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March 16, 2006, 4:27 pm PST

Where's the remorse?

I was so upset today while I was watching the show.  I could NOT believe that Brandi's parents were so cruel and heartless.  If felt horrible for Daniel's family.  I have two sons and could not imagine even living if I lost one of them.  And to have those people up on stage trying to make her feel like they have it worse then them because they're daughter is in jail!?!?  Are you kidding me?   To even compare what they are going through compared to Daniel's family is ridiculous.  Brandi is still alive.  They can still talk to her, still see her, still see her get married and have children.  Daniel's family will never have any of that.  And is there any proof of the abuse and the threats from Daniel?  After her driving the whole way home, putting the tree limb in the windshield and making up a lie to tell her parents while she just left Daniel there to die, I don't think I'd believe too much of anything she said.   

  

Maybe if Brandi's parents would be a little more understanding about what Daniel's family is going through instead of insisting that their daughter being in jail is worse than their son being dead, things would be a lot easier on everyone. 
 
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March 16, 2006, 6:06 pm PST

How do you know...

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Sorry don't agree. We know that he threatened to kill her and her brother and himself too. Maybe there could be three dead instead of one. It was not intentional on her part but a act of stupidity on his part and he paid the ultimate price.
How do we know that actually happened?  Is there any proof that he threatened her and was abusive?  She already lied to her parents and tried to cover up what happened that night - who's to say she's not also lying about that.
 
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March 16, 2006, 7:34 pm PST

i agree

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Dr. Phil if you must continue to help this family please don't do it on the show.  I LOVE and want to see your loving concern and efforts to help people. It makes my day.  You have a gift.   It brings back the belief that there are people out THERE  who care about others.  You enforce that daily with your show. But as I watched your show before no matter how senseless or selfish or mean someone was I appreciated you tackling their problem.  Even with the other families you had on, BUT I truly believe it would be helpful, to the public if you would not show Ms. Bridgette and her family any further.  I won't tell you my life, I am a senior and it is nearing the end and I find I am like a lot of people, with few periods of Joy and many of Depression.  TV is a great distraction and uplift sometimes.  So much time spent on people like (on TV) Bridgette, is time that could be spent on people like the survivors of Katrina (I remember you were down there) or with special problems or funny situations, or even everyday stuff where someone needs a "Dr. Phil talking to".  Bridgette reminds me of all the ugliness and time wasted with selfish destructive people.  You generally concentrate on the damage done to the children.  Help the children.  Bridgette has spent YEARS feeling sorry for herself, over WHAT?  She had a problem of a husband that is a workaholic.  So have millions of others BUT they don't destroy their children and endanger thousand of patients her husband has to treat under stress, because of her selfishness and lying.  Please take her off.  Every time I see her I get an awful sinking feeling of despair.  Please take her off.  As Clint East-wood said "Make my day!"  She is a real downer........!  Thank you.   Best to you and beautiful Robin.
I think Bridgette is spoiled and just wants to do whatever she wants and Michael just keep his mouth shut.  What the heck is she complaining about?  She lives in a beautiful house, drives luxury cars, spends tons of money...and doesn't have to work.  What else do you want?  If I were her husband I would have walked a long time ago.  She has no idea what she has.  You have to give 100% of yourself in a marriage and she isn't giving anything.  It seems like all she does is take...and when she is expected to give (even if it's just give respect) then that's too much and everyone should feel bad for her.  I don't!!!!
 
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March 16, 2006, 7:39 pm PST

AMEN

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I tell you what, PollyAnna, you lose a child, you have the parents of your child's murderer taunt you and tell you that you were a horrible parent, you have this girl say horrible things about your son who can no longer defend himself, and then you come back and talk about forgiveness.
Absolutely right....couldn't have said it better myself.
 
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March 17, 2006, 7:10 am PST

Alysia, PLEASE READ

I am watching the show and it's like seeing myself sitting up there 12 years ago.  I was SOOO in love with this guy that was 10 years older than me.  He was involved in drugs and was in jail.  I still stood by him and didn't beleive when people told me he was cheating on me because "he would never do that to me".  I NEVER in my life thought he would hurt me - and after about a year of being together he started with the emotional and physical abuse.  It started with little things that I could just dismiss and then turned to hitting.   

  

It took me getting pregnant to him to realize I needed to get away.  My son is now 10 years old and he tells me all the time he's glad I didn't marry his dad.  He tells me he doesn't want to go down and see him anymore, but the courts say he has to.  It kills me to have to send my son to see him when I know he's afraid of him.   

  

PLEASE don't let this happen to you.  I know how you feel about Jamie - I felt the same way.  People tried to tell me and I didn't listen.  Now my son is the one who is paying the price for my mistakes. 

  
 
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March 20, 2006, 7:42 am PST

Grow up!!

Mindy SERIOUSLY needs to grow up.  I'm 31 - got married when I was 22.  I stay at home, take care of my house and kids and my husband.  Party time is OVER lady!!!!  You have responsibilities now.  If you don't care about your husband enough to stop what you're doing, care enough about your children!!!
 
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March 20, 2006, 8:10 am PST

Alternatives

If you need to go out with your friends and get away from the kids and home life, go shopping or out to eat or something.  If you are a married woman, you should not be going out to bars till all hours of the night without your husband.  There are a lot more things to do than going out and getting drunk.  It's also funny that her friend told the story one way, and then after she heard what Mindy said happened, the friend's story changed. 
 
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March 20, 2006, 9:15 am PST

Agree with you...

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My husband has a good friend whose 5 year old son is really bad.  When this child comes to  my home he lets himself in and out of the house. Runs through every room in the house, including the bedrooms, pulls out all of our dvds, goes through all our cabinets and opens our refridgerator and freezer. Then he goes as far as to scream in my face "gimme icecream" or whatever else he wants from out of the kitchen. I've had to ask him myself not to hang on our refridgerator door or climb on top of our couches.  his mother calmly asks him to come and sit next to her, mind you he doesnt listen. So then his mother asks his father to step in and say something. Father's response is "What do you want me to say?" Fired up from the events occuring around me I blurt out, " tell him to behave and not to get into other peoples things!" After saying that I realize that I probly should have saved that comment for a private disscusion without the child around, then i look up at my husband who is piercing me with his eyeballs and figure I'm really gonna hear it over this one! Which I did, my husband said it's not my place to tell him how to raise his child and that kids will be kids, so just keep my mouth shut! I later appologized. Weeks have passed and yesterday my husbands friend returned with his family.  As soon as the boy walked into the house he jetted through the livingroom towards our computer but his mother stopped him this time. Minutes later he went up to our dvd stand which on top had a glass hurricane with a lit candle in the inside.  As he started shuffling through the dvds I seemed to be the only one aware of what was going on and in a panic I said "Hey dont do that, you might knock it over,  Its my fault for putting the candle up there,  just play with that!" Silence once again, they eventually leave and guess who is in trouble again!  This time my husband says I'm a rude person and he's just a kid. I dont think it gives him the right to tear through my house!! I would never allow my children to act in such a way. Is it me, do I deserve to be called rude????
You are not rude - his parents are rude for allowing him to behave that way.  And I don't feel that you had anything to apologize for.  My husband has a friend and he and his wife have a 4 year old that acts the same way.  He is rude and disrespectful.  When he doesn't get his way, he starts crying and his mom gives in to him every time.  This kid is a nightmare.  My husband and I have both just started telling them they can't let him behave that way.  He is also VERY disrespectul to his own mother.  He hits her, yells at her, screams in her face....she does nothing.  If these kids are this young and they're this difficult to deal with, imagine how hard it will be in a few years.  If they're not taught respect at home, where are they supposed to learn it.   I have 2 kids that were disciplined - I know what I'm talking about.  And it's not the kid's fault - it's the parents fault.  I think parents should be made aware of how their behavior and their children's behavior is affecting the people around them.  I don't think your husband was right for telling you those things.  I completely agree with you.
 
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March 20, 2006, 11:02 am PST

03/20 "I'm a Slave to My Spouse"

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I don't believe that just because you are married you shouldn't go to a bar without your husband.  Especially if your husband doesn't like the bar scene.  Now granted I believe some of this woman's bahavior is irresponsible.  I don't believe that your only break should be something like going shopping or out to eat.   These activities can be extremely boring and mundane.  So if she wants to go to a bar that's fine, IMO.  She should just do it responsibly and come in at a respectable hour.   

If it's something you can do in moderation and it's OK with you and your spouse, then that's one thing.  This woman is going about it the wrong way.  If the tables were turned, would she put up with him going out and getting drunk with his friends and not coming home all night?  I highly doubt it.
 
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March 20, 2006, 2:19 pm PST

03/20 "I'm a Slave to My Spouse"

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I 'm asking myself why hasn't she be turned in? Leaving a 16 teen year old all night with the kids while she is out doing who know's what I bet it's more than flashing her chest!!!!
Not to mention that fact that she admited that she was snorting cocaine while her young children were in the other room...
 
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