Messages By: dissedvet

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Quote From: tiffertots

Now what if ...a women got pregnant by mistake, felt she was incapable of being a good mother and wanted to terminate the pregnancy.  The father on the other hand wanted the child.  Would it be fair for the court to not only force the mother to carry and deliver the child, but force her to pay support for the child after it was born....I smell a double standard!!

Quote From: commerce

i thank men make to much fuss when the girl they slept with has a baby if the guy would of put a comdom on then she wouldnt of had the baby and the fact a guy is trying to go to court to say it isnt his baby is just stupid i think if a guy wants to have sex and doesnt put a condom is stuipd

Quote From: errosmom

I think that Matt should relinquish his parental rights to baby Elizabeth. If he doesn't want to be a father then he should allow Lauren and Elizabeth all of the legal rights to move on with their lives. The child support issue belongs in the courts. Let Matt spend his daughter's childhood and a lot more money over the years than he will ever pay in child support on lawyers and court fees to stand up for what he believes in. More power to him. Nobody has to agree with him. He is the one who loses by not taking the opportunity to be Elizabeth's daddy.   

Lauren should just walk away with her daughter and not look back. She should let the courts handle her child support issues. Even better, if she doesn't really need the money, she shouldn't  take it or take it and put it into trust for Elizabeth so that when the time comes that this horrible situation has to be explained to her, it can at least be said that her father provided her with something (a bank account) because he had nothing else to give. If, due to financial circumstances, Lauren does need the money, she should document every penny to protect herself and again to explain it to Elizabeth someday.  I think it is very important that Lauren protect herself and her baby because the last thing that she wants is for Matt to have a change of heart ten years from now and want unsupervised visitation with Elizabeth, who won't even know him. By then, Lauren may have moved on with a man who loves and cherishs her and her daughter.   

Yes, the ideal is for children to grow up with a loving mother and father. The key word is LOVING.  Elizabeth can have a wonderful childhood with her mother who loves her. Let Matt go and do his own thing. I hope that every woman that he gets involved with watches a tape of this show before she shares herself with him. Where are Matt's parents in all of this?  If I was his mother, I would pay the $500 a month myself before I would ever lose contact with my own grandchild. The focus here seems to be about money. Money is nothing, a relationship with a precious child is everything.   

Quote From: tiffertots

well that's silly...of course I've heard "my body, my choice" but why should that mean the mother's "choice" is automatically the father's "choice"...my point is that the courts don't force motherhood on women...why should they on men?

Quote From: amethystic

I totally agree that men should be able to participate in a choice over something such as abortion, adoption, etc. And to my knowledge something like that is in place somewhere, but the problems lie in the same area as everything else. First of all, we have a very inadequate judicial system. Case in point: a cat fight over whether or not a living, breathing human being deserves to be loved and taken care of. This is not a baby in utero, a fetus or any other such abortion jargon. Its a child.  

Secondly,  If responsibility were taken in the first place whether you wanted a baby or not, and whether your partner wanted a baby or not, unwanted babies would not be a reality. And really, when the baby is unwanted, the abortion may be physical, the drop off may be horrible, but there is surely at least an internal death that child will have to live with, if nothing else. It all comes down to character character character. If you know who you're sleeping with, and you both want the same thing, and you both act in a responsible manner to attain that thing, then you will not have an issue.  

Hey, maybe we can just start forcing genital restricting devices on all these men and women who obviously need to take some extra time to think.. mature.. THINK?? I mean.. if we can't just abstain, and we can't wear a condom, and we can't take a pill every morning, and we can't even get along on issues like abortion... ; yet we insisnt on sleeping with one another for some dumb reason.. maybe we should find a way to take genitals out of the genetic code until some level of intelligence and maturity gets woven into the general population?  

Quote From: astellhorn

I think it was hard to watch this man sit on stage and just act like he had no part in the conception of this beautiful little baby girl!!!  If she didn't think she could have kids, and she does get pregnant, any responsible, loving, caring, man would step up and take care of his child.  She on the other hand, of course, isn't going to give the kid up, or abort it.  It is devastating to hear that you are not able to have children, and then to get pregnant... she was probably overwhelmed with joy!  If this man doesn't want a child, but wants to have sex, he needs to get the operation, and then this is not a problem.  When he is ready to grow up and stop being so selfish, if he ever is, he can have it reversed!!  As far as the lawsuit goes, I feel it is very upsetting to think that any man out there that doesn't want a child that is born, can just go to court and bastardize the child with whom he created.  And he has it easy... $500 a month doesn't come close to what is actually costs for her to raise his daughter.   All I have to say to him is GROW UP!!!