Never mind.
I have been away from this site a lot for a reason and you did help me remember why that is. So I thank you for that. I do not see nor receive real support happening here, anymore... again. If the forum helps others, so be it. It certainly does not help me.
I have to be true & honest with myself & my motives behind why I would want to continue to visit this forum. And arguing with people about how this stuff is real (SA) and how this is a harmful thing (porn) and not just simply a diversion, takes far more energy than I should allow it to. I thought the point behind the forum was an obvious one. I suppose I was wrong. Or it has changed & the the site just hasn't realized & adjusted the forum explanation, yet.
And, when people don't want to hear the truth about things, there's nothing a person can do but accept that. Convincing others that their pain is real & that they're right in their belief that it is wrong to seek out porn (especially while in a relationship) is not my battle. Seems like an obvious thing to me especially when one considers the point of this forum stated above. But nonetheless...
This forum was made for those who needed support dealing with such a thing. I have no room in my heart or life for people who will cause me or ask me to question what I now know -- there is nothing good about porn, period. It's just not healthy to engage in this argument when I already know the truth.
So, thank you. I have an awesome support system, now. And an awesome group I belong to who gets the truth about porn. None of them, addicts & SOs, need to be convinced. They're just working their recoveries. It's not a "new thing" to them. Just the truth. And why should I feel the need to "rescue the world" or even just to enlighten those who truly are ignorant ,here, when I have enough on my plate right now. Certainly visiting this site & speaking the truth about how porn does & will destroy marriages, lives & souls can be done. But not by me anymore. Seems silly to have to do that here, anyway. But hey... so be it. If the site chooses to let the forum go a different direction, so be it. Just ain't my cup o' tea, anymore.
So...
My marriage is well, now. We have tons of work to do still. But therapy & recovery is working for us both & we are doing, now, not just talking.
Best of luck to you all!
Sincerely.
