Messages By: melissah27

I am a 27 year old mother of two and the oldest has ADHD. He used to live with his father because I used to be addicted to meth and was in an abusive relatioship in my past. My son used to live with his dad but, has been here since May of last year. My queation is: how do I know if he needs medication if no one else is reccomending it (teachers or doctors)? He has emtional issues when it comes to discipline from me- he always crys over nothing if he is being punished. His dad has recently been reunited with a daughter he never saw until my sons birthday last October. Now, his dad has pushed him to the side and favors the girl over his two boys. Even more confusing for my son is the fact that his dad is now expecting another baby from the mother of his daughter. My son has seen more than any boy should have to see in his life at his age. When he was only two he seen me almost sufficated to death by my ex. He has also seen his dad beat on his ex-girlfriend (the mother of my sons half brother) just two years ago, watched his dad cheat on the same woman and has always lived in two houses. I know that some of his issues are my fault but how do I fix something when I cannot get my son to even talk to me about the issues that bother him? He will not talk to any one, not even counsolurs because he says he does not understand. The really bad part is that he at 8 thinks that no one wants him around no matter how many times I say I do or that I love him he still feels that way. I think some of it is his half sister when he is at his dads house. She seems like she does not want him there and has made mean threats of pushing him down stairs and threats of hurting him. His dad says it never happens but, how do you believe someone that you have caught personally in simple stupid lies over dumb s***about nothing of no importance at all! His dad even makes him feel like he is not welcome there. I have told my son many times that he does not have to go to his dads. He still chooses to go though and everytime he does his dad brings him home half way through the weekend because he 'cannot handle him'. HE DOES NOT DISICIPLINE THE DAUGHTER AT ALL! He pays my son no attention at all unless he is being punished for something. I cannot be with my son at his dads so I don't know if the girl is honest or not about things my son does. I know how he is at home and most of the time he is doing something he knows he is not supposed to do. I do know that at 8 years old my own son tells a lot of lies about things all of the time. He even trys to say that his three year old brother can tell lies-how? I am just at a crossroads about what to do! Any advice would be nice!!