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I have to disagree with you here; respectfully, no one is born homosexual. I am sorry if this offends you (or anyone else) but that is simply not true. And evolution is totally out of the question! honestly! human beings did not evolve from apes and people did not evolve to become homosexuals. This isn't even an 'anomoly'! and it is fixable, it is fixable because being a homosexual means that you are making a [b]choice[/b] to be with a same-sex partner.  

This can change; however, it isn't if the person chooses not too. And being 'Born gay' is a stupid excuse to justify something to yourself. I however, don't care who you have [i]the-mairried-thing-with[/i]. That is your choice, but no one is born to be a homosexual. God created Man and women to populate the earth, which obviously means that the man needs to get with the woman so that they can have children! (after they are married of course) 

P.S. I don't care if you flame me -- that is my opinion and it shall stand!  

Okay, one thing, the Government will not make any laws against homosexuality or any such thing. First that being that many states all ready have laws against people marrying others of the same sex and other states legalizing the marriage.  

Second -- America's Constituion says "Life, liberty and the pursuite of happiness" -- if being a homosexual makes that person happy and that is the way they want to live their own life. Than the Government has no control over it. Just like how the Government has no control over the press.  

Thirdly -- there are many religions in America, and not all of them acknowledge the Christian God. Therefore, godlyness has several different deffinitions (however, I like the Christian one the best) 

Fourthly -- Just because someone has in CAPS their oppinions about homosezuality, doesn't nessecarily mean that they are gay. It probably means that this subject makes them very, very upset.  

Fith-ly -- There is such a thing as minding ones own buisness! savvy? 

Look, here is the run down... 

Your son is  TWENTY-ONE! he is old enough to have a sexual (though I hope it does not come to that) relationship with a women if he likes. I am just glad that this woman isn't a teen, then you'd definantly have a bloody problem on your hands! You also NEED to T-R-U-S-T that your son will know what a good decision is.  

Besides; this girls maturity level may balance out some of your son's neivety. And they may have something in common, like a favorit book, movie, television program, or a major in school. And maybe, they aren't even together. They could probably be friends. Though from what you are saying I must assume that they are more than friends. 

Also, your children aren't stupid! savvy? 

I have to say that; this bullie buisness can go over the line pretty quickly. I worked in a  liquore store for almost three weeks before my boss sexualy harassed me. needless to say. I got out of there quickly and I am taking action. I've brought him to court. I didn't think it would happen, but the DA has evidence! how awsome is that? 

I was 20 when this happened. (now I am 21) 

I honestly hate parents who do this to their kids! the kids are to have fun and learn about life. How can they do that if their parents are pushing them to be something that they aren't? What if the child likes to draw? or write? or something else that isn't competetive?  

Why is it that most of these pushy parents have children in competative activities?  

Now, I am not saying ALL parents are pushy, mine aren't, and I am not talking to anyone on these boards. I'm talking to the parents on this episode of 'Dr. Phil'. All they are doing is teaching their kids that it is all about THEM [Parents] and the money and fame they [PARENTS] can get. 

If the child wants to be a music star, that's fine. But bloody get of the stupid criticism! honestly, she doesn't want to hear "You suck!" she wants to hear, "You did very well". Parents are supposed to support their children (not in bad habbits mine). In this case; the child should have been told that she did and that maybe she should work on one of her weeknesses that had been obsurved during the show. 

I'm a writer, and what I do I will get rejected. I am not planning on getting book published if it's concidered crap; this means that I will have to go back and edit and change the weeknesses in the book. No, I shant be happy about it, but it is what I need in order to do better. 

However, contructive criticism, and destructive flaming is a NO! NO! 

Errrg -- I have to say that the Mother and Sister first on the show P.O.ed me off big time! 

I mean, the little sister talked more than the big sister! I think that Angela didn't have a chance to actually explain exactly what problems she had. What she would want her younger sister and Mom to do in order to make their relationships better. 

Grrrrrr --- honestly! 

I shall say F-L-A-M-E and leave it at that!  

I for one spend a heck of a lot on my computer because I write. I have a busy enough life and sometimes I would like to take a bloody break. So excuse me if I put my two sence in! honestly! 

I also want to say; that parents teach their kids what to live. If a pageant parent goes all out and tell's their daughter that they MUST be perfect, they must do this or that in order to win...well, that is just as bad as feeding your kid way too much and enabling them to become obese. 

I wasn't a good writer when I was little; but my Mum didn't push me to become the next 'Steven king' or 'George Lucas'. She read my stuff and told me that I had a lot to work on but over all it was nice.  

In this case; if your child wants to go to these pageants, or be a model, go ahead and do what you can finacially. That is, without putting the family at risk of debt. In my honest opinion; it is probably a passing phase and the child will grow out of it.  

I also say you tell her the truth; but not until you put in your work noticed that your quitting. Then, you simply tell her that you are moving, you don't need to say anything more, and you can always say just "The U.K" to her as well. Most people think of London when U.K. come up anyway. 

Secondly, you don't need to listen to her either; just shut her down. You don't need to be rude but I would say something like "What I do in my personal life is my own bloody buisness so get off it!"  

Sorry, but it sounds as if you just let this woman walk all over you; I don't like people who do that. 

Okay, here is the problem.

I am the oldest of five. My siblings range in ages of 12 -- 16. There are two 13 year olds as well. Anyway.

My brother has this thing of yelling at Mom (she handles it well, this is more about me). His tone makes me hurt because I love my Mom very much. She's helped me through a lot of crap this past year because I was going to get married. Anyway, as the oldest, I am not sure what I should do. I usually stay out of it but it makes me so mad and there isn't anything I can do.

I'll tell him to shut up with that tone and not to talk to her like that, but then he just tells me to shut up.

I am seriously thinking about calling the police the next time he takes this tone with Mom.

Does anyone have any suggestions for and oldest daughter who has no clue what she should do?