Messages By: hunterb53

Quote From: hunterb53  

It all starts with the "sperm donation using the pill" or the previous mentioned & "sperm-doggie-bag AKA: CONDOM".  My first 2 babies I got pregnant while on the "pill" and YES I took that pill religiously, and we were married!!  Doesn't mean we love them any less it just means we 'didn't want them any less.  IF YOU DON'T WANT IT, USE A CONDOM TOO!!  I shared this with my boys just to make the point that NEVER, NEVER means NEVER!! hehehe.  OK boys, if you don't want the babies, don't make the donation either.  There are plenty of 'soldiers' donated to oblivion that doesn't mean each one of them is an abandoned child.  There are also thousands of eggs who are off in the wilderness unfertilized that do not equal a lost baby either.  Oh my, maybe there should be committed relationships before we start doing the copulating!!   

MY point is: If he said he didn't want to have Children, then he could have backed his words up with some action, by using a condom, or anything proactive.  Obviously this relationship wasn't solid if she had to lie to him, and she couldn't count on his word because he wasn't backing up his words with some action.  (Sorry for the little pun there.)  Actions speak louder than words, and I respect a man more if he backs up his words with a bit of action, not just laying it all in my lap.  Any conception takes TWO!! There is a contribution from both parties, or there is NO contribution from both parties, resulting in entirely two different outcomes.   If she can't count on his word then she deceived him by taking it all on herself.  It really needs to be proactive on both sides.    

This  whining about, "I just don't like the feel of the condom"!!  is just being lazy and not very creative.  The rule SHOULD BE: proactive on both sides, then every body is  getting what they want(or don't want!)  

I made sure that my sons all were very clear to know that they HAVE a choice, you reap what you sow, to use one phrase!! The other is :  there are other ways to find out if a girl is telling you the truth, and a child's life is not the consequence of "choice". When you are old enough to use it, show serious responsibility!!!!!   Do not give the "steering wheel" of your life over to some one without a license to be in control of it, if you give your girlfriend your car & she smashes it up, THAT is an accident.  If you give her permission  to do what she wants with your 'donation', then that is just bad judgment on your part.  AND ONE HELL OF a LESSON.    NOW do I get the point?    

I enjoy your posts, and want to make sure I got my 2 cents in correctly, or at least understood, maybe not agreed with but understood.   :) 

PS: BTW:  No way, No how!! a good roll in the hay,  is a participation event, it always is much better having company,  There would be NO snoozing on my part.     

Thanx for your comment, 

Hunter  

      Kaylee is very blessed to have the entire community keeping an eye on her. 

First of all, Gramma needs to get out of the picture. 

Second of all Mom needs to get over her bitterness, and take a parenting class.  (Poor Kaylee is SO manipulated by her it is stunning.) 

      Kaylee's dad isn't too bright, but it obviously isn't a 'requirement' to be a parent.  Kaylee's stepmom is suspect, "It is the quiet ones to watch out for."  She also has to step out of Kaylee's life!! 

      So now we have a Mom & Dad who aren't worth a bucket of nails in the intelligent department between them, but Dr.Phil will make up for that with Kaylee first on the list!!

      We have low priority in our country for the 'marriage' contract, let's take the priorty of parenting to the TOP of the list instead, and make a better future for our children.

I know the girls are older, but MOM you need to get a grip!! I am seriously frustrated with every mother using the ". . .well I was a single mother!" excuse.  COME off it!! There are thousands of kids who have survived despite their divorced, dead, missing, dead-beat and PRESENT parents.  But MOM you are present, and discipline with a bit of open eyes would have helped.  Every time Dr. Phil was trying to say something to Mom she was responding over him, which means she didn't have her listening ears on!!   She was defending her 'position', instead of saying, " What can I do?, where do I start?, I will support these girls doing whatever it takes.!!". 

The first thing we should admit to ourselves is that we "know" nothing, but we are willing to find the answer, whatever it takes.  Go get 'em Mom, now that Dr.Phil has you in the house with the girls, you can catch up on some dearly needed time together .  God Bless.

My comments comes from experience(growing up & surviving abuse of all sorts doesn't go away).  Mom isn't listening to Kaylee, but Mom sure is getting serious amount of gratuitous attention because of this.  If G'Ma would let Kaylee and her Mom get on with it, so they can get the help they need, positive progress will happen.  Let G'ma get her own counseling.  Let Mom & Dad get Kaylee help.  I believe there are big problems with Dad, and Mom individually, just watching their faces, and body language, there are issues.  But I did end my comment with the fact that Dr.Phil is on it now and it doesn't matter what anyone's IQ is, (There are Catholic Priests hiding under those positions) at least Dr. Phil will get KAYLEE back to number one, which is where every child should be. 

      (Each Parent should be parent to their own child.  Then with the addition of grandchildren, their roles should change to g'ma so the child will have that soft place to fall.  G'ma can still be Mom to her own child, and support them, but having a gramma is better than having two woman who are pulling a child between them. )

The audience knew!!  The teacher who makes a mistake in her growing up learns a lesson through the mistake that all of those 'perfect' teachers will never know.  I hope she gets her job

back! ! !  We all can learn from those teachers 'throwing' stones who live in glass houses that we don't need to judge other people, it is very closed minded, and a bad example to their students. 

I also hope the teacher who got harrassed on MySpace will lighten up a bit, and get the kids to  be given age-appropriate consequences , and not the parents.  I see Dr.Phil's point about the injunction etc.  Money doesn't cure all. 

Those teachers including the 'holier' than thou dad of 4 boys, needs to get off his self proclaimed 'soap box' of judge & jury, hoping that his past never comes back to haunt him!! 

(. . . thanx for hearing my little message that too much preaching turns the ears off!!)

          Aunt Enza may have reported, but she is certainly a good portion of this problem.  It will be interesting to see if she is 86'd.  If I was Mom Kim, Aunt Enza would have been gone !!  Somebody get the point, and pay attention to Daughter Alex!! Alex is poisoned by Enza and I see breakdown happening. (If it was me, I'd be looking for love in all the wrong places too!!).  Stay tough and hang with Mom darlin', it is painfully obvious that Mom sees her mistakes, and wants Dr. Phil's help for the both of you.

Miss 'Manipulating Enza' has got to get off the 'high & mighty' soap-box, it's a nasty fall.