Messages By: ellestars

Quote From: tmaun1

 Good question. I had to think.  They met last year when she was17, her junior year, after she tore her acl and had to quit sports for awhile.  He was 20, his own apartment, out of school and due to sports injury did not go to college and has no plans to. He works construction or landscape jobs.  He seems like a nice guy. They bonded over the sports injuries.  She retore her acl 6 months later and all sports seemed to end. ( until this December) With that so did alot of her school activities and more time with this boy.  She would lie and say she was at practice o rwith someone else when she was really with him.  We couldn't  find her for a whole day once and that was when we said it had to end. He has no interest in highschool activities and she had 2 years left and was spending time with his friends and her friends were covering for her or never knew where she was.  We wanted her to have her highschool years and set some goals for the future that do include college.  His statement "you've got your momma's goodlooks and your daddy's money" synched the deal.  She was payingfor a lot of things. She found out  tha the  was seeing other girls on the side.  So that started the breakup.  After the breakup she seemed to get back on track.  Working towards goals and more involved with school and her school friends.  She even had a school"boyfriend" for the past  months and  seemed happy to go to football games, hang out with schoolfriends, her grades improved and she spent  more time with family. She recenly broke off her relationship with the "boyfriend" right after seeing this boy again. Lately she is out late again, not where she says she is,college interest is a battle, home work is not getting done or forgot about andshe has lost interest in after school activities. She does not know that I know.  I found out through slip ups and messages.  She is a bright, popular girl,colleges are interested, coaches want her back and during the schoolday she is very active.  I am beginning not to trust whether she is really studying or with him.  I want her to be part of her high school years and safe.  And even though she is now18 (completely dependent on us), I'm not sure dating a now 21 year old is in her best interest especially when they both know we do no tapprove and she sneaks around to see him.  I also understand that this is her first love and it is hard, but let her have her high school years.  He had his. (For her birthday I just found out he gave her a ring.)