Messages By: kiwichatterbox

Well, I have never joined a dating site and never will. But over a year ago I met a man online and we are now engaged.  He is from Germany and I live in New Zealand and he is moving to NZ to be with me. He is willing to give up everything he has in Germany to be with me and make a life with me. Not all men online are bad. Maybe those on dating sites are different and just looking for flings but the man I have in my life will be there forever. I am currently in Germany, with a ticket he bought me, as he wanted me to meet his family before flying back to New Zealand to live, which we are working on right now.
I guess, just be cautious and make sure he is who he says he is. Don't over commit yourself before you know the real him.

There isn't much you can do when a toddler is crying like that. It is normal around the age of two that children can have temper issues because they are discovering what gets them what they want and it is all about them. Two year olds have a certainty of self, they can now recognize themself in a mirror as well as they know where they fit into the family and how to get the family to pay attention to just them. Have you tried saying "we can't talk to you when you behave like this so we will go out of the room until you calm down enough to talk to us properly" Then follow through with leaving the child alone and not taking notice of them, though it isn't recommended you leave them alone for longer than 30 minutes or so.
If you are really worried then visit a GP (general practioner or doctork, sorry don't know if Americans call them GPs like kiwis do) though these days they are often rather quick with saying things like the child may have A.D.H.D or something when it is just part of growing up. Children can be tempramental just like adults can be. They are just learning what works and what doesnt, if you dont let her get away with doing it by ignoring her or something then she will realize this doesnt work and she will move on from it.
Good luck, I hope this helps some

Hi there,
Every relationship can have its ups and downs but the only way to solve them is to talk about them. There is no right or wrong answer here. But before giving up on a relationship that means so much to you, you need to discuss what options you have. I can't imagine how hard it is to think of these things when both of you are of different religions but all I can say is that maybe somehow you two can comprimise. Come up with a plan on how you will raise your children and stick to it. You could think about letting your child choose their own religion when they are old enough to understand while still including a bit of both religions in their day to day life.
Just don't be too willing to give it all up until you have both discussed what you would like to happen. If there is still no way out, maybe you should go to someone that can listen to both of you and help suggest ideas.

I am 23 and my fiance is 35.  We will be married in August and we are completely happy.  He is a great dad to my two year old daughter and he treats us both well while still allowing for an equal relationship.  Age difference isn't such a big deal as long as the people are mature enough to be in a relationship and be able to make choices themselves and not be pressured into things they may not want.
My family were at first worried about our relationship until they met him and now they adore him.  Of course his family had a similiar reaction when they were told my age, not only because of the age but he is in Germany and I am in New Zealand which is a huge distance a part.  However after holidaying in Germany his family now love my daughter and I and they are happy for Joern to move to New Zealand and be a father and a husband.
People shouldn't judge over things like age, religion and race. It is the type of person that counts.