Messages By: dissedvet

Dr. Phil,    

Instead of insisting the father was at fault in someway for not wanting to accept his unwanted fatherhood, what about the poor choice the mother made in mating with someone who clearly told her he did not want to be a father?  She committed fraud twice by telling him she was physically unable to have a child and then on birth control on top of that for "medical reasons."  It was entirely reasonable of this man to proceed without a condom, as they appeared to be in an "honest" (her assertion) and committed relationship.    

You also made the point that someone her age could not know her own mind.  He is of her similar age, and did not vary in knowing his mind, before and after the fact.  He should not be accountable for her vagaries.   

This is another example of a person (her) not being accountable for her decisions.  She made her bed ;), she needs to lie in and maintain it ALONE. Yes, it is tragic this child will not have a father but this is because mom didn't choose wisely.   

I am a mother who teaches her sons to be careful of women like her.   

Graceandhonor   

"Play you pay"??!  

The only one that pays are MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why the hell that if two people have concentual sex the MAN automatically pays!!!? The woman is automatically off the hook for the outragous financial oblibation!  

How about play and WOMEN start paying. You want equal rights then YOU pay. Stop taking all you can get and sticking all the responsibiltiy on MEN. Get a job and pay your own way through life. We dont owe you anything. Get a job!