Quote From: karolyndownsMy fiance is white and I'm black and they HATE us together! We first got together in Decemeber of 2003 and the moment they found out that I was black, they disowned him. And oh god, they hadn't even met me yet. Then when they finally did, they said I was nice and I ended up moving in with him and his family for a while and for about 9 months, things went great. But then we decided to move about 500 miles away next to my family, and now they hate me with a passion. Now, they call me a golddigger, a n***er, a whore, they tell him that I used to cheat while I lived there and I really didn't. And now, I'm pregnant with his child and they told him it's not even his. Now he wants a blood test when the baby is born, and he's always accusing me for stuff I never even did.
Because of course, to make this story worse, he's kind of a Momma's boy, and I use the words 'kind of' for lack of better words. He listens to everything she says and then he's always stressed out when she gets mad at him for doing stuff for me that he didn't do for her. She's like a little manipulator and he just won't grow up and get it through his head that he's going to be a father soon and he can't keep picking her over us. It's soooo annoying.
*takes a deep breath*
Please, someone. Give me some advice on what I should do.
I wanted to take this to the show, but he said he didn't know if his mom and sisters would agree to it.
Honey, dont listen to that other post who started w/ .."I'm sure U werent raised on a farm"......
Anyways, I am a white female who has dated african-american men for 15 years now. Let me tell you, I have never had the problem of the family not liking me because of my color. But, I will say that I do have a guy now who has the "mamma's boy" syndrome. So, all you can do is hope that the love you two have is strong enough to grow even more when your beautiful baby is born. I also have a bi-racial child, and am PROUD of it !! So, dont let this eat at you now, it will ONLY give the "mother-in-law" more power. It will also effect the health of your baby, as I am sure U already know ! So, maybe U and your man can go away for a weekend, or just try to "re-connect" so he can remember why he fell in love with u, and realize that you two do have a connection, and especially now U need to get back on the "same page" so you can raise the baby in a loving environment. The last thing you want to do is say anything negative about his mother, cuz that will back fire ! You have to find a positive way to say a negative thing.... if U catch my drift ! Good luck, and God bless........
