Messages By: beckyleigh

Quote From: vlinderby

I know im not much help, i once used to wonder the same thing. I had to go all the way to England to meet my special man. I have to tell you also that it was worth every bit. Him and I met on a website and it has been pure heaven ever since. So unless you choose to try online dating im afraid I cant be of much help with the ideas. Good luck and take care.

Quote From: tm81571

hey ladies i need some help on this please!  

 well i was a a store the other day and a female came up to me and started talking to me since i seen her in another place one day. now everytime i go in there she talks to me and i think she is flirting with me because she told me her age and that she does has one kids. i think this lady is interresting and i do want to ask her out but i dont want to make a fool of myself. well ladies if you have a opinion about this please do thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Quote From: mamaof3kid

I am 22 years old with 3 kids. My fiancee decided to tell me that for the past 6 weeks he has been sleeping with my best friend and fell in love with her. He told me and my whole family that he was going to go out of town for work, but as you can tell that is not what happened. The whole time he was gone he told me he loved me and that he was going to come home soon. He told our kids that he was comng home. He promised my 3 year old that he was coming home, but kept breaking it. He would send me text messages saying he loved me and missed me and could not wait to come home to us. All this stuff that made me think things were ok between us. Then I started to have a feeling that something was going on and I asked them and they both lied to me saying that nothing was going on and to stop blaming them. He kept getting mad at me saying for me to stop being so paranoid and that he only loved me and only wanted me. Well I was right the whole time. I told him I am willing to forgive him and get past this, but he said he doesn't know if he wants to. He told me he is tired of being treated bad and being bad mouthed by me and I told him it will all stop the only reason it all happened was from all the stuff he was saying to his friends, but he doesn't believe me. He took in my oldest daughter as his own which is 3 years old and that is the only dad she knows and she keeps asking me when her daddy is coming home. When I tell her he isn't then she says that he loves her and misses her and will come back. He is giving me no hope right now. I gave him everything and I am willing to work things out because I love him that much. It just seems like he doesn't care about my feelings or our kids. He is more worried about not hurting her. I don't know what to do. I keep asking him if there is hope for us and he keeps saying he doesn't know. If I want to I can still wear my engagment ring if I want to or flush it for all he cares. I told him that something inside of me keeps telling me to not give up every time I pray for it. So I have no clue what to do at all. when he called me today he was actually really nice to me and sounded concerned.

Quote From: heartbroken2

Embarrass him?  He should of thought of that before his actions.  I call it "owing up to it".  when my hubby says, "I feel bad enough as it is", I say " you owe it, you did this, accept responsibility for it".   That is what he would tell the kids.

You build a beautiful home, it gets completed you feel peaceful and a sense of pride when you move in it...............   You betray people who love you, they find out, they act out emotionally or physically.  You own it, the good or bad.  You bought the dam farm no matter what farm you bought.

I hear you about bringing the other woman to bed with you.  I did that for about a year, would imagine them playing and rolling around together, laughing etc.  Made me want to puke.  I slowly learned to express to my hubby how I felt, and the need to feel that he was in bed with ME and only me.  He would get mad and say things like "of course I'm in bed with you, now you have ruined the feeling of the moment".  "ruined what I say?  My feelings are my feelings not facts, you bought the farm that gave me the insecurities, you should suck it up like a man, your expecting me to make love to you like there's not this image of someone else in our bed, then it's up to you to convince me there is only me and I'm not convinced.  If you want to trust him and move on, you will have to let go of the image, but your hubby has to do his part too.

Quote From: swchick

 
Hands off the married man.   It's natural that people of the opposite sex who are thrown together a lot and like each other, would find a spark,  and enjoy the drama of becoming attached to a new, exciting love.   It's an age-old cliche.  

I think you should stay married even if you are not happy.  Marriage is supposed to be a covenant for life unless it is broken through egregious behaviour.  Perhaps you want the adultery so it will give you an excuse to move on from your present domestic boredom.

Marital happiness comes in waves and there are always periods of dissatisfaction, and a warm relationship can usually be restored if you are married to a respectable person and put some effort into it.  You need to identify exactly what is lacking, why exactly you find yourself dissatisfied with your choice of mate.

Tell the married man that you were thrilled by his attentions, but that it's against your character to commit adultery.   If you have to get away from this man to control yourself,  then do it.  Get a new job and focus on the life YOU ALREADY MADE with someone else.

Quote From: lauralaschiava

I am in need of some advice and help.. I am going to therapy and I feel like I am living some one elses life, I never thought this would be mine..

 

I was in a relationship since 2000 with the same man, we had our issues, ex's kids.  I left him twice in that time frame and went back twice.  In early 2006 I left for the third time and two months later got married to someone I worked with.  He told me he had been waiting for my ex and I to brake up for the longest time but respected me not to interfer.  I moved out and within one month, the new guy (my current husband)  moved in.  We married in april and I left him in october to go back to my ex.  It is now february 2007 and I left my husband to go to therapy to find out what I really want and who I am.  My husband is in texas and I am in arizona.  He now says he wan'ts to move here and get a job. 

 

I am living in one of  my ex's houses and am in contact with him on a daily basis.  He want's to get back together, I feel totally secure with him.  I don't feel secure with my husband.  He cannot take care of me financially or mentlally, we are not really the same intellictually. 

 

We worked together and he was my knight in shining armour..he called me a princess and tried to rescue me..I felt that I truly loved him and know now that I was trying to resuce him..

 

This story goes on.. I could use any advice or welcome comments good or bad.  thank you

 

 

Quote From: pjax69

You should be embarrassed....Apparently he doesnt love you anymore....Thats a part of life and you can't sue for that. She has no responsibility....She doesnt owe you anything