Messages By: ohdang13

All I can say is, " EEEWWWWW!!" . To sleep with a family members spouse is gross!  That is just too much like incest to me. I can not even picture anything sexual about my sisters husband. He is family...like a brother to me.  The thought just makes my skin crawl! 

Maybe I'm just weird or something, but that is how I see it. 

I think that sister has some very serious issues to deal with. Stabbing a sibbling in the back is just the ultimate betrayal.  Man, if you can't trust your own brother or sister then there is a big problem.  Something like this has got to shake the very foundation of your life. Talk about trust issues from now on.

I would not work out anything with either of them.  That goes double for the sister. I know it's that whole forgive and everything, but you have to draw the line somewhere. In my opinion that line has been crossed.  No amount of, "I'm sorrys " will ever help that poor woman get over what they have done. 

I think she needs to cut them both out of her life and begin again.  Life is too short to stay on guard from your sister and husband.  There really are men out there that would be faithful to her...no matter how hard a family member tried to sleep with him.

Have you taken this matter to the school board?  If you have and you are not getting the proper help, then may I suggest talking to someone that works at your local paper.  Try to find someone who is willing to write a story about it and make it public.  Give out the schools name, principal's name, the bullies family name and the names of people in the school board.  Tell everyone in your town what is happening to your son.   I believe you will see some action taken once these people see their names in the paper.   This is very bad for school buisness. You do not have to slam the principal, but when people around town realize he is one of the people who let violence happen right under his nose and turns a blind eye to it....he will see the need to get something done.

Another suggestion, if you do not work, I say make suprise visits to the school. Pop into his classroom and make your presence known. Pop into the principals office unannounced. Keep them on their toes.   If you have a day to kill just go sit in your sons classroom and observe how things are running. 

You might also want to consider home schooling your son next year.  Your local school board office can help you get that started and they will provide you with all the teaching materials that you need free of charge.  If your son is this stressed out by going to class daily then home schooling is probably your best choice. Your son is just too young to have to be this worried for his safety.  This bully is going to leave very deep emotional scars if your son is not removed from the situation.  

This school year is almost over. I say you go to school with your son everyday. Sit in his classroom. Don't give that bully another chance to terrorize your son again.   It may not frighten the bully , But you are giving your son the needed reassurance that he needs to feel safe. 

I don't know if any of this will help you. I do hope something I have said can be usefull for you. I feel for you and your son deeply. I remember going through these issues with my child too.  I have since started home schooling and believe me it has made a world of difference for all of us.  I now have straight A students and they do not get bullied for it.  Please keep in touch.

Mickie

I agree 100%!! It was a couple of men who came up with the breast implant in the first place...not a woman. What does that say?  It says that men are the ones obessed with boob size!    The only time I feel a breast implant would be needed for self-esteem is if the woman had to have one or both breast removed for medical issues.  But to have your breasts enlarged just to make yourself feel better is like putting a band-aid on a gunshot wound. It just won't help!  If a woman wants a man to notice her and find her attractive then that woman must first find herself attractive.  The way a person carries themselves is how other people will preceive them. Instead of breast implants maybe the money should be spent for self-esteem counciling. 

Women have bought into the idea that the only way to be noticed and loved by a man is to have large mountains on their chests.  That is just crazy.   You know....if men think that huge boobs are just the bees knees then I say those men go to the plastic surgen and have a pair installed on his chest!  Then let him deal with the constant back pain and illnesses that  can follow having breast implants. I bet men wouldn't find those implants so wonderfull then!  

I am so sorry that all of this is happening to you and your son.  I fear that the only way you will get anything solved is to go public on the Dr. Phil show.  I pray that the show will contact you and allow you to tell your story.  I wish I had more advice or incite to give you, but I have never been faced with a school issue this bad before.  I say, bug Dr. Phil and his staff til they agree to have you on his show.  This matter needs fast attention before it really gets out of control.  I know I am not much help to you or your son, but if you need someone to vent to, then please feel free to vent to me.  I will be praying and thinking of you and your son.

Mickie