Messages By: whistle

As a young victim who is now a grown women with grand daughters, I had a hard time sitting still as I watched the show.  Listening to the perp talk about how he got his victims to submit reminded me of how I felt as a youngster.  Without a father, looking for acceptance from a male in my life, I was a perfect target.  I see every day why having a father in a young girl's life is so important.  But what to do when the father IS the perp?  I often watch interaction between adults and children, almost like a watch dog, and will often have very uncomfortable feelings about such activities.  I have wondered if my past has tainted my ability to see what's good in life, but now I see that you must be on guard 24/7.  Trying to go forward and not be too paranoid is really not an option here.  It only takes one time to really screw up a kid for life. 

I have heard that Dr. Phil's sidekick, Dr. Frank Lawlis, is going to marry a woman who has MS.  In fact this woman is so smart and so active she would put most people to shame.  Her name is Dr. Susan Franks.  If you are interested, Google her and see what kind of life she lives.  I only wish I could say I have lived a life that full.  Apparenty her diagnosis was not the end of her world.  She works hard to take care of herself and lives everyday with joy and anticipation. 

WHY is this taking so long???

After watching the show today, I watched Oprah and saw kids being parents to their siblings....struggling to survive.  Kind of makes me mad that there is such a wide divide between the haves and the have nots.  I was expected to get out and get a job when I graduated from high school.  My Dad helped me go to college, but I worked also.  Your parents only own you so much help in life and then it's time to hit the road running.  Husbands who want to run the finances need a good lesson in running a household.  It's not as easy as some might think.  When you live from paycheck to paycheck and something unexpected comes up, you need to be on the same page, not second guessing one another.  One can make the financial decisions, but both need to have input. 

Robin answered a question for me today that I have wanted to ask for a long time.  The affect that childhood experiences have on the child and the adult.  I wondered if it was a bad thing to have fears/concerns about things that happened when I was a child...things that still haunt me.  Nothing earth shattering, but still the feeling is there regarding situations that we carry with us into adulthood.  I'm just glad to know that it's okay to have those feelings.  I conduct my life according to some of these concerns and now I know I am not the only one and it's okay. 

 

BTW, I read something about Dr. Lawlis that threw me.  As a dyslexic adult who struggled my whole life with the problems caused by dyslexia, I was stunned to read his story regarding his childhood and how intervention by his father helped him become the man he is today.  Dyslexia is exhausting....you do everything over and over trying to make sure there is no mistake.