Messages By: flbutterfly71

I HAVE BEEN SERIOUSLY TRYING TO PUT MYSELF IN YOUR POINT OF VIEW. I CAN'T SEE YOUR ACTIONS BEING WORTHY AT THIS POINT.  I HAVE THREE SISTERS. I HAVE SEEN BOTH SHOWS. CHRISTY, THIS IS NO LONGER IN YOUR CONTROL. EVEN IF YOU FEEL THIS OUTCOME IS NOT FAVORABLE, YOU ARE NOT GOD. IT SURE SEEMS THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO PLAY THAT ROLE. TO ALL OF US HERE, YOU LOOK LIKE THE ABUSER! THE THINGS YOU HAVE SAID AND DONE TO YOUR NIECES AND NEPHEWS~THE FEAR YOU HAVE PUT IN THEM! SHAME ON YOU!!!!! YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER, YOU ARE AN ADULT!  YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND NEED TO BACK AWAY, AND FIND SOME OTHER WAY TO FULFILL YOURSELVES. YOU LOOK RIDICULOUS, ANGRY AND FULL OF HATE. IT SURE SEEMS THERE IS MORE TO THIS THAN WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. IT APPEARS THAT THERE IS SOME REAL DEEP-SEEDED RESENTMENT TOWARDS YOUR SISTER. IF YOU DISLIKE HER THIS MUCH, STOP BEING INVOLVED IMMEDIATELY THEN. MOVE ON! IT SURE LOOKS LIKE YOU THRIVE ON DRAMA. TIME TO DRAW THE LINE AND HEAL. YOU LOOK LIKE A MISERABLE PERSON WITH A BROKEN SPIRIT, EVEN IF IT IS NOT TRUE, IT LOOKS THAT WAY. I SEE NO HEART IN YOU. NOT ONCE. NO LOVE, NO MERCY.  IT LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE DESPERATE TO BE RIGHT.  ALL THE EVIDENCE IS AGAINST YOUR THEORY.

 

I HOPE THAT YOU FIND MORE LOVE, MERCY AND PEACE IN THE FUTURE. GOOD LUCK.

I can't say that I feel exactly the way these mom's do, but I really understand how sometimes motherhood can truly affect moms negatively. I am married, have four children, 16, 14, 10 & 7, (my oldest is developmentally delayed, my youngest is a livewire) three dogs, we own a business and I am a full-time college student with a double-major! We are helping to take care of my brother-in-law who is 46 and Austistic, (my husband is his guradian). Our phones never stop ringing. We own a large home and most days I wonder how I will make it through. I realize I have created this but here I am and I get very overwhelmed! I hardly ever go a day where I don't feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and daydream about running away to China. LOL. I do get a few luxuries occasionally...a massage or a vacation. Unfortunately I feel like until my children are raised and on their own and college is completed for me, I will just feel crazy. Order is not easy to keep and we do fall behind. I realized a while back that I was losing myself as a person which is why I enrolled in college (knowing it was heaping my plate) but at the same time it was something for me! What I do realize in the midst of the madness is that my commitment is to this family that I created and no matter how heavy it feels at times I could never be happy if I jumped ship. How could I enjoy serenity if I walked away? There would be no peace in that no matter where I was! I could never do it! I pray a lot for strength and for answers. One day at time is a great motto. Worry about today, today! Go no further! I try to find outlets like laughter and I do poke fun at being a mom and having kids.(Erma Bombeck style) It is pure comic relief. Sometimes mothers tend to take things way too seriously!! Maybe this mom needs a break so she can regroup and clear her mind. Maybe Dr. Phil should send her on a spa retreat, somewhere she could receive counsel and she could rethink the situation. I wish her the best of luck.