Messages By: soni_g

I've had too many dealings with these people who are "saved".  God is one of the most dangerous weapons we have these days.  One is not "saved again".  This is man's comment, not God's.  God is a weapon and an excuse.  If I were her, I would run the other direction.  These "born agains" can get really violent, and then claim God said.  He is deranged.  Run, girl, run!

She is too young to take this path, and I'm learning where it can go.  A young woman very close to my family was very troubled.  She spent her life running from a mother who just wasn't a mother.   My family tried to help her, but she was too far gone and too scared, and she would bolt.  She just ran around the country, never staying in one place very long.  She lost everything, including her children.

Last month, her body was found in a seedy motel room in a small town.  The homicide may never be solved, and this young woman died before she ever had a chance to live.

It can happen, and Alex needs to take the help now, before she ends up another body in another seedy motel room, the victim of a senseless crime by a nameless criminal. 

Personally, I led a troubled life and it wasn't until I had the abusers out of my life that I could get a grip on my life.  Alex, take whatever help is given; you can't get any better than that being offered to you right now.  Don't blow it!  Give yourself a chance to grow up and learn that life can be a fantastic experience.  Do whatever it takes to make this positive change happen.  Do it today, or you may not be around tomorrow to try again.

By the time I married at 18, my mother and I had a disturbingly wide gap in our relationship.  I knew I was marrying for the wrong reasons, but it was an escape.  My family was, of course, invited to the wedding.  Mother, however, not only chose not to attend; she bought off three ministers and the church was cancelled two days before the wedding.

We finally found a minister and a church.  Mother had contacted everyone to tell them that I was marrying a jerk and, if they had any respect for her, they would not attend the wedding.  What happened after that is too long to go into but, suffice to say, it was a disaster!  On my side, my best friend and her parents attended - THAT WAS IT!!!!  Even my siblings didn't show!  In fact, one of my siblings ended up going to someone else's wedding on the same day.  She didn't want to go against mother.  The church, however,  was packed with his relatives.

Mother never changed and, though our marriage was doomed from the start, it wasn't helped by her meddling, insults and downright meanness.  The marriage was a disaster, and lasted only a few years.  The divorce was less than amicable.  My ex and my mom played each other off me, using our child as a ping pong ball.  Mother had wanted the divorce, but when we got the divorce, she was angry that we did this since we had a child.  There was no winning.  Life was Hell for years!

Now jump forward a few decades.  I've been happily divorced for all those years, and am now content.  My family is gone, mother having been the last to depart.   The relationship never improved, neither did my life.  It's improved since her passing, but I've also had a lot of time to think.

I wish wisdom would have come years earlier.  There's not a day goes by that I don't miss all of my family, including mother.  I find it easier to see things from her point of view.  She was truly ill, and I've gathered wisdom I wish could have come to me years ago.

Bottom line is that none of it was worth it.  Do I wish I could have had a "normal" wedding?  Yup.  You have a chance to do that.  After these folks watch that tape, they should ask themselves one question:  "If my life were to end today, would I wish I would have done this differently?"  You have a chance to do it.  Family is worth the work.  They won't always be there, and you will always wish your memories were better.  You have obstacles right now.   Work past them, work through them, learn from them and carry that lesson with you for the rest of your life.  Someday you will be parents, and you need to think of how you would feel if the situation were reversed. 

God bless all of you, and I hope you can work it out.  Family is special!  Never forget that!

I've really been trying so hard not to say anything for the longest time, but I can't help myself this time.

Al is in such total denial.  The hypocrisy displayed by this admitted pedophile is an example of why so many have turned from organized Christianity.  I was dumbfounded watching him applaud with the audience as comments were made such as "you belong behind bars" or "you're a liar".  He smirked through the entire process as though he felt this was simply a collossal joke! 

My heart goes out to all who have been harmed by this delusional man, and know that Dr. Phil will get help to bring them out of this dark time.   Sheri-Lynn's brother should think twice about having his children around these parents again.    After all, if Al has done this to his own family, he certainly wouldn't hesitate to do it to children outside his family.  God forbid he should actually be left alone with young men at a Bible Camp!!!

As much as this beautiful young woman and her son, and I'm sure her new husband, need help to get through this, Al needs to be investigated and put away where he can't hurt any other children.  His wife?  One can only hope that she finally makes the right decision.  Security with a pedophile is not security, and certainly not when the victims are family!