Quote From: crazychocoI am new her folks, so please bear with me, thanks. Our daughter will be 18 in September. She has been exclusively dating John since October of 2005. He is a nice boy. We approve of this relationship. They both go to the same school, although John has failed a few times throughout his school years which unfortunatly leaves him in the 9th grade. Gina will be a Senior in 05-06. John has found out that if he goes to a different school that he will be able to jump grades, thus allowing him to be able graduate at 18 instead of 20!! They do not offer this at his school here, so he wants to go to another school (15) minutes away where they do this program.John lives with his dad, now he wants to live with mom and her boyfriend in another district which means he could attend that school. Gina wants to go live with John and his mom and her boyfriend and his sister in this other District. But because she will be a Senior, she can go to the school of her choice because she drives. She has chosen to stay in her present school and drive 15 minutes back and forth, meaning bad winter conditions since we live in the country. I expresses my concern, i was very sad. Gina has never been a problem, she is a good girl, she does well in school, and she and i have always gotten along real well. I can't even remember the last time she was disiplined, as she basically doesn't need it. Her argument is that she will be 18 in September and can move out if she wants. She is correct, i can not stop her should she decide to do this. We carry the insurance on her car, and she expects us to keep it up, she pays $40.00 a week towards it, as it is in our name. She also pays $8.00 per week for her cell phone, which is also in our name, which she expects to keep. That is not the point though, just an additional issue. I am so sad that she would want to do this. I suggested that she finish her schooling here with us, make visits to her boyfriend like she does now, then if all is well next year, think about moving then. I really need some advice, she is the sweetest kid and i never in a million years saw this one coming. My husband is beside himself and can't really talk about it without getting upset. It's only 4 months away. Please help.
firstly i would like to let you know that I am 15, so that you know this advice is not coming from an adult.
I think that it is a bad idea for her to move out. You can not stop her, however, if she moves out, then you should not be responsible for any portion of any of her bills. I think that you should not pay for any of her insurance or her cell phone if she moves out. You are paying for those things, or maybe just having them in your name, because you are a good parent, and if you aren't good enough for her to stay, that she should move out and live with her bf, then you should not be paying those bills, or have the responsability of having them inyour name. As she said, she wll be 18, and when she turns 18, she can be responsible for her own bills.
JW, but, how is she going to support herself when she moves to her bf's house? That may be something that you would want to bring up for her to consider, to keep her from ending up coming, crying back home.
Not to mention that if she wants to live with her bf, then she should just marry him.
When my brother wanted something after he turned 18, my parents always told him about something that they were doing for him all of the time, and threatened to take it away from him if he did what they didn't want him to do.
