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I have a daughter who is twelve, she is probably 58 inches tall, and weighs 126.  My son is eight, he is 56 inches, and he weighs 121.  I am very careful about portion size, and they always get healthy snacks.  We don't even keep chips or candy in the house.  I think genetics is it.  I am only 5 ft. and I weigh 124, but I can only eat about 700 calories a day, or my weight will soar.  As long as children feel loved and accepted within their families, weight should not be an issue, unless it is a health problem. 

What is your weight status/height. I am 5"7 and weigh 135 lbs and have a daughter who is slightly overweight and a son who is as thin as a rail. It truely is genetic sometimes as well as emotional. Please give these people your support and don't be so critical!!! 

Excuse me when you say kids fight thats normal??  Is it normal for a 14 year old TEENAGER to choke a 3 YEAR OLD toddler?? 

I do not think so. 

My daughter is not just your average "hormonal teen" so before you go telling me that I should not have her on meds you should live my life. 

Is it normal for teenagers to cut themselves 40 times? Is it normal for 12-14 year old sto attempt suicide? Is it normal for a 14 year old to see a little boy and a little girl calling her name? Is it normal for a 14 year old to feel "someone" tapping her on the back while she is trying to sleep?
 

I know ALL the risks to medications and my daughter is now NOT attempting suicide. 

She was attempting suicide and self mutilating BEFORE she was put on meds. 

Believe me when I tell you meds was my last resort. Not everyone needs them but not everyone can function without them. 

Statistics can be valid, but they can also be manipulated to "prove" a point. I can relate to you--I was 19 and my husband was 23 when we married--over 30 years ago. Although it was the norm to marry in one's late teens through early twenties at that time, I still felt I had to defend my youthful age on occasion. After bringing up two children and experiencing both good and bad times (as everyone does), I strongly believe that the survival of any relationship is directly related to the commitment of all involved. I believe we can beat the statistical odds if we want to. Don't feel condemned because of your youth. You and your husband, especially if you seek God's guidance, can continue to carve out a great life. When hard or painful times come, having the support of trusted family, friends, and even professional counseling, can bring you through. Hang on to each other and your children. You can do it. I wish you the best!  

   I have been married 4 years and have a 4 year old boy.  my husband has always verbally abused me.  name-calling, shouting, fits of rage.   he is an alcoholic.  drinks around 15 beers a night.   i quit my job of 10 years in May of 2007  because i could not handle the stress of my home life and work and a child.  he has recently, in the last 6 weeks started physical abuse.  he has belly bumped me into a corner, hit me in the side of the head with his hand, and actually spit on me and my little boy .  he has told me if i ever call 911 that the police will have to scrape me up offf the floor when they get here.   his friend works for the police in our township so he always tells me he'll get out of it anyway.  i feel TRAPPED!  don't want to tell my parents.  they are older and are both going through alot of stress right now, as is my entire family because my niece is dying of bone cancer.  not sure what to do or when!

anita in ohio