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April 21, 2006, 7:39 am PDT

Having sex is an adult decision...

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Actually I think both women and men are selfish when they willing and ready to have the pleasure of sex and then when a child comes into the picture, they decide that the child is a mistake and not worth coming into the world. What I think about men is also what I think about women, if you don't want a baby then don't have sex and take chances or go get your self to the doctor and get fixed. I think if you are gonna lie down and have sex then you should be woman and man enough to take care of the responsibilities of the outcome..yes, sex is pleasureable and should be as I believe that it was created to be great but also for a husband and wife to enjoy one another as they have become one and sex was also created to create new life, it all goes hand in hand and if people, men and women would start respecting sex for what it was meant to be, then there wouldn't be these unwanted babies and the babies would grow up to be loved, respected and given a positive chance in the world. Children should not be conceived out of greed and out of control hormones, but out of love and they should and have the right to be wanted................................

...If you are going to have sex and are "adult" enough to be engaging in sex, then you need to sit down and discuss the "what if's" before! Too often it is taken for granted and then no one is around except for the woman to deal with the consequences! And about the jackass who wrote that the men should have choices too!!! Whatever! They have a choice to keep their business in their pants and if not, then they are faced with the fact that pregnancy could occur!!! Next they will be fighting for the right to be able to dictate what the woman's choice should be....abortion, adoption without the woman having any say in the matter???? This guy and his lawyer are both jackasses!! WHAT ABOUT THE CHILD???? My husband was abandoned by his father under the age of 2 and had to live with that for his whole life (the rejection, etc.)! What is this world coming to? These people should be ashamed!!!

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April 21, 2006, 7:48 am PDT

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

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Men have more choices than they realize. Put on a condom, don't have sex. There are two. If a man has sex without a condom regardless of whether his partner says she is on birth control or can't have children, he is responsible for what happens after that. If he can't take the heat, stay out of hte bedroom. What saddens me greatly is that someday Dr. Phil's guest will want to take part in his daughters life and she will see what a jerk he was and he will lose out on a lot more than the $500 a month he's losing now. And I don't think $500 is even enough if you figure in medical expenses, food, clothing, shelter, diapers, wipes, crib, carseat.....

Next thing you are going to be advocating is allowing me to have the right to make the decision on what should happen to my unborn child!! Women will have to let a man decide (THE SPERM DONOR) on if their baby should be aborted, put up for adoption, or whatever decision is convenient to the man. M en do have choices as the above stated...put on a condom! Quit being a loser and take responsibility for your actions!! THis beautiful baby is nothing but a pawn in Matt's battle to prove he as a man has rights!! He has shown nothing but the fact that he is NOT a man!!!

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April 21, 2006, 8:18 am PDT

birth control not always 100%

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SHE LIED TO HIM!! Women have been holding men at ransom for years in this country by having babies not always wanted by both partners. If he made it clear he did not want to be a father at this stage of the game why did she take the risk of getting pregnant by having sex with him in the first place? Agreed there is equal responsibility that Matt should have not given up his "seed" if he did not want to be a father, but it is clear this young man was LIED too! I grew up in the mid-west and I saw women dropping babies like rabbits to get a larger AFDC welfare check. They found that having babies could be a source of "income". There are many sides to this coin. My Dad left my Mom with four kids in 1964 and he didn't pay a DIME in child support. I am the third one down of four and watched my Mom be a waitress for years to raise her children. The truth is that human beings are the only mammals on the planet that I know of which can have sex for pleasure and not get pregnant--- this is the 21st century. In the "old days" they used pig intestines for condoms or were just to tired to even have sex trying to survive in this world. I'm with Matt on this one and I hope he wins his court case but the sad fact is there is already a human soul brought into this world who will suffer---the baby. I think women set themselves up for failure when they do not select the right sex partner in the event they do get pregnant. Its not the man who carries a child to term and falls in love with what comes out unless there is a loving "sperm donor" / "Father" involved. Its apparent men have a need to spread their seed in the barbaric sense of the phrase but it is the woman who carries the greatest responsibility by selecting who or what she will spread her legs for. The bottom line is Creator created sex for procreation of the human species and if you don't want children DONT HAVE SEX!

I have a friend who's wife got pregnant 2 times while on birth control pill and a cousin who tried IVF three times ($10,000each time) because she was told she could NEVER have children and after adopting, became pregnant! NOthing is 100% even if you are told you are not able to have children and even vasectomies are not 100%!! GET OVER IT!!

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April 21, 2006, 8:28 am PDT

If you think a baby is only about $$$..you are crazy

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when men dont stay around women are the ones who have all the burden for the duration of that childs life how can you say itsd just for 9 months. because after the baby is born then the women have the childs life to raise them feed them cloth them and love them while the deadbeat dad just has to pay a little child support so you tell me who has the biggest burden???????????

Who are you and what turnip truck did you fall off of?? Maybe Matt will have to pay $500/mo for 18 years, but who gets up with the baby in the middle of the night, who feeds and diapers and nurtures the poor baby?? Who molds the precious child as she grows up and has to be "mommy and daddy"?? Hopefully you are not a father because if you think that is all it takes to be a mom is 9 mos of being pregnant..you are absolutely out of your mind!!! The 9 mos is just the begining! Matt (AKA "SPERM DONOR" ) would be getting out of it all pretty easy if that is ALL the responsibility he has to take is monetary!! GIVE IT A REST ALREADY!!!

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April 21, 2006, 3:39 pm PDT

What marriage is protected when....?

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I know a lot of people talk about having unprotected sex, but let me tell you what I think unprotected sex means. It might be a little old fashioned, but I believe that unprotected sex is having sex outside the protective shelter of a marriage. Condoms can break, birth control can fail and can leave people's lives shattered and children feeling unwanted or even aborted. I'm not here to condem anyone, but if we think of sex inside a marriage as being "protected", in all ways. Emotional, spiritual, financial. Its so sad to see this baby with a father who doesn't want her, and that thinks he should have a choice into being a father. Parenthood is a choice, and when you have sex with a partner, even outside of marriage, a baby can be made. Why allow this heartache to happen? Too many babies are growing up out of wedlock without daddies or mommies that can adequetly take care of them. Think people!! These children deserve to be wanted!! You know if this happened to this exact couple if they were married, this would not be an issue. Marriage protects everyone.

Are you saying that a marriage is a full proof way to "protect" a child as well as a spouse?? So, when a spouse cheats, the child is protected? When a person marries someone because they are pregnant and may not necessarily be 100% in the relationship, then everyone is protected?? Marriage is by far the answer here!! Neither one of these 3 people here would benefit from marriage!!!

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April 21, 2006, 3:45 pm PDT