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October 12, 2006, 5:02 pm PDT
divorcing the family
Raising kids is not easy....Me and my husband have raised 4 ,our youngest just turning 20...there was good times and the bad, but there was one thing we tought them from day 1 was me and their dad alwas backed each other. We learned that we had better be this way or they could play us against each other and if we did not agree with each other we would always wait till they were in bed before we discussed it, because they did not need to here us...our motto was if our kids were mad at us then we were doing our parenting job. and it wasnt always easy or fun but it was what we had to do to make them turn out to be great adults...Now that they have all moved out and become responsible adults we can be their friends and we have alot of fun together... And they have all thanked us for being the parents that we are....If we thought there was problem that needed to discuss we would have family meeting nights..sometimes those were really hard cause they would tell us things that we did not want to hear...{cause we wanted to be perfect} but after talking about it we always ended with a solution.. If they werent in sports or involved with any thing then at 16 they had to get a job......they all graduated from high school which we were very proud of them.....but if they didnt go to college then they had to pay rent $100. amonth till they moved out It just taught them to be more responsible.So if you start teaching them when they are small they will learn what ever it is you teach them....Iknow I made a lot of Mistakes when our youngest was very little but I remembered what my childhood was like and knew I did not want my kids to have one like me. so I became different than my parents and I am very glad of that...I hope this family on Dr.phil can get some counciling and get there their family back together. It will take the parents and the kids to learn from the counciling. but if they love each other they can do it...
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