Messages By: cynkcor

The ONLY exception to a man being responsible for the support of a child would be... IF he could prove that he used a condom and his sperm was 'harvested' and then artificially inseminated into the woman.  DNA, of course, would prove it was his child.  He'd have a devil of a time proving he had used protection.  And any woman involved in that kind of plot is of the lowest life form~  maybe a half step below this slug who played but doesn't want to pay for his own child.  What a creep! 

Grandma who is continually be disappointed in mankind 

I'd be in favor of your suggestion... and there already is one up and running or about to be.  Sure, the guys should have their chance to out gals who behave badly.  Besides, some of the slower females might be able to pick up some new tricks from the website.

You know, it all boils down to one thing... the Golden Rule:  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Unfortunately, in my experience (and I'm 64) it does NOT always work out fairly.  Many a loyal, faithful wife has had a cheating husband.  Saw it too many times.  The men would counter with 'But, Baby, I love you.  She didn't mean anything.  I was bored.... you were pregnant.'  How would a man like it if we said, 'Hey, man, you got a beer belly.  I don't find you attractive any more!' 

Male or female, if there are lying cheaters out there of either sex I think they should be outed.  There are too many major diseases out there these days.  People need to be smart.  It's a sad thing that you really can't trust anyone these days.  Without trust, how can you love???  I don't believe you can.  Very sad.

Get out!  Every day he is robbing you of something precious... time and energy and self-respect.  Hate to say it but if I didn't know better I'd say you married my ex who turned into a blithering fool in his 50's... shaved his body, took viagra, had a vasectomy, dyed his hair, started wearing a  pimp ring, changed his complete dressing style...  He was shameful.  Twenty-five years down the tube... I cannot tell you how I regret the wasted time.

LEAVE as a favor to yourself and don't look back.

Too late now, but never a good thing to be your own son's 'best friend.'  Would be awfully easy for the new bride to become jealous ... and it is written that 'they two shall become one.'  And you did say, 'I love my son....'  You didn't say without thinking that I love my son and  his wife.  I think you have said more than you realized and have offended them somehow.  Also I don't think you are taking into account that there is a new life, they have friends, jobs, home to care for, other family.  Perhaps you don't sit back and let them set the pace for your relationship.  Perhaps they feel you are too demanding of their time (or of his time).  Best to be a soft place to land, answer their letters, if any, answer their calls, send an email or text message holiday greeting for all of the holidays.  The fact that the bride's mother dropped you like a hot potato makes me think that (since she should be empathetic) you have said or done something, perhaps unknowingly... 

BTW, what would possess you to call the police?????  Whoa! Lady, that's bordering on nuts!

Dear Dr. Phil:

You are 100% wrong when you think that the military does not cover up abuse.  In 1980 I worked in Psych./Neur Clinic at Womack Army Hospital. I know FOR A FACT that there was a biological father raping his 6-year-old daughter.  I remember her to this day.  Skinny, itty bitty, scared looking kid and the father was like a monster he was so enormous.  Probably close to 6'5" and huge in body... possibily 280.  The mother did report it, they were seen in the clinic because of it, but because there is a rule about treating civilians (wive and child) in the Psych Clinic for more than a couple of times they were referred to Social Work Services. NO CRIMINAL CHARGES WERE MADE AGAINST THE FATHER!  The mother remained with him due to him being 'the meal ticket.'

I know of other reported cases, but this one I absolutely, positively, without a doubt have first hand written knowledge of.

I can also tell you that my first husband shot me, didn't miss but barely grazed my scalp (only because his aim was off because he was drunk) and NO CHARGES WERE MADE AGAINST HIM!  This happened on post, in government housing and yes it was reported (the bullet went across my scalp and through the wall into the other half of the duplex!

I couldn't begin to tell you of the number of physically abused wives and children whose abusers are protected by the military.  Stop and think about it, these men are macho, trained to kill... in a way, I suppose, the military thinks they are only doing what they were trained to do.  Sick, but true.