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 We have ALL the choices, and that is fundamentally unfair.  Interestingly, Dr. Phil told the next couple (where the husband wanted a 5th child and the wife did not) that a decision like this takes 2 yesses and one "no" to cancel the idea.  I bet a lot of you were applauding that too.  Think it through...the reason for Roe v. Wade was that a woman could not be FORCED to have a child. Why is it different for men?  Do you all want a monthly check, or a partner in raising a happy, well adjusted child?

Dr. Phil, you need to be more fair.  Consider your own fundamental contradiction on this issue.  I will tell you that I am 44, the mother of 3 beautiful healthy kids and married for 18 years to their father.  I remain enormously conflicted about the issue of abortion, and the only thing that stops me from being 100% pro-life is my experience as a mother.  You cannot force anyone, male or female, to be a parent and expect good results.  Just my two cents, but I wish my fellow females would let go of some of the bitterness and resentment I'm reading here long enough to see the unfairness of forcing men to pay for 21 years because one half of the relationship made a decision in which he has ABSOLUTELY no say, legally ,for what was a momentary lapse in judgement or so called failure of birth control.  Same thing could have happened if she "forgot" her pill or the condom failed.  Not to mention the obvious fact that the girls can keep their legs closed too.  It is morally and ethically an unsustainable argument to say the mom gets all the power...not to mention the complete absence of logic and fairness.