi 

  

   This also makes me very angry and very upset.  I was born with FAS plus other numerous problems so I wanted to let you know that you are NOT ALONE in this at all.  I was really angry when she was talking about drinking while she was pregnant.  That really got my nerve up as well too.   

I am not against having a tattoo - just one or two but please do not cover your entire body up with a "painted picture".  I watch a talk show one time like Dateline or 60 minutes and they had interviews with different people that have entirely covered their whole body with tattoos.  Those people have now regretted in covering their whole body up with tattoos.  It is NOT healthy for your body at all. You may not realize it but in time the ink leaks into your system and than it can be bad for on your entire system.  If you want to express yourself please find a hobby to do like painting or cross stitch...in other words...find a craft to do or a hobby to do...here is another way...express yourself by writing...

I have been made fun of, judged by other people, name it - I've been through it all and it is not fair to the person or persons who are being judged or made fun of due to their appearance, their physical ability.  It is very wrong to be judgmental and no one should be made fun of no matter what.  Each of us were broght to this Earth for a reason and every one of us has a purpose in life no matter what we look like, who we are, or our physical being.   

  

It is not fair at all to be made fun of or to be judged and it makes that person feel terrible in every way you can metion.   

  

Please don't be judgmental.... 

   My biological mother was a Alcoholic and I was born with FAS (Fetal Alcoholic Syndrome) and due to my mother being a Alcoholic I was born with a bone condition called Osteogenesis Imperfecta and other nunerous health problems as well.  I've had over 20 some broken bones from the time that my mother was carrying me for 9 months and a very long time after that.  If I make it to July 2007 than I will have broken my very own record of not breaking any bones for the very first 10 years since I was born. 

 

  Not only my biological mother drank and was a pure Alcoholic but also all of my step mother's sisters and brothers so I actually lived with two families that drank like fish.  All of my biological Aunts and Uncles was a pure Alcoholic as well too and all of my Uncles are dead now on my biological Mother's side of the family and I have one Uncle left on my step mother's side of the family and that is it. 

 

   My biological mother passed away when I was about 8 or 9 years old.  She was on her way to Texas to spend the rest of her life with her boyfriend and she was driving drunk and she got into a real bad car accident due to her drinking. 

 

  When my dad re-married my step mother and I got along just fine but than after my dad died than my mom turned on me and she got pretty  violoent with me at times so I ended up walking the streets at night til about 3 or 4 in the morning in order to protect myself from my step mom beating me up and hurt me very emotinally as well too besides just physically.  She finally moved out of the house in 1995 after lying to me for 16 years. 

 

  My dad died in April of 1981 and I really miss my dad more than anything else in this world.  There are many nights that I lay in bed and cried for my dad. 

 

  I never really had a so called "Mother" from the time that I was born to now and wihen a child does not have a Mother to be loved by and to be cared for by a mother than that child will always have some emotional problems due to not having a parent regardless of a Mother or a Father. 

 

  In 1990 or 1991 a lady minister came to my church and from that time on to up to date she has always been my "Mother" that I never really had.  She took me under her wings and she help me get to where I am at now.  If it wasn't for her I would've never went to college, I would've never learn to drive, I would've never got my college degree in Computer Information Systems and I probably would've committed suicide long time ago if it wasn't for my "Mother".  When she came to my town to be the minister at my church I was living on the streets and I was on the verge of committing suicide and she saved me from doing that and taught me alot about life and I owe her alot and to this present day we still see each other at least once a year in person and we email each other all of the time. 

 

  I have had to survive on my own many a night and many a day and fought for what I believed in so I'm a SURVIVOR of two Alcoholic Families/Relatives and I made up my mind that when I got old enough to start drinking I was NOT going to end up being like my biological mother or even like my step mother for that matter.  I have had one dirnk in my life and that was it.  I haven't had a drink since than. That drink was at my brother's wedding and that was it. 

 

  I won't go out with a Alcoholic and I won't live with one either.  I remember one time when I was a little girl and my biological mother came home drunk and she knocked down our Christmas Tree and my younger brother and I ran over to our step mother and hung onto her for dear life.  My dad told her to leave and she left and that was the very last time I saw my biological mother cause that was the time that she got killed in the car accident in Arizona.  The next time I saw my biological mother was at the funeral home laying in her casket and that was the very last time I saw her. 

 

  I am living in my parents house which my Dad willed me the house to live in for the rest of my life and I have two dogs and one cat.  I have a real good Cop friend who works in my town that watches over me every night while he is on duty and I am so thankful for that.  He knows my whole life story so he watches over me while he is on duty. 

 

   I am so thankful for my former Minister lady friend who is my "Mother" that I never had and for my Cop friend who watches over me while he is on duty. 

 

I would love to be on Dr. Phil Show one day to tell my story and being born with FAS.  If there is ever a opportunity to be on his show I'm goin without a second thought and to be on his show.. 

 

Stitcher77