Messages By: nomorehg

Dr Phil,

I love ya Man but I think you either agreed not to ask some key questions or ya just dropped the ball. 

Did you think to ask Allison if she is biologically related to these kids?  If she became pregnant via invitro after TWO PLUS YEARS of treatment at the age of 47+ the liklihood that she was able to use her own eggs to conceive these kids is pretty low.  She indeed gave birth to them but it doesn't mean she is the biological natural parent of these kids.  Decisions on their future needs to be made using the full uinderstanding of the whole truth.  If she is not biologically related to them then consideration needs to be made on whether or not giving birth to them alone supercedes the life they have had for 20 months with their adoptive parents. 

Secondly, it has been reported that she spent her life savings (400K) on legal assistance after placement to have the adoption overturned.  With that kind of financial where with all, did you think to ask her WHY she didn't hire round the clock nanny's and nurses?  She was formally a big shot  Engineer at Lockheed... surely she knows about in home 24 hour Nannies???  Her reasoning for placing them was she wasn't able to care for them because she was so sick but she didn't even THINK to hire a 5-600 dollar a week Nanny?  She obviously had significant financial assets that could have secured round the clock care for both her and the kids.  That just does NOT make sense.

Lastly, why were the kids released from the hospital with an obviously gravely ill post ceserean Mother of mulitples?  Was there any social service involvement before she left their care?  How did she convince the Hosptial staff that she was able to care for the kids in her depleted near death condition? 

Kurtisgirl

Ok,

First of all to all of you who claim to have suffered from HG.  IF it is SO awful (and maybe it is, I don't know) WHY ON EARTH would you keep getting pregnant after delivering a healthy baby?  So many of these posts are "I had HG too, it is so awful, I had it with all 15 of my babies".  Of course I am exagerating, but you get my point.  It apparently wasn't bad enough to dissuade you from doing it again.

Second, Allison was not suffering from this disease any longer when she signed the papers....so HG can not be used as an excuse for giving her babies away.  Did ANYONE ELSE on this board griping about the misery of HG place their babies for adoption?  No?  Didn't think so.

Third, she kidnapped the children 16 MONTHS later.  So, you are going to tell me that HG made her do that too?

Fourth, for all of you spouting the children's "blood right" stay with Allison even though she is obviously unstable, the children were conceived with donor eggs and donor sperm.  SO, if you want to look at it that way Allison is not their "parent" either.  I wonder what the genetic parents would think of this situation if they knew.  Who THEY would want raising these children.

Fifth, the adoptive parents are likely not going public because they have nothing to gain by doing so.  They are fighting in a court of law, not the court of public opinion.  They did nothing wrong, why should they have to go on national television and defend themselves?

Feel free to keep belly aching about how horrible this "disease" is, I am not saying it's not.  My point is it must not be THAT bad or women would not go through another pg after suffering through it once.  My personal opinion, surprise surprise, is that it is too bad they are only charging her with parental kidnapping.  She should be in prison for life after what she did, but instead she will likely only serve 3 years.  If she gets those children back, it will be a travesty.