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May 2, 2006, 9:05 am PDT
 Quote From: purplepain I really don't want to start a sahm/daycare debate. They never go anywhere. I do understand that there are times when it's needed, but I don't think the majority of kids in daycare need to be there. I also resent the idea that a SAHM like me, who gladly sacrifices things like a nice car, a house, a yard, nice clothes and eating out to stay at home and mother my child myself, all day everyday is the same level of mother as someone who's kids are in daycare all day long. Not saying that you hold that idea and I'm not saying that is what you were saying either. I just am putting my two cents on the table. Maybe, if you don't really want your kids in daycare you could move to an area where it's easier to live on one income (it's never super easy, it depends on your willingness to sacrifice certain things. Like I said, we don't have many material things. I also want to say that I don't think kids are damaged by daycare either. I mean obviously. Millions of kids are in daycare and I know of no studies that show that kids in daycare are worse off for it. First off, my message was not directed to you but since you decided to put in your two cents I hope you are ready for mine. I'm sorry you resent me for making a different choice than you. If you think I/my husband don't sacrifice maybe you should live our life for a while and then you can say. We don't have a yard either but we are lucky enough to own a 3 bed townhome with great schools for the kids. Our mortgage is about what rent would be in most areas for a 2 bed and the fact we have made $200K in equity in three years I consider that a very wise investment. We own our cars outright and they are a 1994/1998-not new and shiny. The only "nice"clothes either of us have are usually needed for work. Also, we have zero credit card debt. Yes, we could live in a cheaper area but we don't see uprooting our kids and their support systems just so I don't have to work. That's the sacrifice I glady make. So, you see, you are not the only self-sacrificial parent out there. I'm sorry your hubby can't provide a more comfortable living for you and yours but that's not here or there, is it? Next, I have no problem with a woman who can stay home and provide for her family yet don't you dare look down on me for not having that option. There are things that a higher income can provide for kids that are positive. You're right we are not on the "same level" but you are not better than me and vice versa. It's too bad not all of us can accept that we are all just doing what we can and what we think is best for our kids. It's your attitude that you think you're above me and doing more that really irks me. I don't put down SAHM's but I will defend ALL MOMS who are doing they're best regardless of their personal choices. I guess maybe the fact I can look beyond my own circumstances and accept other's lifestyles shows a level of maturity you haven't reached yet.
To close, I do get tired of hearing how little time SAHM's have and yet their message boards have over 500+ postings compared to the less then 60 postings on the WM's boards..hmmmm..... I have never said SH was easy, in fact, I think if it's done right it can be really rough. It's the attitude that you are "better than" or "above" that bothers me. There's my 2 cents...and then some.
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May 2, 2006, 1:56 pm PDT
Quote From: purplepain I suggest you read my post again. None of it was directed at you specifically. Just getting something off my chest. And as for my post count. I don't even SIT to post. I also type 60+ words a minute. Plus I post when my daughter naps mostly or after she is in bed. I find it enjoyable. While you are at work do you interact with other adults? Have conversation that are enjoyable? Laugh at jokes? Have a serious debate now and then about current events? I'm SURE you do. SAHM's really can't do that with their kids. So we do it ONLINE. The internet is a HUGE releif to those of us who have NO ONE to talk to most of the day. You DO have people to talk to most of the time. I only responded because I got the feeling maybe you wished you were a stay at home mom. If you don't then that's cool. As I said before, kids aren't damaged by being in daycare. I just personally like being the one raising my daughter the majority of the time. Maybe us sahm's are over protective. I'm a live and let live person, but my ONLY petpeeve about this is that I am a mom 24/7 not evenings and weekends. I am directly responsible for my daughters upbringing and it's hard but extremely enjoyable. I thought you were saying you wanted to be a sahm. sorry if I misunderstood. Purple,
Yes, I did read it again and yes, it was directed towards me since my post was included. I'm glad you used me to vent your anger from the rude comment however, maybe next time you have some guts and stand up to the person who made the comment- not some stranger. Next, I never commented on YOUR number of posts just the amount in general from SAHM's who are so busy doing EVERTYHING that they have that kind of time. No matter what you say, a SAHM has more downtime during the day than a working Mom. As for lunches/vacation days etc- I know a single Mom of 2 who uses her lunch periods to grocery shop, run errands and volunteer at her both her son's schools (every week) so the weekends are not tied up by that. Yes, I do have ADULT convos during the day. It's too bad with so much out there geared for at home Moms you can't seem to get more interaction than the Internet. Hmmm....Next, I can't really say I wish I was an at home Mom, never really thought about it. I do what I HAVE to do (vs. what I want) for my kids. Food, clothes and housing are not cheap. So, is your hubby only a Dad on weekends/holidays, too? I do not believe SAHM's have it so bad. Most that I know seem to find a good balance and they have outlets available that they take advantage of. ( For example, you'd probably be surprised to know my hubby/I do not have any of our parents close for date nights and the like.) There are tons of things (at least in my area) specifically geared for at home Moms and also retail stores with discount days so that a lot of at home Moms (if they are willing) can really have a productive day with their kids AND have adult interaction to some degree. Just think how angry that ONE comment made you...then think about the SEVERAL comments a WM gets every day. Thanks for the apology.
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May 2, 2006, 4:11 pm PDT
Quote From: purplepain No, you're wrong. Nothing I said was directed at you exactly. I got confused about who was responding to what (another message board I use does things backwards) I not sure what you are talking about, with everything that is geared for sahm's...sorry my area has no such things. I don't even know what the hell you are talking about. I just know you are getting severely defensive and I apologized to you. You don't really accept it from what I can see. I get those comments CONSTANTLY...I get told that I'm wasting my life and my brain, that I am worth SOOOOOO MUCH MORE! I hear this stuff all the time. Again, sorry I took it out on you...not sure I want to give you a second apology. I'm not a prideful person but when a person apologized they are humbling themselves and you pretty much spit on my apology. My husband and I don't go on dates either, we can't afford it much and we don't have anyone to watch our daughter. Again...it's nice that YOUR area has things for sahm's but mine does not. So lets both of us chill out, I'm sure we are both very nice people and I will apologize now for the third time for taking my anger out on you. I don't care how people live their lives as long as they aren't hurting their children. But please don't tell me how much down time I have like you know. You know NOTHING about my life or how I live it just like I know nothing about you. Frankly, you owe me an apology now too. Forth time, I'm sorry for taking my anger out on you. Lets just make up.I don't want to fight on these boards, debate is one thing, but not fighting. We each see life differently and grass probably seems greener now and then. If I had a job then I would get a pay check and "respect" from people. You say working mom's get comments several times a day, well then, that is all I was saying, maybe the grass seems greener on my side sometimes. To each her own. I get as many comments as you do I'm sure... Here is my peace offering, something ANY mom will get a kick out of. Please enjoy (it's an email I got from my MIL) and again, accept my apology for using you as my punching bag: "Why God made moms" answers given by elementary school age children to the following questions...Be sure to read the story at the end..... Why did God make mothers? 1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is. 2. Mostly to clean the house. 3. To help us out of there when we were getting born. How did God make mothers? 1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us. 2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring. 3. God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just used bigger parts. What ingredients are mothers made of? 1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world and one dab of mean. 2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they mostly used string, I think. Why did God give you your mother and not some other Mom? 1. We're related. 2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's moms like me. What kind of little girl was your Mom? 1. My Mom has always been my Mom and none of that other stuff. 2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty bossy. 3. They say she used to be nice. What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him? 1. His last name. 2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get drunk on beer? 3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores? Why did your Mom marry your dad? 1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats a lot. 2. She got too old to do anything else with him. 3. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on. Who's the boss at your house? 1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because dad's such a goof ball. 2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff under the bed. 3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than dad. What's the difference between moms and dads? 1. Moms work at work & work at home, & dads just go to work at work. 2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them. 3. Dads are taller & stronger, but moms have all the real power 'cause that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at your friend's. 4. Moms have magic; they make you feel better without medicine. What does your Mom do in her spare time? 1. Mothers don't do spare time. 2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long. What would it take to make your Mom perfect? 1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of plastic surgery! 2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue. If you could change one thing about your Mom, what would it be? 1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get rid of that. 2. I'd make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it and not me. 3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on her back. Have a nice day Kira :) Sorry you felt I "spit" on your apology. I did not. I just feel you are taking out your bad time on me because it's convenient. I ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY. Next, where do you live? Here is a list of things I'm sure exist in almost all areas but I could be wrong:
1) PTA public schools- meetings are at 12:45 in the afternoon. Great way to be involved- if I could go. 2) Public Library- Story Time, Family Hang Time (Fri-Sat Nights, too) Study Time, Snack Time, Puppet Shows- all ages, all times..but during the day and it's FREE! 3) MOPS- You can find meetings with other MOPS locally ...try the Internet for your area. 4) Parks- Always a good way to meet people if you are willing. 5) Local Super Cuts- Usually on weekday from like 9A-noon haircuts are $10. 6) Local Chain Restaurants- Kids eat free certain times and/or buy get one free stuff. Try Denny's. 7) Gymboree/Mommy and Me Classes- Again check Internet for your area. 8) Local Community Center- Usually has dance, finger painting, music classes, etc fairly cheap and sometimes, free. Classes run during daytime hours- I'm working. 9) Check theme parks- In Cal. (my state) Legoland has a deal for like $50/year once a week/month on Thursdays Moms can get together at the Park and hang from like 8-2. Pretty neat I thought. 10) Movies- Matinees are first showing of the day like around 10A or so and kids are usually free under 2 or 3.
Hope this helps. I'm sorry for whatever I said that you feel was wrong. My goal as a MOM is to try and find common ground and be helpful no matter if someone is doing it like me. I just think too many SAHM's don't see that the grass is not always greener and tend to lash out. Take care!
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May 2, 2006, 8:41 pm PDT
Quote From: hlpingkids Yes I am married, ten years this year. Yes, I have kids. I work with children at risk and with their families to assist them in learning alternatives to what isn't working and prevent removal of their children. I'm not a CPS worker, we work at ground zero...right in their homes.
I'm not passing judgment. I truly believe, as history itself indicates, that the more we focus our attention outside of the home with work, errands, playing catch up on our days off etc we are losing critical perspective and that is our children. Does that mean I think two parents that work and send a child to daycare are horrible people? Heck no. Do I believe that same family needs to be dang sure their family is first rather than material? You bet. Is our society going downhill rapidly and our kids more and more out of control because parents have less and less time? Absolutely and I can't ignore why that might be happening which is based on studies, statistics as well as my own conjecture.
As for You seem to speak a lot about a variety of things with authority so I'm just trying to get a handle where you're coming from. I've been on my own since age 13, have more life experience under my belt than anyone should have, have been an advocate for children avidly for six years now, I'm self employed in that very business and I refuse to toss out my lil ole porn pile LOL. And that is the majorly SHORT version lol.
Dang I hope that made sense, it's been a really longgg day. Hello there...well certainly being on your own since 13 makes you a good candidate to do what you do. I believe you do great work. However, I cannot really buy that it doesn't/hasn't ever taken you away from something you could be doing with your kids/husband for a prolonged amount of time. Maybe you have family that can help, maybe not. Maybe your hubby has a flexible schedule or not. Who knows. But your point that all of society is spiraling because of materialistic, selfish parents- that just sounds one sided. In my demographic, I see so called Devoted, Dedicated, All Sacrificial SAHM's that yes, they are at the schools and all that however, they don't really interact with their kids much. It's more "Look at me, look at me" I believe a big part of the reason for out of control kids (again my opinion only ) is too many parents don't say no and set boundaries. I see this over and over in my area. Yes, I work and yes, I put them in daycare. Are they greedy little brats making 3 page Christmas lists? NO WAY! Do they earn all the "extras" they have? Yes, they do and if they can do it at 4 and 7 teenagers can do it ,too. I am probably one of the strictest parents I know and my hubby and I are told over and over how nice it is to see parents being parents. We are both extremely involved in both of their schools and with most of their teachers, too. I don't expect a medal- just some tolerance that no matter what the situation (working, not, single parent) we ALL can be the parents our kids need. I really get irked at comments directed towards the thread of "women raising their own kids"....whatever. I think a lot of at home Moms have more help in a lot of areas and don't really appreciate what they have sometimes. Well, like someone once said...the grass is always greener. Take care!
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May 3, 2006, 2:37 pm PDT
Quote From: hlpingkids Of course things have happened to take me away from child rearing/family, but I did my best to limit those times and decide if they were important enough. I have not said being a SAHM is for everyone or the "right" thing to do, but I also don't/won't ignore the glaring impact it has had on society as a whole over time. That doesn't mean you are a bad person, failing your kids or family or anything else. If it works for you and yours than GREAT.
My point is and has been that those that choose to have children, yet are materialistic from the get go, will never put those children FIRST. Society has an ever growing need for more more more and our children are paying the price.
I have no idea why you are as angry as you are about this topic, but because someone types their thoughts doesn't mean "Insert Name Here is FAILING FAILING FAILING". Dr. Phil has always been right in that anger is not at all about "anger", but the true emotions that make one feel it. First, even you admit things have happened that were "more important" at one time or another than your own family. That sounds a little contradictory with your motto of Family Comes First. Secondly, the "glaring impact of the SAHM on society " thing...you never said is that good or bad? I believe, yes, materialistic people do not generally put their kids first but most of those types don't have kids. Next, I believe (for what it's worth) that lazy/selfish/unmotivated people who have kids AND don't want to work OR raise them is the bigger problem. I cannot accept that the MAJORITY of what you see in terms of helping kids/families stems from materialism. Maybe I'm wrong. I think they are much bigger issues within society (and I'm sure you'll agree to some end) that we need to focus on that are creating the spiral but so many seem focused on the perceived well-to-do. I guess that's an easy thing to do for most...the cases of the haves vs. the have-nots to some degree. I know so few dual-income families that have the perceived extravagances most begrudge them for. Also, it seems odd to me that if a woman stays home and has "nice" things it's OK yet if a child is in daycare and the FAMILY enjoys regular vacations, etc. that's looked down on. My point is that you never know until you've been there, it's easy to look at from the outside and make judgments. I KNOW I am not failing but to have it implied (whether you own it or not) that my situation is contributing to the fall of society...well, that doesn't sit too well. |
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May 7, 2006, 3:15 pm PDT
Quote From: mommiebot OK maybe I don't. I think chickens and horses would be a no -no there. I think things here are geared more toward working parents. 1) PTO is at 6:30PM- when I'm cleaning up dinner and helping 3 kids with baths and homework. 2) Public Library - 30 min. away, only offers a lot of that in summer. 3) MOPS whats that? 4) Parks- my kids are in school. 5) Local Super Cuts- I thought you'd found a new slaughter house for me to try. 6)Local chain restaurants- It's either all day on a certain day or after 5 PM here.(no Denny's) 7)Gymboree etc.- again no babies. 8)Local Comm. Center -again in town and fees are higher for non-city residents. 9) Theme parks- 3 hours away in all directions. 10)Movies- Matinees are only shown when school is out at 11 AM, otherwise it's at around 3PM which is conveniently enough when my littlest still has 30 min. of school left.
I don't think the grass is greener where you are. I stay at home because I can. We could have a lot more stuff if I worked at a paying job, but then who'd take care of the farm? I, like Purple, am always being thrown little remarks about not working at a "real job" in addition to home. The one I love most is " How do you stand it ?I'd be so bored!". Deep thinking from women who's main objective for the week is acrylic fingernails and a pedicure. Now, I'm trying to be funny....I don't really think that about every WM...just the ones I know....Ha ha. Actually I know some SAHM who have the same set of priorities, and I don't get them either. I get you... you work, then you come home and work some more, often after everyone else is in bed. I work from the time I get up until after everyone else is in bed. Got laundry goin' right now. We are basically the same...we care about our home and families. Be happy we are that way.....a lot of people aren't....But then what do I know? I'm just a SAHM. Mommiebot-
WOW! You have made some interesing conclusions and I'm a little perplexed. So, again, here I am to set the record straight. First, had I known I was speaking with someone who I thought had school age kids I might have made a different list. Nonetheless, I hope it helped who it was intended for. Second, might I suggest that you and other SAHM's really learn to confront all these nasty comments with the person/people who actually make them. I could make several of my own "funny" comments, however, I don't see that kind of behavior as a benefit to my kids as their role model. Next, the chicken/horse comment bewilders me as my area has A LOT of ranch/horse properties which is what we're known for so where you draw that conclusion is beyond me. It sounds like you have a nice life for your family in an area that you are comfortable in. I have the same. Our lives are very different but work for both of us. Myself, if I have to drive more than one mile and can't find a grocery store or gas station I start to panic-lol. Also, as I have said to Purple, for me to uproot all my kids have ever known so I can have the luxury of SH doesn't really seem beneficial to anyone but me. Last, your manicure/pedicure comments are FAR FROM FUNNY! It just shows your lack of tolerance and vision for anyone/anything outside your own backyard. FYI- I do get a pedicure every two YEARS when we go for family vacation and I do wax my brows for a whopping total of $20/month- yeah, that's why I work 40 hours a week for that huge extra! All in all, I just get tired of hearing about the poor SAHM who has nothing and the evil WM who pawns her kids off to daycare to get massages and manicures. It's tedious. I guess I have realized that most who make those comments are really just that - very one-sided. To absorbed in their own world to truly experience life and all it has to offer. |
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May 8, 2006, 5:03 pm PDT
Quote From: purplepain I think you got a little defensive, she made it clear that she knows working moms and sahm's who are both those vacant "pedi/mani" types...I think that is a sad part of our sex, not a product of staying home or not. Women like that make us all look stupid...LOL SAHM's hear the ignorant comments about how we are kept and how we must not have much to offer the world. WM's hear that they abandon their kids and whatnot. It's hard to be a WOMAN in this world. BTW, your list didn't help me, but you didn't know that my daughter is two (turned two a week ago)...it's hard, but it's what I signed up for. I knew the first few years would be lonely and hard. Like I said, I signed up for it. I also get the benifits too. So, each side has their ups and downs. I personally never plan to make any comments back to people who make these remarks other then gently correcting them. That woman who made that remark to me, I still don't know if I will ever say much back to her. What could I say? LOL...anything I say would just sound lame and defensive and she's have her own answer back. So let her think what she thinks. And those who do think I'm a waste of a mind or whatever people think about me, they'll see (or they won't, whatever) I plan to go to school and I plan to start working on a book I've been writing for the last few years again. I normally don't care about these comments, some do push my buttons though. And I've learned a lesson. I really thought you'd be WILLING to do things with your daughter and that's why I sent the list. Gymboree, Mommy/Me, The Park and community center classes like dance and finger painting always sounded like fun. I'm also sorry you seem to feel these years are "lonely and hard"....maybe it's not a lot of fun for your daughter either if that's your attitude. I remember taking both my boys when they were 2 (and even younger) on all kinds of weekend and day trips. The River, jet skiing, airplanes- you name it we did it. I don't understand that attitude...I can't do this or that....whatever. It's all if you are willing to put out the effort. In fact, just two years ago (June 2004) when my youngest was 2 we flew to Cancun Mexico and it was awesome! This year was Hawaii. Sounds like you are in a funk. Also, my niece is 2 and she does tons of things with her Mom- ballet, swim- so I really don't know why you can't do those things...maybe you won't. Truthfully, this is EXACTLY what I think A LOT of SAHM's go through but never talk about and that is very dangerous. They let on like it's sunshine and roses 24/7 and it's not. From your posts, I don't think you have said anything that would make me even consider staying home. To close, these are the best years. When they get older you become less and less needed. For some, that's hard to deal with. |
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May 9, 2006, 9:53 am PDT
Hello there. Funny that you see what I was trying to say. Even though we are on different sides of the fence we see things very similarly. My point was simply all of us, no matter what end of the spectrum, could sit and whine and complain and blame the world for what we don't have. I know a lot of WM's who do this, too. Instead, I try to focus on the positives I do have in my life- I do have GREAT kids, I have a very loving and supportive family (in laws, too) even if they aren't close to help out, I have a great husband and yes, I do have employable skills which gives me the ability to also provide for my family. At the end of the day, it's good to know my kids are taken care of. That's my goal- providing for my children. Some can do that on one income, we can't. I also challenge the thought process of some who think that once school starts that free time is in abundance. I beg to differ! I think it only gets harder. No more doing things by my schedule (whatever that may be) now it 's time to be here or there at certain times, homework (yes, even in Kindergarten), PTA, after school stuff and volunteering gets rough especially if you have more than one. In fact, our goal is to try and figure out how I can stay home in the next couple of years when my youngest starts. We were able to juggle this long and be there for the oldest but I want the same level for the other. Not sure if we can do that with two...we'll see. Somehow we'll get by. BTW, the choosing vs. having to work issue...I look at it like we all make choices..mine are simply to pay the bills! Yes, I feel I have to work to provide what's important to me...I could SH and get welfare and have nothing for my kids but I work and provide medical, dental and vision benefits for us, retirement via pension and 401K, soon college deductions, Christmas Club money and the list goes on. Again, choices I make for my kids and my house. I don't think there's anything glorious about raising kids in poverty. Good to see you back! |
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May 12, 2006, 7:13 am PDT
2nd time (actually 3rd post) so I hope this gets through. See a lot of that going on. Anyhow, for Purple, I ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY. I just hope you see your back handed comments are noticed along with the lack of respect. I think it's unrealistic to bash someone (bad day or not) then say sorry and expect them to play nice. Anyhow, my two cents:
BALANCE:- I think all Moms try to find it one way or another. For the SAHM it may be adult stuff and for the WM just time to decompress. I cannot and will not try to say SH is easier than working- I think each has it's pros and cons. I can only speak from my side as I have never stayed home. I really commend any parent who seems to find the perfect balance - even Dads. Although, the post about Dads who are viewed differentlyy than Moms...I am lucky I guess. Mine will take off work, leave early and has turned down promotions so he can be with his family.
PECEPTION:- To me, this is really critical. We all ( including myself) have a tendency to see one side of things- our own. I can see how SH can be tough- I have never denied that. Personally, I don't think I'm wired to stay home and do it the way I think it should be done. Some find gret joy every minute of every day - I don't think that would be me. Others, like Amy, really give it 100% to make it work and I think that's great, too. I feel a lot say in one breath they love it and in the same breath how difficult it is . Doesn't sound to me like it's a lot of fun whe I hear these things. For example, if someone sees a WM with a nice SUV what are the comments like? If a SAHM has the same SUV how do the comments differ? You never know...the WM's job could pay for the SUV and the at home Moms hubby could be a jerk...you just never know. It's easy to look at another situation from one view and make judgments.
I hope this clears up what I seem to have trouble getting across. Take care all. I'm running late for my son's field trip. I get to go...I'm very excited.
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May 13, 2006, 12:38 pm PDT
Well, Amy, since you asked...I have to say comments for me come in spurts. Usually, they are in abundance when school starts. Again, I tend to be in a higher end neighborhood and the norm is the SAHM. So my time/presence at the school is limited and that brings looks. It also seems to depend where I'm at and what I'm doing, too. I've learned that there are just times and places I don't bring that up unless absolutely necessary because I don't want the looks or the fight. However, when people see what I'm all about they get over it. I'd have to say between work and home I heard/experienced a comment on average about every few months. My oldest is 7 1/2 (8 in July) so that's a long time, I think. Also, women have gone so far to say things to him directly and that's even worse! I agree 100% with the competitive/superficial thing, too, but again in my area that's the norm. As far as the daycare thing, just to clarify that a bit. I have never said or heard that kids NEED daycare to be social but that does seem to be a benefit from that environment. I think that comment stems from the flood of negative comments about daycare from people who may have had or heard about a bad experience. For me, I have absolutely no complaints whatsoever about the care my two received. Also, my oldest is a year younger in age than most of his classmate who were "held back" because they weren't ready socially for school- and their Moms stayed home! So, for me, what I have seen of daycare (even part time or preschool for a year or so) it can be a good thing. Daycare/child care is not necessary but children from that enviroment are exposed to different cultures/personalities and tend to be more independent at an earlier age. Good or bad...depends on the point of view. |
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