Messages By: meviperchic

 These girls have just been taught wrong....they have been taught that it is all about the outside...and it has given them a low self esteem...I taught my kids that it is ok to be proud of oneself just don't hurt anybody with your pride!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 Billy you think you are funny but you are not....Grow up!! good grief you are married and have kids and you act like a baby....I can't believe your wife shaves you,,I could just see me shaving my hubby especially after he treated me like that.....would not be safe for him....

 I am 47 yrs old and I have 2 b/f that I have had since I was 19 and they were 12...they are both girlsand they both  went to school with my little brother and became friends with him and then they met me and we became friends....me and my hubby were just dating at the time and we had a baby and they were always around but they would always tease me when they would go out and I couldn't go with cause of the baby......well me and hubby got married  when we were 23 and had 3 more kids...they were still partying...and now I get to tease them.....cause they didnt get married till they were in their 30s and did not start having kids till then.....Now our kids have all grown up and moved out and their kids are still young.......so now me and hubby go out and party and they don't get to go every time...we are very close we tell each other evry thing...and we have alot of fun togther...1 friend lives now 14hrs away the other 1 lives ryt down the street from me and hubby but we get together evry summer either me and friend go to where she lives or she comes to our place.....but we talk everyday.....our friendship has grown so much stronger over the years...The funny thing is the one friend that lives by me her only child is the same age as my youngest grandchild...we laugh at that alot....When we are together we tend to forget how old we are we just have alot of fun...we have always been able to trust each other   my hubby is like a big brother to them...and they are very close to him and I have never had to worry because we respect each other so much.....we always tell people that we went to girlfriend school thats how we know how to treat each other...any way I just thought I would just share some of my story...because there is nothing better than to have a best friend and to be one...

 my sister was killed by a serial killer when I was 16 I am 47 now and that is something you never really get over...the bad boys in prison for murder or rape or horrible things like that do not deserve any sympathy they were grown when they did the murder or rape...there fore they should of known better....I know every body has a story about how they were treated growing up therefore they had the right to do what they did..but that is not true...The man that killed my sister came from a good family he killed 10 women before they caught him...He did it just so he could have control over a woman...He had a wife and 2 kids but he sure did not respect them or he would have never done this....those men in prison for rape or murder do not know how to respect themselves much less a woman.. they are just manipulating you and being able to control you from inside and you feeling sorry for them is just what they want....They have no idea of the hurt that they caused by their actions...as far as I am concerned they deserve to stay locked up forever with no privileges...My sister never got to get married or have children....so when you think that you are in love with a criminal just think of the reason why he is in there and put your self in the place of the person he murdered or raped and hope you or none of your family has to go through something so terrible....

 Maybe he is wanting to cheat himself or at least thinking about it....My mom would always say don't let the greeneyed monster get you...(Jealousy)....I never did but I had friends that married jealous men and it was the men who were the ones to cheat,...If his jealousy is affecting the way you are parenting and it is not good then I would tell him to get help or you need to leave him and let him work out his own problems...because your kids deserve a good mom....and if you are worried about him it is to hard to handle both and he is grown so he needs to figure out what is causing the jealousy and get help...whatever you do hold your head up tell him that if he keeps accusing you you moght as well do it you are getting accused of it anyway....you don,t have to do it just make him think you would if he does'nt quit accusing you......If you stay and he does't change you are going to be a unhappy person and eventually hate him, so for your boys sake it would be better to leave before the hate sets in.....because everytime he accuses you a little bit of love goes too...

 I don't know if you belong to or go to a church,.. but maybe you could talk to the people at the church and they could bake sales go around to bussinesses in your area and ask them to donate stuff you could use to have an auction....that is just some small things that I could think of....good luck I hope you get what you want...I will put u on a prayer list..prayer can go a long way....

 You have every right to say and know what is being bought whether you worked or not...you are going to have to stand up to him and let him know that he is not being fair and make him believe you...I have been married 24yrs and i am a sahm of 4 kids I fixed that problem along time ago right after we decided I would stay home with kids you can do it.....

 I am not a single mom but have a good friend that is,...I would like to be involved if its ok........also if you have y messenger we could all do that ,...keep me posted..

 we have different churches and organizations that people can go to to help with things even paying bills for people who qualify.....check all around your community.Call your local news station they can also tell you of places to go ...Tell your friend NOT to be AFRAID or EMBARRASED to ask for help it is out there.....I will be praying for her....

 Ok this just happened to me....I have a friend who ive known for more than 20 yrs...ive been married to the same man and father of my 4 children...My friend has never married she now has a six yr old daughter...The little girls dad was physically abusive to my friend so she is no longer with him but he is real mentally abusive to the little daughter so right now his right to see his daughter has been stopped...The problem is that every since this little girl has been born her mom (my friend) brings different guys around and lets her daughter get attached to the guys and then she dumps them..the thing is the guys she hooks up with are not good father figures to this child...the last guy she had was real controlling and when she started seeing him i saw a lot of changes in my friend...and it got to where everytime she called or came over it was to complain about him...ALWAYS......well she finally broke up with him and he started stalking her and damaging her car and house...well she called the police and finally i was able to get her to get a restraining order on this guy...(i went with her)...but she didnt go to court so they dropped it and she took him bk ...only to start the complaining again...He was a bad guy....finally she caught him with another womanand broke up with him again and a week later got bk with a guy that was her first boyfriend....and of course letting her daughter get close to him...well now she is mad at the new boyfriend cause he doesnt feel her needs...(so she says)but he has a good job and is aleast stable and he doesnt try to control her ...but she is wanting to break up with him and shes been talking to the boy friend who is bad to her...Her daughter is in counciling now cause the last time she was with her dad he beat up his parents with his daughter watching.. the daughter told the councelor that she doesnt want to go with her dad cause she is scared of him..(that is why he doesnt get here anymore) but she also told the councelor that she is scared at night with her mom cause of the boyfriend who was stalking the mom and breaking in their house....well the mom (my friend ) is wanting to get bk with that boyfriend now even though her little girl is scared... so she called me and asked me what i thought(of course if her mind is made up u cant change it) so i told her what i thought...That she was no better a parent than the dad cause she is not thinking of her child and that it was time to quit making it all about her and start making it all about the daughter...well she hung up on me and now wont take my phone calls ......What i want to know is was i wrong...should i appoligize???please some advice here....btw my friend is 41 is a registered nurse and a very inshe has also intelligent woman but the way she is acting since she had her daughter is very dumb and unintelligent.....also she has owned her own home for 10 yrs...so she is not a child....