Messages By: ckadcock

I'm not particularly fond of lazy people. I do, however, find myself getting pretty dang tired of cleaning the same things over and over and over and over until finally, I just lay it down! I'll let it go until I finally get tired of looking at it and then clean it up. I have less than 900 sq. ft. of home for my husband, 2 girls and myself and if anything is out of place, it looks like a mess and since I have a 5 year old and a 10 month old, pretty much everything is out of place.  I have started boxing up all of my what-nots, just so I don't have to worry with dusting or cleaning them, since I have all the toys I have to deal with and the car magazines and spit cups, as well. As far as being a "Soccer Mom", NO, I am not one of those. To be able to be a Soccer Mom, you have to have money and most of the time I see alot of those kind of women shopping and most of the time their nails are done and their hair is of the most fashionable cut of that particular season.....Most of the time anyway. I know what I say sounds like I'm lashing out but that is only because I can't enjoy those benefits. I guess his family are comparing me to what they generally see out and about town.  I'm kinda wondering if the "slacker mom" isn't depressed. Having quit working when my first was born, I didn't want money to be an issue and it's not, since he is the one who has the money!! Heck, I've got more problems over here than just this subject!

Well, well, well, what can I say about inlaws? My husbands parents haven't been married to each other in over 20 years and yet they seem to attack me around the same time. His father tries to cover his stupidity with insults towards me and sometimes crudeness. However, I much rather deal with that, since he states what is on his mind and you can "state" it right back to him but his mother is the spawn of something evil and underhanded. My husband realizes all of this but wants me to be the one to endure it and let his parents go on treating me how ever they want. I can bring something up such as purchasing land, needing a storage building, add-ons to the house, just whatever and the next time I hear about it, it's went through his mom or dad or both. If I reason with him about something, he doesn't take it as sound advice but let his parents say it and it's LAW! I am a stay-at-home-mom and both his parents and himself believe that the money he makes is his and that he is the one who has the say-so over it. We of course get the things we need but the budget just doesn't have enough for me and my sanity. I go nowhere, I do nothing. I go to town no more than 2 times a week but usually once a week. I do not take my kids to every child funtion that society has created to be the "in" thing. I don't even buy clothes for the kids, my husband and his mother normally do that, not because I don't want to though. Now, even though that usually is my life around here, both his parents think I'm some high-dollar money grubbing female who sits on her butt all day doing nothing. His father LOVES to see if he can find something that he can "tell" on me for. I have proved this several times by telling my husband that his dad would be calling him about whatever it was. EVERYTIME he has tattled, it was over somehting that was absolutely none of his business. His mother is alot like that as well, I swear they should have stayed married.

These parents are RUINING their kids. They expect thier parents to help them out WAY too much, then when they get married their spouse feels as if they are still the outsider because it really doesn't matter what they have to say.

Now this could stem from envy, because I was raised VERY poor and I'm not talking about having foodstamps and yet having a car and cable TV either. Our highlights was getting a couple bags of food in the house and eating the meat and drinking the milk before it went bad because we didn't have electricity, kind of poor. BUUUT I can't help feel that Dr. Phil does the same with his oldest boy. I feel that his diploma benefits how far they will ALL go. I know it's envy, I'll just have to get over it.

I feel ya girl. My husband works for the family business as well and if it wasn't for his efforts and work habits, his father wouldn't have a business. My husband has went as far as not getting a paycheck for a few weeks to get the company back on its' feet in the beginning! Meanwhile, his father uses the fact that his son (my husband) is a good person and wants his dads' business to succeed. He even uses his own personal credit cards to float the business from month to month and has to pull his dads teeth to get the expenses out of the man! His father his a liar and an idiot.

If I were you I would get the man on the phone and tell him what you think! However, I don't really know how much good it would do. I have done the same with his dad but it doesn't work, I think the man is just too dense. It's like my Mama told me once, "PJ, don't ask anyone to apologize for being who they are. If they are chickensh*t, they are just chickensh*t."