Messages By: ohdang13

 If I were married to that nag of a man I would have affairs also! Who can blame anyone for seeking the comfort of another person when your own spouse is constantly yelling and fighting all the time. Maybe the husband should wake-up and realize he may have drove her to the cheating! DUH!!! He has no self worth so he feels the need to put his wife down year after year. If I were that woman I would get the heck out of that marriage and never look back. The husband thinks he loves wife...whatever. Love does not get in your face and call you names and shove you in front of your children!  That man will eventually beat his wife or try to kill her if she does not get out of there.

 I keep reading about "once a cheater always a cheater" refering to the wife. Well, news flash...he was married also. They both had an affair with each other while married to other people! So does that not make him a cheater too?  It sounds like most everyone is still hung up on the old way of thinking...If the guy cheats it's just in his nature, but if the girl cheats she's a slut. How stupid is that? It took two to make this mess. The wife was wrong to cheat but the husband is abusive and I feel he drove her to this. I bet he's been accusing her of cheating from day one. And this stems from his feelings of guilt for beginning in a cheating relationship while still married to his first wife. I bet if Dr. Phil did some digging on the hubby we would find out the "poor, innocent husband..HA!" has been cheating also.  The fact of the matter is he's an abusive husband! What suprises me is that we have not heard a news story about a "burning bed!" A person can only take so much abuse before they snap and lucky for him she turned to cheating instead of murder. Maybe he needs to stop and think about that before he keeps "pushing her buttons for attention!" I say to the husband, GROW UP! LEARN HOW TO BE A MAN!MAYBE IF YOU GAVE YOUR WIFE A REASON TO BE FAITHFUL TO YOU SHE WOULD!  People who live in glass houses should NEVER throw stones"poor, innocent hubby". 

Is it just me or did anyone else notice Enza and Alax toward the end of the show?  I'm talking about the part of the show where these 2 are in the kitchen and Alex is trying to eat.  And "QUEEN" Enza is "TEACHING" Alax how to eat. Are you kidding me? Enza is telling that child she is such a messy eater and is always making a mess of herself.  So, not only is Enza a psycologist, a parenting coach and a social worker...she is also an etiquette teacher! LOL!!!!! Give me a break!  This woman suffers from a bad case of Narcissism. Everything is about her all the time. Enza has the attitude, "Look at me , I have all the answers. See how I'm helping you? Only I have the power to fix any situation."  Kim needs to  get a backbone! That is her child and no one elses.  If she really has Alex's best interest at heart she will take a stand and remove Enza for good!  Kim may have made bad choices in her life but I feel it is from a lack of self-esteem. And I wonder where that could have come from? Maybe Enza and her constant belittling of Kim all the time. Sounds about right to me.  If you tell someone they are stupid or worthless all the time they will eventually start to believe it.

 

Removing the child from the home was a very good idea. The child needs a break but so does the mom. Kim is overwhelmed by everything that has been happening over the years. Kim certainly needs to talk to a professional and possibly get on some medication. I think she has good intentions but is drowning. She can not seem to find the way to the surface. And Enza is the chain around Kim's ankle that won't let her get to the surface!

 

Dr. Phil, both Kim and Alex are crying out for help and I feel they BOTH need that help.  Please offer Kim professional help or nothing in that home is going to change.

Well said Fluffy!  I feel for this step-mom. Taking in someone else's teenage kids has to be very hard for everyone. Especially if this kid is a troubled teen. 

I would just stroke out if any one of my 3 kids had the attitude those girls have!! I am a mother of a 16 year old boy, and two daughters, one is  15 and the other is 14y.o.  I was born and raised in the deep South where everyone says , Yes Sir or No Sir to ANYONE who is your senior. And I have taught my kids that valuable lesson also.  I believe it is my duty as a good mother to teach my kids how to show everyone they come in contact with proper respect. 

 

I feel the mother of those 2 girls is very much to blame for how her kids behave. Shame on you mom for letting them turn out the way they have!  I guess no one told you that beauty is only skin deep! Maybe you should teach those girls some respect for other people. Believe me when I say this, No one cares how pretty your girls THINK they are! And no one wants to be bothered with spoiled children.   And for the 2 girls, your looks really will not get you anywhere in life. Face this fact, everyone ages and beauty slowly fades.

 

The most beautiful people to me are the ones with self- respect and also show other people respect. Nothing makes a person more beautiful than good manners and a big, bright smile!  For all of you parents out there with those smiling, respectful kids, Congrats to you!!!  If only all parents could be like you rude and crude would be a thing of the past.

Your last sentance had me LMAO!  If that story of his is true, I could just see that lady bust a blood vessel in her head over a chair being pulled out for her.

LMFAO!!!!!!! And by your comments, that by far, made you one of the most UNATTRACTIVE people in this room. LOL! 

My kids have been taught that elders are always to be show proper respect. Even I still say, Yes Sir and No Ma'm to people older than me, whether they be rude or not. I have taught my kids that just because someone does not smile at you or hold open a door if they see you coming behind them that is no excuse to return that bad behavior. For all my kids know, that person could be having a very bad day and to have a smile from a complete stranger for no other reason than to be kind, could possibly help brighten their day. And if they don't get a smile or thank you in return, I have taught them to not take it personal. If people want respect, you have to give respect. It has never failed me or my kids.  Some people may not agree with how I was raised or how I have raised my kids but it works for us.

 

I truley feel bad for teenagers in this day and age...that beauty is consider to be so very valuable. I have always told my kids that what matters most is whats in your heart not how well your bone structure looks in a photo. I want my kids to rely on their brains to get somewhere in life, not their beauty.  But I feel the biggest issue is getting very impressionable teens to understand is that beauty is judged by the eye of the beholder. What one person may find beautiful the next person may find unattractive.  I want my kids to focus on the important things in life, to get a good high school and college education and to be upstanding and productive people in our society.

 

 

I could not agree with you more! The things you mentioned, I feel, are way more important than just being cute or beautiful.

I have to agree with you. I don't know of anyone who can remember being 2 years old, much less things that happened to them or around them at the age of 2. But I do have memories of what my parents and Grandparents have told me when I was 2 years old. And to be honest, sometimes they feel like I created those memories from actually being there. I really think the older sister and other family members that were old enough to see the abuse and murder have very vivid memories and have told the stories to Erica her whole life. The older sister and other family are certainly traumatized by what they saw but not Erica. She is  traumatized by what has been told to her from the age of 2 til now.  The memories Erica carries are from other people. I think this is why she can not find peace even after her father says he's sorry over and over. She needs to hear I'M SORRY from the family members that have pumped these stories into her head and made her relive a tragady that she would have no memory of otherwise. 

 

I know alot of people will not agree with this and thats fine. But the fact is, no one has true memories of very early years in your life. You only remember what people tell you.  And if people pump nothing but horrible memories into a young child they soon adopt them as their own. I feel this is the biggest tragedy out of all of this. The family made Erica hate a man she hardly knew and probably did not even remember.