Messages By: miche1972

I have to say, as the mother of a teenage daughter....... I would feel better knowing that if she felt that strongly about having sex she came to me for birth control. Rather than have her do it behind my back and have a baby she wasn't ready to have. We can use the NO SEX all we want with our kids. But it doesn't mean they won't do it. I would rather she waited if it was something she wanted to do. But at the same time, I have a very open relationship with her and hope she would be comfortable enough with me to come and say Mom, I have to talk to you. I am also raising 2 boys and would want them to do the same. I am not saying I want my daughter having sex, but short of locking our daughters up if they feel that strongly they are going to do it. My daughter and I have a very opened Dialogue about sex and reporcussions of having sex too soon. I often tell her if you ever think you are ready and this is something you are going to do, Please come to me for Birth Control. Please don't be afraid. When you can't go to your parents is when unplanned babies happen. I don't promote it as yeah go ahead and do it. But I promote being safe and knowing all there is to know about it.  

Sometimes it is all the little things together that can cause the greatest stresses. I am a single mother of 3 kids, 2 years ago this month I suddenly lost my dad. And have been doing what I can for my mom. And it has finally come to a head today. She has been unhappy, put instead of helping herself she takes it ALL out on me. She tears me down by picking at all my faults and mistakes. Although I have another sibling, he has distanced himself because he also has a family and can only do so much.

 

 I also have a child with severe mental illness and just getting through the day sometimes is hard. I am beat up and wore out most days.

 

  I also was in an accident and lost my only means of transportatin for my children and I. And insurance is taking its sweet time dealing with it.I have a 5 year old I can't get to school. A 10 year old that I can't get to a pharmacy to get his medication. Luckily money isn't my stress. They are all little stresses. But they can become so overwhelming that you are not sure where to turn, I get to where I have days I just can't function as a productive parent/person. I a not whining, things will work themselves out. But everyones stresses are different and affect each and everyone of us differently. Most days I can handle anything I am handed, but there are those days I don't know how  much more I can do. Today is 1 of those days. Tomorrow will hopefully be a day I can handle it.