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October 29, 2007, 3:22 pm PDT

You are off basis

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If you had raised a child for 9 years, loved him/her, cared for him/her, would it really matter to you after 9 years if they were biologically yours? I am totally putting aside Maria's behavior which really doesn't matter in my eyes. This guy shouldn't give a crap. He shouldn't have even gotten a test!! For all intents and purposes, Selina was/is his daughter. And if you love and care for her emotionally, you should WANT to do so financially. You should want to make sure she has what she needs. After that long, the issue is moot. He's a real SOB. He calls the older one his daughter, but not Selina. It's not just a matter of the money, he doesn't even want to be a part of this litle girl's life, even if he doesn't have to pay. What a total and utter jerk!! If he ever cared about his daughter, he would never be able to turn his back on her. And what, are they supposed to track down the biological dad after 9 years and say, oh you have a kid, and oh you owe a whole bunch of money. That is absurd. Maria might be a liar, but Enrique has absolutely no integrity. He aught to be ashamed of himself!!!
You turn it on him, are you as radical a feminist as that Gal Attorney was.  It is about the children and the well being, BUT, you say the Mother's behavior doesn't matter in your eyes?  WAKE UP, you are condoning a crime.  The Mother committed fraud, lied, deceived.  She should be punished up to and including fines, prison.  I agree with one individuals entry of helping to ensure children are taken care of, but that doesn't mean that a woman has the freedom to commit a crime and never be punished for her actions.    You seem that the childrens welfare should be more important then the crime the Mother committed; then in a situation a Mother commits murder or theft, she should not be punished cause it is not in the best interest of the Child.  WAKE UP PLEASE!!!
 
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October 29, 2007, 3:33 pm PDT

Leaving something out

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Bravo!  You are the kind of man I would have been proud to call a son.  It doesn't matter who made the child but who contributes emotionally to the life of the child.  You need to write to the so-called father on today's show and tell him what it means to be a man and a father.

 

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LRRJOY, BUT, the Mother should be held accountable with prison and fines given to her.  The focus should be on the child, it should, BUT the parent, whether a Mother or a Father, should be held accountable for a crime they commit. 

 
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October 29, 2007, 3:52 pm PDT

You are one sided

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Shame on these parents and the ex-husbands new spouse.  The person most hurt by all of this is Selina.  "Daddy" benefited from unconditional love, what does that cost!  Shame on mom, but that happened and now  he has to live with it.  For 13 years he was her father and now why should he pay for her?  Maybe because he loves her.  The child is the only one who spoke with sense in this case.  Dr. Phil, I hope you offered Selina help in dealing with this issue.  Tell the parents to mind their own business.  Daddy, needs to get a backbone and stand up to the new wife and put her in her place, which is out of this situation.
pmiller , what about the dad being able to continue the relationship without the child support?  Oh, and also, the Mother being prosecuted and fined and possible prison for her crime.  BE FAIR, not only the the child, but to justice.
 
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October 29, 2007, 3:57 pm PDT

SO it is ALL the MANS responsibility

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Thats all well and good either way really. I just think that when the attorneys for "fathers"  said that these men had no responsibility after 9 years was crap... they OBVIOUSLY admit to sleeping with the women . There are ways that a man can keep from getting a woman pregnant. Men should be held accountable for sleeping with a woman. If you were not having unprotective sex with a woman then you know you are not the FATHER! And shouldnt you know the persojn you are having sex with? Men are not victems they put themselves in that situation... MAN UP!

tess73 , WOW  you are man hater it seems to me.  You just put ALL the blame and responsibility on the MAN.  What about a woman using a contraceptive?  Both should be responsible, and just because a man sleeps with a woman doesn't make him responsible if she has a child from ANOTHER guy.  Especially if she lies and commits paternity fraud!  Wake up!!!! 

 

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