Messages By: sandiet2

Hi   

i am new here but was reading some the messages in the depression and was wondering if there are people that are on effexor today who are having withdrawl problems, and if u are feeling more disconnected from the world and ur family then u would if u were without the medication???  

Strange, i told my dr. almost from the beginning that i did not like this drug.  He asked if i would just give it time. So, I did, after all he is the Dr.  I still do not like it and when i was on the full dosage i had suicidal thoughts so i cut the dosage back.  Now I am just a flat line of fun. But the thing that has me even more worried or concerned is that when i miss a day or two i feel so awful.    

I looked up the effexor petition but there is no date on it so i thought i would check with the people here.  

sandiet2  

Go figure, i finally made the decision to go off  my meds, did so, joined a gym started eating right and the only person in my house that is even remotely happy about it is myself. 

Before, we panic I went off my meds slowly and discussed it with Dr.  I'm not sorry that I did because I do feel better.  The puffy body is gone.  Going to the gym and eating better has helped greatly.

On the other hand my family seems to be very upset that I no longer take medication.  I am no longer in the world of "Don't care do what you want" and I truly believe that is a big part of the problem.  I know that this is not an easy thing for anyone to go through.  The changes on medication and then not taking it.

I was on medication for over 12 years and I just didn't like what it was doing, I wasn't happy.  But I was also in a state of numbness where nothing mattered and I think my family liked me there.  On the medication I couldn't feel sadness, rejection and if I was I didn't care, and right now feeling like that sure sounds good compared to how I feel now.

I'm not depressed, I'm more hurt.  The reaction from my house hold has been very disappointing and I don't know what to do.

Sandie

Here's one for you, what do you do with a man you have spent the last 22 years of your life with, gave him your heart and soul to and he turns around and says that your chronic depression is all in your head?

This is a believe I knew that he had when we first found out but over the years i thought he had finally come around to believing that it was real.

Watching I think it was 60 mins.  about the electrode surgery that they do now on area 25 of the brain my heart went out to those who tried the surgery.  For those that it helped congrats for those of us that fear that kind of dramatic thing i hurt.  But, a comment was made and it became clear that my husband still thinks that it is all in my head and doesn't exist.

Now what do i do???

Don't give up.  It is going to be an uphill battle for you and your wife.  But especially for her.  Unfortunately, you are going to have to wait until she decides what she wants.  Don't let her push you or the children out the Dr. is right.  Some how some way the love that she felt for all of you will come back.  I know because I fought to come back first for my children, then my husband (and he thinks its all in my head) and now I m doing it for me.  I know that Dr. Phil is going to say i did it backwards and should of done it for me first but i say do what ever works.

hang in there, remember this God never gives us more then we can handle.