I can relate to the husband who wants to divorce his wife because of the mess in their home. My father has been diagnosed with OCD and hoards everything! He is 80 years old and my mother is in her 70's and she is to the point that in her last years she wanted everything he had gone! So over a two month period we went through his things and recycled 5 pickup loads of stuff, called 1800GOTJUNK and had 2.5 truck loads equalling 9TONS of stuff hauled away and 1 ton of iron to the iron mill and 5 pickup loads hauled away by the family too! It was exhausting on many levels. It was very difficult for my father and we still haven't gotten all of HIS stuff removed yet!
He won't get help and is watching the program right now and wants my Mom to watch it to understand what he is all about and accept it.
He, of course, doesn't want help because he thinks we are all wrong!