Messages By: selfcomesalone

I didn't know my father. I found out who he was through a search in my 20s and it was not a good meeting with his family. He died when I was about 6, I was adopted by a pedophile with money. My biological mother stuck by the pedophiles side when I took him to court for sexual abuse. He admitted to it, I became homeless as no one helps children in the "system"... so, I wanted to find out who I am... I am NOT THEM. I will not ever be the liars, perverts or cruel like they are/were. I will NEVER have kids to be raised in such a horrible blood line. No matter how well you raise children they always want to know their geneology.

So, Think about it before the idea of having kids comes to mind. Adopt a child if you want a child! They probably came from tough homes too, but they are already here and need love.

We are who we choose to be. We are not the fruit of the nasty trees that bear kids for selfish reasons. To bear a child is more selfish than to care for a child that needs a home.

If he is that kind of man and you do not even know him, imagine how horrible he is in person. My half sister had the same issue with her dad, who is in SC living with a woman younger than his children are. He is a sick man. If you were raised by this idiot, you may have grown up with worse problems than not knowing him. Sometimes it is better to avoid bad people. I was molested by a step father and I am just glad to know that it was not my real father because that would have been harder to deal with. Many women are molested by their family members everyday and no one can deal with it completely.

Please look into loving who you are and who you want to be. Chances are your life is much better without having leaches like him in your life.

My bio. fathers family was a group of sick people when I met them. I would not trust one of them with a child alone... this is sickening to think that is in my blood. Be happy when you know less, because you can make better choices based on your HOPES.

Meditate on the self, love the Self and share the love you KNOW with those that are WORTHY.

Best wishes to you.

Peace

I was in family counseling as a teen for my step fathers abuse. The counselor TOLD him everything I let him know. I was then beaten into bed rest for days by him because of it. When returning (court ordered you know) to the counselor I attempted suicide in the office.My mother laughed at me and said she does this all the time, it is nothing. I slept for days after that , as I took 30 sleeping pills in front of them both.

Now I do not know of anyone who admits to this type of horrible treatment being done at DCFS (now called DFCS cuz the family is more important than the children as you may see), but I do not believe in counseling anymore. Sure this was in the 80s but I will never forget it. I was left to raise myself at 15, lived in an abandoned barn cuz I got tired of being a raped homeless girl so I had to hide. I am now almost 40, no job as seems to occur (college educated in business none the less) and I have no family, friends or desire to have them in my world. I have a soul mate and he is my "rock". I do not see how this can go on. It is common for police to be crooked (we cannot fight Rape in America thanks to them) but COUNSELORS.... Dr. Phil would be appaulled! I hope he would.

This happened in Woodstock, IL just so you know where not to get help. Also, the step dad got away with the molesting of us all and the courts let him admit it in their presence. It did nothing for me or my safety as I have been raped, left for dead and beaten many times over when I tried to make friends in the world. No need for them and that makes me safe, jobless but safe.

My biological mother is called by her name too. It was nice to see a counselor allow a youth to speak the truth. Not enough people will admit their truths like the daughter and aunt did on this show.

THANKS DP

The story was about the way my Parents sucked. It did not say I am in a bad relationship. I have a better relationship than anyone in the world, We have been together for 10 years, in an open and honest way. We love each other, he takes great care of me, as I search for my career choice.... seeing my college was a waste and my trade turned out to disgust me on the environmental level. I just wanted to say that the way my Horrible Nasty Parents were has had an effect on my work. I will not destroy the Earth for money... unlike most people do. I have morals and values and self worth so "counseling" ME on relationships is not the issue...guess  that is just a common thing to say to people who have been abused, huh?

I have  my perfect weight, am sober and I have love for my mate, my pets, plants and Nature..... People must EARN any respect from me and living where I do, It just "ain't happening"  but I don't need crappy rednecked people to call friends, for they are not my "style"..... besides, why would I allow child molesters to be part of my life. I see it alot, and there is NO HELP available for the kids, I have called it in, but in the south that is how it is.    I would rather be alone and happy than with Fools and worried for their kids.

But thanks for the response, it just is not what I need.  

PS;   I am not even a credit card owner, by choice not by credit..... so I am really doing better than most.... just have to accept that alot of the world Sucks!

When raised by people you find out are not worthy of your respect,

then you can realize that you can CHOOSE who you want in your life.

They want to live in the lies most of the world lives in. And being

Italian should not make it different. Sure, close family ties LOOK

Nice on the outside... but consider who you really WANT around

you, your loved ones, and most of all your kids.... if you CHOOSE

to have them.

I know a girl who is one of 15 molested by their father.... she now

has kids, so do the others and the molesting is STILL HAPPENIN.

So see the picture you want to paint for yourself, don't just apply a

smile like lipstick,  know the truth is for your future family's safety,

Or else it will happen to your daughter and you will be blamed by her.... get the point?

Be glad they showed their true colors now, and not after it happens to your kids.

Good luck, you can be LOVE without PAIN!!!!!