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July 27, 2005, 4:44 am PDT

Morning All

I too have a problem with weight..I like this new site. before I could not post because I was using webtv...I do have a computer now...but still like my webtv...I only need like 15 pounds off but being an older lady..just a litte harder...I too have medication for inflammation and pain and of course one of the side effect is gain weight...i put on 5 pounds since I am taking it GRR. I have arthrites in my left knee..taking therapy for it hope I don't have to take it all my life...makes me very depressed...I am very active..I go to CURVES 3 times a week, pool 3 times a week, therapy 3 times a week...gee what more can I do...any suggestions? JOY
 
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August 6, 2005, 3:55 am PDT

Saturday Morning GRRRR!!!

Sorry..it has been awhile..I kind of lost me..but I am back and still seem to have this weight problem..now I have been going to therapy for building up muscle in my leg..and I have done that..do you think that has made me gain weight? they always say muscle weights more..I gain 5 pounds but it is staying right there..not going up or down..I am eating right and I do exercise every day..I started eating more organic food..in fact I will be checking out this public store close to me..I heard it has lots of organic food...I plan on going to our WLC meeting after therapy this morning..my sister will be going too...I am not real heavy...but don't want to keep gaining..I can't get to my goal...no matter what I do...HELP!!!! joy
 
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August 26, 2005, 3:16 am PDT

Orlando...online
 
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September 12, 2005, 3:04 am PDT

Orlando..here

Good morning...all....back on track..I made a good decision..I found a friend that wanted to meet once a week and just talk about Dr. Phils program and just help each other on our progress...wish me luck...Joy
 
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April 22, 2006, 5:06 am PDT

Good Morning.

I live in Orlando, Fl. So just where do you live? I sure will try to help you..my name is Joy
 
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April 22, 2006, 5:12 am PDT

Orlando here

Quote From: neener331

 my 40th is on the horizon and I would like to lose at least 50 pounds. I know I'll never be a size 5 again but would just like to be healthy and have energy and feel good about myself. I am in the Orlando area and would love to e-mail back and forth or post messages here. Start slow w/excercises if you haven't been doing anything for a long time. Just 5 or 10 minutes a day to start. You can increase weekly until you are up to 20-30 minutes a day. I don't get the chance to get out much so I just set the kitchen timer and walk or jog in place in front of the TV. Its hard to get started but LET'S DO IT!  

You say you live in Orlando...me too we sure can help each other...Do you like to dance...We can talk about that later..e-mail me jfh333@webtv.net
 
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April 23, 2006, 4:23 am PDT

Orlando here why is it I can't seem to POST message..please e-mail me jfh333@webtv.net
 
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April 23, 2006, 4:45 am PDT

I have a 48yr.old living with us..
 
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May 7, 2006, 3:59 am PDT

My 48 lives with us..I remember Dr. Phil has said it is up to the Father to talk to son my step Mother like myself, but my husband is 89 and just can't seem to remember a lot most every thing is up to me..Now what should I do? Joy

Quote From: lucky24

How to Deal With Your Mooching Child
Is your kid still living at home or taking advantage of you financially? If you're struggling with an adult child that can't — or won't — become self-sufficient, Dr. Phil has advice:

  • Understand that over-indulgence is one of the most insidious forms of child abuse. Spoiling your children doesn't teach them how the world works. All you are teaching them is that if they ask enough, you'll give them what they want.

  • Your child is doing what he's doing because he can. Instead of asking why your kid isn't more productive, have a job or goals, ask yourself if you have created an environment in which your child doesn't have to. Can they maintain the standard of living you raised them in without any effort?

  • Learn how to say no. Your children need to learn that if they choose a behavior, they choose the consequences. Don't allow them to keep choosing behaviors that have negative consequences that you pick up the tab for!

  • Don't feel guilty for wanting your children to be out on their own. It does not mean you don't love them. It means that you don't want to rob them of the chance to be self-sufficient, productive adults who are able to have a sense of purpose and pride.

  • Remember that you don't solve money problems with money. You solve money problems with lifestyle, values and priorities. Come up with a plan that contains clear steps and a timeline that both of you can agree upon.

  • If you're frustrated because all of your help thus far hasn't been appreciated, remember that no good deed goes unpunished. Those you do the most for will resent you the most — because it becomes a bottomless pit. The most valuable gift that you can give your children in this situation is to start requiring more of them and allow them to be grownups.

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    Your friend needs a plan of action.  She should lay down the rules on what is acceptable and what is not acceptable behavior in her home.  If her daughter is willing to live by the rules she stays, but with a timeframe in mind for exactly how long (hopefully until the daughter gets the skills or schooling she needs to financially suppport her children.)  If she will not abide by the rules, and they need to be plain and simple rules requiring the daughter to live like an adult, she must be kicked out.   

      

    It is time for tough love.  This adult child needs to know her parents love her enough not to continue to enable her poor behavior and choices.  She is using her children as a way of manipulating her parents into giving in to what she wants.  They must be strong enough to kick her out if she won't take responsibility for her life.  Then, if she does not immediately step up to the plate and take care of her children properly they must seek to get custody of those children to protect them.    

      

    Failure to act now almost assures those grandchildren of the same fate once they become adults. Tell them to toughen up for everyone's sake. 

      

    Good luck. 
     
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    October 8, 2006, 6:34 am PDT

    Your close to Orlando

    Quote From: loseing

        Hello, I live in the Melbourne area , I am looking for someone to exercise with to. My friends do not exercise at the time when I can. I need to lose a lot of weight. I would like the company because I do not  like to exercise alone.
    I love to have a buddy myself. I do live in Orlando east side..takes me 1 hour to drive to Melborne. Just thought we could e-mail each other..I need support too.I start on a program then give up..I get so mad at myself for not sticking with the program diet..keep me posted. jfh333@webtv.net
     
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