Messages By: intresting

i am hear broken. i was the child with a step parent. i HATED my step father. i had a very unhappy childhood due to this. that poor girl has had to deal with so much, her mothers state, her own injury, her parents no longer being together, and now someone trying to be her mother. this girl needs some one more understanding then the women her father has chosen. she needs to be huged and showed she is loved and will always be loved. she does not need to be hated. that little girl needs to be with her dad in a happier place. i am a mother to 2 very very very great bots, they are to young right now to understand there own feelings and to really hate someone but i cant imagen ever having to even think who i would choise. it would be them all the way. i love my husband but my kids will always be worth any lose i have to come across. 

you chose to have kids they  didnt chose you  

i agee with him. he should have a right to chose just as we woman do. you can not FORCE parenthood on someone that dont want to bo one. it wont be affective. lets just say he is forced to parent this child and he complies.heres what would likely happen, hed miss visits, hed make  promises and break them, hed not be a wonderfull role modle to this child, and he certinly wouldent give the the kid the love and attention would need and it would only husr the child more then it would need to be. now as a mother thats not with the father of my babys, i offered the opption to them, it was either all or nothing. i want to protect me kids the best i can and if that mean accepting that the father  does not want to be presant in there life then fine. i didn't have to chose to keep them but i did and i cant force that on the father. my boys are now very happy and health, i do NOT recive support because i dont want it, remember woman, we fought for years to have the right to our own decisions and our own lives, now we need to do that.