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My sister is 3 1/2 half years younger then myself. Throughout our younger days, she was the "cute" one. The one most likely to succeed. The precious child. She graduated and moved on to take a succession of jobs, where, in time, she was able to make enough money to have a nice house, nice trappingings, nice vacations, a nice husband. I, on the other hand, was the "experiment" child. I quit school in my sophomore year. I married a man who was 7 years older when I was 19. He was abusive. I had four kids in the early years of our marriage. We lived hand to mouth. In the 23 years we were married, I went on ONE vacation.

My grandmother always told us girls, that when she died there would be enough money in her estate to put a nice down payment on a house.

For Gamma to tell me this was a huge thing. It showed to me that she loved me, and was concerned for my well being.

Gramma fell ill with in-operable lung cancer. A short time before her death, she changed her will to read that my Mother was to be executor to the estate and it was her (gramma) wish that Mom would share in the estate.

My Mom, for what ever reason, decided to keep the majority of the estate (she was an only child). She was going to cut me, my sister and my half brother a small portion of the estate. This was not good enough for my sister. She took steps to find out just how much money was in the estate, and called me to tell me. I told her I had already received my portion and I was happy. It was less then I expected, but it was badly needed as I had recently become divorced. Sis wanted to have me help her in a law suite against my Mother for her "fair share" of Gramma's estate.

I said "NO", I was not going to sue my Mom.

From that time, 10 years ago, I have not heard from my sister. She refused to come to my wedding to my new husband. She has always denied my children. She made snide remarks about having so many children, and not having the finer things in life.

In essence, she is just a money hungry, angry, spoiled bitch.

Truth be told. It's nice to finally be the golden haired child. I love my mother, my step dad, and my brother. They are my family.

Money is just that, money. Green paper that can ruin relationships. Once money is spent what do you have?

As for me, I know I'll have my family.

I just wanted to chime in and say that I am happy to see that Dr. JIM Sears will be one of the featured doctors on Dr. Phil's show, AND on the new show "The Doctors". Dr. Sears' father, Dr. WILLIAM Sears was my children's pediatrician when he had a practice in Pasadena California, wayyyy back in the 1980's.

He was an excellent doctor and an advocate for home birth (which was regarded by the AMA as "child abuse"). He along with Kitty Franz, a lactation consultant, not only provided medical care to my children, but were excellent advocates walking me through a serious illness, and an extended hospital stay before and after my surgery.

Dr. Andrew Ordin has a practice near my home, and I am looking forward to seeing just what he can do.

I'll live vicariously through his patients.

I had MRSA almost two years ago after a surgery at a local hospital, and that, coupled with the lack of money would totally rule out any kind of plastic surgery, so I'll just look in and watch.

My Hubby had surgery today, so we had to be up and out of the house in the wee hours. I already missed THE DOCTORS and was miffed that I forgot to set the VCR. Got home, took a nap with Hubby (he is fine). We woke up just in time to see the new season of Dr. Phil, when TENNIS was on AGAIN. (Big Brother 10 was 50 minutes late last night, and that was bad enough cuz we were supposed to be sleeping).

I called my local CBS affilliate and asked them (even getting to talk to the station manager who is a fello blogger on our local paper, so she knew my "name") and they had no idea when or IF the Dr. Phil show was going to be on later tonight. Nothing was mentionesd in TVGuide.com for any programing changes.

I even looked on the Time warner Cable sight.

So, I'm pleanty pissed right now. No one knows anything and I have exhausted my brain as to who else, or where else to look.

Dr. Phil, I know you play tennis, and love the game, but I am not sports minded, and would rather have seen YOUR show.

I wish SPORTS were broadcast only on the sports channels, like ESPAN. JEEZE, in my area, we have at least 6 different sports only channels, and I don't even have extended cable, where there are even more.

Oh, the only sports I DO watch is football, and even that is ONLY the Chicago Bears!

I missed today's show because Tennis was on, but I think I get the jest of what happened by reading the posts here.

What comes to my mind are the pictures of Casey Anthony whooping it up while she "claims" she was searching for her missing baby, Caylee Anthony.

In this case, however, two things are going on. It shows a mother who has narcissistic behaviors, and someone who is a habitual lier. The pictures clearly show her drinking, and making nasty gestures as well as "girl on girl" simulated pictures.

The pictures also show a time line of events that may be her un-doing.

In another vein, I have edited all of my pictures on my My Space and Yuwie sites. I am a Grandmother, and would never think of showing any sort of erotica, BUT, I did have pictures of my family, with their names. All of the names have been taken off, and cute captions added.

Why did I do this?  If someone were to find out where I live, and it's really not hard to trace someone electronically as I have (genealogy). Think about it. A perp is out there and likes the look of one of my grandkids, and we all know what I am talking about, it could be an easy first step to see their name under their picture, find out where they go to school, and hurt them in some way.

It's a safety factor, just like shredding all of my important documents, or NOT responding to spam email.

I live in a Sothern California town that has seen it's share of H8 in the past two weeks. My town has a large percentage of GLTBQ, many whom attend MY church. I don't understand what all the hoopla is with straight people. Is it the WORD marriage that is problematic here, or is it the "lifestyle"?

If it's the word, maybe try this on for size, MANage, or WOMANage. Is that all it would take to heal everyone? Gay men and women just want the same legal rights that we straight people want. The civil union dosen't cover all the laws. So, if we expand the civil commitment to include all of the laws that we married people have, will that be enough?

Truthfully, I don't think it will stop there for straight people. It's the idea, the "act" they dispise, with many more men who object then women. Don't think so, go to your local paper and find the blog section and read.

I'm a straight female, married, with children and grandchildren. I have gay friends. Half my church is gay, and my pastor stands on equal rights for GLBTQ persons. I have never, ever heard any of my gay friends complain, or threaten as much as the straight community.

You are who you are, straight or gay. Remember, God does not make mistakes.

In closing, I asked my boss if he was gay. He sheepishly asked me why I would think that. I said to him, "IT'S NOT WHO YOU LOVE, IT'S THAT YOU LOVE".  That should be enough for any of us.

First of all, I will NOT be watching this program Dr. Phil.

The Pastor at First Baptist Church in Dallas, TX preached a wonderful sermon last Sunday and will continue the sermon topic tomorrow; Homosexuality is a sin.  These same sex couples are just flaunting their sin in the faces of America.  The constitution doesn't protect their rights to sin anymore than it gives someone permission to steal and to murder.  The two sermons are available from the church.  About 100 protesters picketed the church last Sunday and they vow to return tomorrow.  The Pastor did a fantastic job presenting the word of God on this subject yet the homosexuals and even their parents and children were ugly about how they felt about the word of God telling THEM that they were wrong."""""

If your pastor is preaching on a political subject then your church ought to loose it's tax exemption. Preaching from the pulpit in this manner insigts and inflames people. Those people then feel free to go out and discriminate against others because they heard this or that at church.

I know where MY pastor stands. Not because he preaches about this matter, or any other political matter from his pulpit, but because we know him away from the four walls of the church.

He is not a hatefilled, fearful person.

He is open minded enough to understand that we are ALL God's children.

I have to wonder, all these do gooder people, straight men, married men, how many cheat on their wives? How many straight women chest on their husbands? Yeah, it's a preety sizable number. How many of those people go to church every Sunday? Yep, hiding behind your religion.

How dare any church from allowing their gay members from recieving the Sacrement of Communion. God never made that a law, Jesus never made that a law.

Now, on the other hand, the SACREMENT of marriage is for "the procreation of children". I asked my pastor to not include that part of my wedding vows, because I had a hysterectomy a few years earlier. He said that part remains. GLBTQ men and women are not asking to have the SACREMENT of Marriage. They want a legal union that affords them ALL the same laws as hetro's have. Is that too much to ask? Apperantly so, and it's more then a shame, it's wrong!

I know a few gay couples that have adopted children. They are wonderful parents. Many times gay couples adopt children that are "unadoptable". Kids with special needs, older children, children that "normal" people don't want.

People, you ought to look further then the end of your nose. Sure, there are gay's who would like to shove their "agenda" down your throught, BUT the vast majority just want to live in peace and be included in the laws we hetro's have.

There are shovers in all areas of life. We say we don't like porn, but we buy it or look at it on line. The porn industry shoves it down our throught, right? Don't you ever wonder WHY it's still out there? Cuz there are a lot of men doin' the lookin' and lots of women showing men what they want to see.

While we are at it....I have always had the option of opting one of my children out of a class if I found it objectional. No now one is going to "teach" your child anything you don't want them to. Be aware of what is being taught in your schools. YOU have the right to approve or not.

Sixty or so years ago, interracial relationships, let alone marriages were not just damned, but were ILLEGAL.  We saw the light, saying colour and race has nothing to do with love.  Now, I know several interracial relationships.  These decent people have to try twice as hard to be just as accepted due to some stuffed shirts or people who seem not to have enough of their own troubles at home that they have to go mind everyone else's business.~~~~

AMEN! I have SEVEN grand children. Six of them are (German, English, Dutch, and Hungarian) AND Mexican-American. The seventh, my beloved grand daughter is also African-American. The OP still give my husband and myself stares when we are out. We say, screw em'. This is MY heritage, our future, and if someone dosen't like it, look the other freaking way!

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