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February 9, 2007, 5:57 pm PST

'She never let her self fall out of shape "just because" she has babies or got married.'

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I saw nothing wrong with what the first gentlemen had to say about wanting to protect what he had worked for his entire life.

I think he is definitely smarter in business than in life or he would not have met his wife on line, married in four months if he had so much to lose. But she appears not to of held up her end of the bargain and thought that she was marrying a man with cash and thought she lucked out.

My problem with this is it seems of late Dr. Phil is making the men more accountable than the women. We have brains to, and need to be held accountable for our actions. If you send the message to your teen girls watching they will never get that they need to think this through. We are not entitled to anything in this life. . And if we make a bad decision need to be held accountable for it. I personally think it is because he has a woman of integrity that never made him work for the things some of these men are working for

She was there when there was no money; she loved him just as much then as she does now. She never let her self fall out of shape "just because" she has babies or got married.

She loves her husband and wants to make him happy. That is why I think he has a bit more difficult time when having to tell woman hey, you are out of shape and that wasn't what he signed up for. Or telling them you do need to get off your butt and have the house clean when he comes home from a hard day at work. He never had to decipher what a good wife was. Robin wanted to be that person for him. That is love. And what some of these women do is basically dishonest. Bait and switch if you will.

The woman on the show today did not work for these things and seems to get quit a bit our of the marriage for her and her sons who by the way are not his yet still get taken care of. She is just pissed off that she married a rich guy that didn't allow himself to be wife whipped. Good for him.

I had to highlight those words to the other posters, many of whom I'm sure will admire how easy you found it was to to get your shape back after having a baby. Or two. Or three. Just because.
 
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February 12, 2007, 3:17 pm PST

is group therapy REALLY this judgemental???

I've never participated in group therapy, but is what we saw today typical of group therapy, when all three couples were gathered to hear Nic (sp?) and Amanda's story?

I mean, did Dr. Phil REALLY need to ask the opinions of the two other ladies about Amanda's stripping??? C'mon, he should have known or anticipated that their responses would upset Amanda--it's not like anybody in that room is levelheaded and could be expected to respond in a levelheaded, rational manner.

I thought that was just counterproductive, and just pandering to the reality-show-TV/drama enthusiast. I would think a professional would know better than to elicit and encourage a judgemental atmosphere in a therapy session.

And as for my own personal thoughts on "exotic dancing": I would have a really hard time with my fiance going to a strip club--and have told him in no uncertain terms--but I also cannot easily look down my nose at a woman who does it for a living. I met a woman who was a stripper, and she struck me as a very sweet person. I was sad when I stopped going to the workout place where she went, too, because I wanted to get to know her more.

Yes, it's sad, and it's not right, but I don't know if I can see it in such black and white terms.




 

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