Messages By: tad1963

To everyone who thinks that they are cursed: (as in bad luck stuff) 

You were born in the United States, one of the wealthiest countries in the world.  You have a home, food in your refrigerator, electricity, heat and/or air conditioning in your home, you have many changes of clothing, a job, a car and money to spend on useless items.  Go to another country, look at the people that have no food to eat, no job, no house, no change of clothes, no clean water to drink, no health care, no doctors to visit when they are sick.  And you complain because you had a bad day.  The people who live in poverty, thank God every day that they are alive to love and care for their families and friends.   

I think of the parents who sell their children for food, and you whine that you are cursed!  We are a greedy nation and want everything perfect.  Life is not perfect!!!! Life is what you make of it.  There are tradgedies and trials in life, that does not mean you are cursed.  You choose to look at the bad things in your life, not the good!  For people who are "cursed" with bad luck, change your attitude, look at the good things in your life, not the bad! 

As for being "cursed" in the evil spirit or in cases of possession, I do believe that can happen.  It doesn't happen every day, but evil is around us trying to turn us from God.  I believe you can open yourself up to evil and once you do it, you sort of fall into a dark way.  If you look in the Bible, it does talk about evil spirits, Jesus exorcised people who were possessed, He was even tempted by Satan himself, but Jesus turned away from temptation.  We, being imperfect, have a tendency to grap ahold of the temptation and run with it.  Then we find ourselves in trouble and then we cry that we are cursed.  YOU DID IT TO YOURSELF. 

Living in the light and walking in the path of faith is a tough road but well worth the struggle. 

so, these are my thoughts on being cursed.  I know that many people will feel differently but, to each his own.  So next time you get a flat tire, or have a bad day, thank God that you had that flat tire, because you could be living in a third world country deciding whether to sell your beloved child to someone so the rest of your family can eat or keep your child and watch your children starve to death. 

Thoughtfully submitted, 

Terri 

Dear Whispering Eagle, 

Firstly, I think you missed the point of what I was trying to get at, which is, stop, take a look at what you have and this country is very wealthy.  And now in reply to your statement of being poor, being a descendant of the Cherokee, which most of my dad's family still live in Oklahoma, at the end of the trail of tears, many of my dad'sfamily do live on a reservation.  Secondly, I have almost been homeless by the age of 5, my family had no food, and yes we were helped by people we didn't know and couldn't repay.  I know about hand-me-down clothes from other peoples children and I was happy to have "new clothes" from them.  I could survive poverty, alcoholism, physical abuse, I watched my mother beaten many times.  My mother, my sister and I had run away from a very bad abusive situation only to be found and brought back.  So, please, before you make a statement about being pushed down and not being able to survive, know the person you are speaking to before you put your foot in your mouth (so to speak).   

I am sorry that you took such a negative view of my thoughts, I was just trying to remind people, stop whining and take a look at all the good you have in your life.   

Sincerely, 

Terri  

Dear Claudia, 

Apparently you didn't finish reading my entire message.  I stated that there is evil out there and you can be affected by it.  I am a Sunday School teacher, a liturgist and a lay speaker in the Methodist Church, so I do have some knowledge regarding evil, dark spirits and the like.  I have seen what evil can do to people, to churches and the complete destruction of peoples lives.  I have also studied and researched for a long time on evil, the devil, Heaven, hell, angels, demons, salvation, etc.  So I wasn't just shooting "from the hip" with regards to my thoughts. 

As for living in the US, I was pointing out, that this is a very wealthy nation and most people complain and whine about nothing and are not thankful for what they have. 

So, I hope this clarifies my earlier statements. 

Sincerely, 

Terri   

Dear Whispering Eagle, 

I hear you totally and I feel for your situation.  You are a strong woman to search for your roots and connect with them with love and strength.  Although you are Navajo and I am Cherokee, we must be related as I suffer from Ulcerative Colitis, I finally have gotten it to go into remission, but not without much trauma.  I also agree with you, that we must turn our cameras on our nation and look at the poverty in our rich nation - because with all the wealth that we have here - we shouldn't have children suffering, families losing their homes, the elderly starving for food, affection and medical care.  I do also know that on many reservations these situations are so much worse than in suburban America.  I wish you and your family much happiness and joy.  I will say many prayers for you all and for your health.   

I must also say that I love your name and I applaud you for choosing such a strong and proud screen name.  May you live well and run free. 

Terri 

Dear Dr. Phil,

If you read your message boards, please please please get her out of that house NOW.  I so hope you have your staff getting her children while they are on the show, and you have a safe house ready for her after the show.  He will kill her if he thinks she's going to leave.  It is so obvious!

I am terrified for her and her children.  For anyone who thinks she's an idiot for staying, then you haven't walked a mile in her shoes.  Do not judge abused women, because abuse starts subtly and slowly until it's too late.  I know, I watched my mother go through it for 12 years before she got the strength to leave.  She told my dad, you can kill me now or I'm getting a divorce, either way I'm leaving.  This was before safe houses, and divorces were really acceptable.

Please Dr. Phil, get her out of there, because it's a murder suicide about to happen.

Terri

Sac, she does not want this nor does she like it.  Do not judge until you've walked in her shoes.  She is terrified and has been beaten down.   Please do not say anything like that again, as you are degrading her further.

Terri

Wow, I can't believe you even think that.  Please do some research on abused women before you make an uneducated and stupid statement.  Abused women do not like the abuse, they don't ask for it and they certainly DO NOT ENJOY IT! I think you better watch the program over and listen to what he does to her and then tell me she enjoys it.  You are as messed up as he is if you believe that.

Terri

To all you people that have harsh words for Jennifer:

Listen up, she married Jeffrey when she was 19 years old.  He started his controlling behavior from day one.  It is very subtle, and seems sweet on the surface.  As the years go on, it builds into this horrible situation.  For all of you, men and women, who think women like to be mentally or physically abused you are wrong and you are stupid for even thinking that.  Abuse doesn't happen overnight.  Also, normally after the abuse there is a "honeymoon period" where the husband is overly nice and concerned, lulling the wife into a false sense of security.  I fear for Jennifer's safe.  I watched this program with my husband who felt the same way as I did.  Men that are caring and kind could see right through that freak. 

I have to say I am so angry that people today still think that a battered woman (emotionally or physically) likes it.  You are so wrong.   My mother was physically and mentally abused throughout her 12 year marriage.  She divorced my dad when divorce was not really acceptable.  She had nowhere to turn, there were no shelters back then.  He through me across the room when I stopped him from hitting her, so you have no idea what the wife and the children go through in an abusive household.  I saw my mother bleeding from the forehead (because he threw a glass at her), he strangled her, shot at her with a gun, tried to suffocate her, so please at no time did my mother enjoy any of it.  He threatened to kill her and take me and my sister.

So in the future, shut up unless you understand the situation of abuse.  My prayers are for Jennifer and her children, I hope they get out.

Terri

I am very surprised that Dr. Phil let Michele's ex in-laws continuious attack Michele.  The father stated just now, that he always tried to be nice to Michele and bring her into the family and show her what normal is - ok right!  The way he acted, you can tell he has anger issues and you are usually more demure when in public, he was blasting Michele and then her friend before her friend could get more than two words out. 

He called Michele and slut, whore, prostitute, then he called her and her friend lesbians.  She isn't going to be having men in and out of the house if she's a lesbian.  HELLO!  The ex in-laws were just making stuff up as they went along.  Dr. Phil should have shut them down for a few minutes.  I am glad MIchelle walked off, I would have too.  I was so angry and frustrated for her.

Sometimes in-laws have a problem with anyone marrying their child and it seems that way here.  I know the father of the child is not in the picture, Michele has been taking care of her children without support.  Michele you go girl!

Terri

I am the child of an abusive home.  My father beat the crap out of my mother for 12 years.  There were times she would stand up to him and not be afraid, then he tried to kill her.  I got thrown across the room when I stopped him from going to punch my mother in the face.  This is not about Jennifer's cheating.  Jeffery is sick and deranged.  He married her when she was only 19 years old and he was 30.  He was already looking to control someone.  If you really were in an abusive relationship, you can see in her eyes and in his eyes.  Fear in hers and insanity in his.  My mother finally divorced my father in 1975 when there were no safe houses, no real restraining orders, and it was okay to beat your wife.  My mother tried to run away many times, and he hunted us down.  He choked her, suffocated her, strangled her, shot a gun at her, and beat her with his fists many, many, many times.  Most people didn't know, because she hid it.  Abuse has nothing to do with the the behavior of the one spouse, it is the abuser that has the emotional problem.  My mother never deserved to be beaten, I never deserved to be hit with a 2 x 4 or thrown across the room, but it happened.  My mother told my father, either you kill me or I divorce you, either way I'm leaving.  So please stop everyone who wants to blame Jennifer. STOP STOP STOP!  Because you have no idea what the hell you are talking about!

Terri