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Messages By: jennamae
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April 21, 2006, 2:42 pm PDT
 Quote From: maremeadow Please note.. I did NOT call them MEN in the title. Real men step up and face their responsibilities. Matt, on the other hand is an fully grown child... worse, a DOG. Having raised three daughters without ONE pennies child support, court ordered and NEVER paid, I feel like an expert on the subject.
Furthermore, I am raising my severely autistic grandson. This because when his mother (my traumatic brain injured daughter) told him that she would get an abortion because she didn't think she was ready to have a child and their marriage was VERY rocky. He threatened her and basically forced her to have the child. Halfway through the pregnancy he was beating her, raping her and throwing her down stairs because she "moved too slowly." She left him when the baby was 20 days old and has lived with me ever since. I am supporting them both. He has paid $15.00 in child support in 2 1/2 years. This child is 2 1/2 years old and is severely handicapped. He has not made one attempt to communicate in any way, no mimicking sounds, not walking... this boy needs a LOT of help! I feel quite certain that his condition is due to the abuse that the mother took during the pregnancy. He also took the child off his insurance and his therapies alone cost close to $2,000 a month... my burden!
These fathers all had rights... they INSISTED on having these children. Then they ALL abandoned them emotionally, financially and otherwise.
My philosophy has been simple. I step up and assume the responsibility. No court, no hassles.. just let the dogs run and take care of the babies. The fight is NOT worth it because it only adds legal fees and stress and worry to the already difficult situation. However, in my opinion, this country is seriously failing it's children by allowing deadbeat dad's to avoid the financial responsibility of the children they created.
Whether a man chooses to be a father or not is his choice UP FRONT... practice abstinence, use protection or step up and take care of the child.
Matt, shame on you! That baby looks identical to you... sweet and adorable. How cold and selfish can a human be? You are despicable!
I have two children and i know how hard it is to raise them i dont know how woman do it by themselves let alone in your situation you have your daughter and her child to take care of . You are a great person and a gift to them both im very proud of you and im sure somehow you will get help with the expences remember that if god brings you to it he will bring you through it. Im sure its really hard taking care of a handicaped child i worked at a school and did that i loved it every child is a gift from god well hope this helps a little good luck and hope you have a great day |
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