I have a 4 yr old son who's father LOVES woman. All women, any woman. He is a charmer and has melted my heart a few times. He is a cheater and loves every minute of it. Well in doing so, he don't care if my son is around woman. He has a woman he sees often. One I know nothing about which don't bother me to much, only because I have heard from his mother thats she is a good person. OK thats all well and good, but she isn't the only woman he has my son around. He knows I don't want a woman around my son unless he plans on living with her and or marring her. Or pretty darn close to it. I don't want woman in and out of my sons life. My son has already been through one break up with his dad, well one thats not me. How many does he expect my son to go through??
I have told him it isn't right. He would be doing more harm then good, but he lies and tells me he agrees and then he brings woman around my son again. I argue with Dad often over this issue. Well also the issue that he don't get our son but one weekend a month, and thats when his family will be around. He is close with his siblings and his parents, who are divorced. ( He learned his behavior from his mother, but thats a whole other issue. She makes so many excuses for him and thinks he is just Apple Pie!.) When he sees his family is when he wants our son around. The rest of the time he is off doing his adult kinda things. Well I used to complain about that but he hasn't changed, the less time he takes our son, the more I have him.
How can I get him to realize he can't do this to our son? How can I get him to be a Dad on the weekend he takes my son, not worry about woman?
I don't go out unless my son is with his Dad, I don't expect from him what I can't do myself. Though as you guessed it, I don't go out often. The last date I had was 3 months ago, and before that it was about 2 yrs. I don't know what day his Dad will call to take my son. I never know. Example, this last week he called on Wednesday to say he would take him Saturday night. Though after another arguement, he took him on Friday night. ( I don't let my son see us argue, I tell him often his daddy loves him.)
AUGH!!!
How do I get him to understand it isn't good to have anyone around my son unless he is serious about her???
