Messages By: samanthaf63

The story I got is that "John" an extremely handsome Native American (and yet he was blond) was doing charity work in Nigeria as an engineer.  He said he was a millionaire but couldn't access his funds... and in the midst of it, I ended up with a "cheque" - his word, not mine) for $4,000 that I took to the bank 'cos it looked fishy to me.  Fortunately, it was made out to the wrong last name.  I have a scanned copy of a passport (wonder if it's real?).  Interestingly, the return address came from a location in Florida?  I was expected to send the money to Florida as soon as it was cashed...

 

And fortunately, I gave him my PO box, not my home address.

 

He called once and I told him that he did not sound American.  He said it was a poor connection. I pointed out every piece of Oxford English he used and he brushed past all of it.

 

I am wondering (and I sent a note to Dr. Phil) if the poor guy whose pic it is knows about it?  I have a scanned image of a passport and I'm curious if this guy knows his identity was stolen.

 

If you're in an emotional low spot, it's very easy to be vulnerable to a scam artist.  On the show, these poor women were asked for money after about a month.  This guy waited at least two or three.  I still get messages now, and frankly, I'm curious to see how long he'll try before he realizes he's not getting anything.

He's been messaging me about a year - he found me on AdultFriendFinder.  His profile was subsquently pulled, fyi. 

I didn't see anything stable about him at all except for the support of his mother. I do feel for that lady. But a 35-year-old drug abuser and alcoholic who is living in a halfway house has no business hitting on 20-year-old women in bars and having unprotected sex with them. He just realized that because of his status/station in life, he's not likely to meet anyone else that would be willing to have a kid with him and now he wants to glom onto that.

 

The man can't take care of himself - it is painfully obvious that there's no way he could take care of another. Kudos to Esther who decided to have the baby after all and then find a good home for the child. (I am pro-choice, by the way, but when there's a possibility of a good home for a child, then I am all for adoption.)

 

If this guy ever gets his act together - i.e., a reliable job, several years of sobriety, then maybe he'll be fortunate enough to find someone who will want a baby with him. But to punish an innocent child, a fairly naive young woman who had the misfortune to meet him as well as loving, adoptive parents - no, that's not right.

Men having been chasing younger women for centuries. In the 21st century, women have as much money and prestige as men, so why not do the same thing?  Sexually, younger men and older women are much more compatible (as is the converse, older men and younger women) - so what is the problem. If it makes a couple of consenting ADULTS happy, what is the big deal?

 

I am 44 and had been on an internet dating site.  I was propositioned DAILY and REPEATEDLY by men from age 19 and on up.  I took some of them up on it - sometimes it was fun, sometimes it was tedious. I never wanted to be a sugar mommy, I just wanted some fun. So did they. If anything happened, so what - it would have only been MY business and HIS, and no one else's. For the record, I'm single, never been married, and have (and want) no kids.

I was on a "dating" website and I'm pretty specific about myself - namely, I am a 5' tall BBW. I am careful to show a few pix that illustrate it since the last thing I want is an argument about my size. Well, some ninny "winked" at me, which sent me into gales of laughter.  Just like these jokers, he just thought he was the hottest guy in the Chicago area with the best education, job prospects, car, lifestyle, etc. and he said he wanted to find a woman prettier than his car (a Corvette) and boasting about how superintelligent he was and how he demanded a "hot, well-proportioned woman" who worked out frequently as he did.

 

I sent an email back saying, well, you may be bright but you seem to have MISSED something - I indicated on the website that I am large (the biggest category they had) and the text that explained I was a BBW who didn't work out as often as I probably should.  However, unlike the scum on the show, he actually said, "Well, you have a really pretty face.  Good luck to you." and didn't say anything nastier or more rude. I thought it was a riot that he wasn't smart enough to a) read or b) look at all the pix, despite his Ivy League education and high-income lifestyle.

I just started attending Al-Anon because of the alcoholism of my boyfriend. He broke up with me when he "didn't want to drag me down with him" and then contacted me again because he was supposedly sober... but he relapsed almost immediately. We've been together again for three months and he (supposedly) attends AA now he's lost his job and his home is on the market.  However, he never manages to check into the recovery center as promised... I gave up and contacted Al-Anon.  The folks were really kind to me and said, "No matter what goes on with him, we'd love to have you come back." I had my first visit and my next is this week. I feel so embraced and supported, even after a week.  No one else understands how much I love him and why I put up with it, since I have a good career and a "nice" life.  These folks do. They've "been there, done that" and are still "doing it." I can't wait till my next meeting.