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December 4, 2006, 1:18 am PST

So Many Teachers Are Abused

I was a teacher in the Detroit Public School System.  Seven years ago I had to take a disability retirement due to bone problems.  It was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.

 

 I really loved the first grade students that I taught, and was a very creative  reading and math teacher.  However, I encountered racism from the black parents.  I am white female married to a Hispanic man. Detroit has a huge drug problem. Too many of the parents are apathetic, and do not mentally or physically care for their children.  There are lack of meals, warm clothing, encouragement, etc. 

 

Although I have a master's degree plus 60 credits beyond, and spent 8 years, minus 2 summers in college, I think my bone problems were a blessing in disguise.  Teaching is very stressful and so many times thankless.  I try to remember the parents who were good to their children, who did appreciate my work, the many children who were happy when they were learning in my room, earned prizes, etc.  but the bad far outweighed the good.  I really hated it when parents played the race card.

 

Detroit NEVER has enough text books, work books, pencils, crayons, etc.  I spent in excess of $3K each and every year in the basics.  We were only provided with one case of duplicating paper, and of course had 28+ students in the classroom.  One year I had 37 first graders and NO HELP.  The stories you hear about no toilet paper are TRUE.  There are broken toilets, no doors for privacy, facets that do not work, and hand soap?  You must be kidding.  Where is the health department?

 

Stress of course is on the administrators from their administrators, and parents who frequently are argumentative and on crack.  Teachers get it both from their administrators and from the parents.  Sound like a job from hell?  Well it is.  My last 6 months on the job were spent each morning with uncontrollable convulsing, trying to vomit, with nothing coming up.  I would highly advise anyone thinking about going into teaching to spend a week in an inner city school system before you think about doing the coursework for the job.  And for those of you who do not believe me, do the same.  Volunteer for a week in your neighborhood school and see what goes on in there.  You will get a renewed respect for teachers, administrators, educational assistants, etc.  Kids are out of control, there seems to be very little to be done, except exclude them, and then when they come back, more times than not, their behavior has not changed too much.  Counselors and social workers are either not hired as the budget does not permit it, or are so overworked with huge caseloads, that it is barely a bandage.

 

It all starts in the home.  School is no substitute for good parenting.  Parents need to parent, and teachers need to educate.  It is impossible to do when children have no self control.  It all begins in the home.

 

Am I negative about children, school and teaching now?  You bet.  Am I glad I am out of there?  You bet.  Again, don't believe me? Spend a week, not an hour, not a day, but a week in your local school.  You will get a true perspective.  It is my hope that I reached  at least one person in the entire United States, and they have gone to their local school to check things out. 

 

This program has not aired yet, so I will reserve my comments on the teacher firing. 

 

 

 
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December 8, 2006, 5:51 am PST

Please don't judge me.

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 What a true statement in your post "Just because a person has teaching credentials does not mean they need to teach children." 

It's true; teaching has to be a calling.  I thought I was called; until my student teaching semester.  Only then did I realize what a mistake I had made.  If only I had spent more time in a teaching setting prior to selecting my college major!!  I went back to college as an adult.  I had home schooled my children; and wanted to make a difference with other children via teaching.  Initially, I was so excited about "teaching" only to realize that it was not the "noble calling" I had envisioned. (Needless to say, lol, the students I encountered were not as interested in learning as my own children were when I home schooled them, nor were they as cooperative as the youth I taught when I volunteered in our church, youth group or sunday school setting.) I spent two years trying to deal with the stress, until I realized I didn't have the ability to deal with disrespectful students and parents, etc. etc..  My second year teaching, I spent  in a Catholic school; after my first year was teaching in a public school.  I thought the private school setting would provide a more structured and peaceful environment!!  Wrong!!  An interesting note; my daughter is in college, and after her own soul searching, she chose elementary education.  After two years of teaching at the Pre-school level, while attending college, she has decided that teaching is not for her either. She is entering her student teaching semester, and has now decided to attend Law School; she took her LSAT recently.  She found out because of her own experiences that she wants to do something else; the stress of the teaching, the lack of respect, etc. are too much.  This is a very talented, loving, capable young woman; professional and intelligent.  I am very glad that she is going straight to graduate school. God Bless the good teachers in the world.  My heart goes out to you.  It seems like a thankless job; I am glad there are capable and strong teachers out there.  I  didn't have the strength to carry on with the profession.  I happily chose to further my education and chose a different profession; I am glad I was able to find another career which makes me feel good about going to work every day.

I am soooooo glad not to teach anymore as well.   But please do not automatically think I did not have a calling to teaching.  Prior to my 13 years in Detroit Public Schools, I taught ballet and tap for 17 years.  Parents wanted their children in my classes.  But the daily hurtles in t he Detroit Public School System were just too much.  I taught for  one year in the Rochester, New York public school system until my husband was once again transferred back to Detroit.  What a difference in children!

 

Teaching is difficult enough when you are physically feeling strong.  I went out on a disability for my ankle.  However, I agree with this author that I did not have the strength to carry on with this profession and deal with all the many problems of drug ridden parents, their affected children, lack of supplies, etc.  I am now very successfully self employed, and enjoy each and every day.   

 

Good for you that you are trying to make a difference.  I just hope in the end you will not come to the conclusion as I did, that it hadn't been worth the personal cost to my health.  Hopefully you will remain strong as you age, and that you will greet each day with enthusiasm.  For me it was an experience of slowly being bleed to death until there was no more of me.

 
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December 20, 2006, 6:12 pm PST

Come on ladies......

I would make a bet that for sure Mary has not left her "man" because all she did was smile most of the time on the stage and hold his feeble hand.  Even Dr. Phil was NOT buying the fact that she said she was going to leave.  Her self esteem is in the gutter, she is giving the milk away for free, and he knows it.  As far as I am concerned, she deserves another 8 years.  Come on Mary............who are you kidding?  Certainly not us.  Maybe yourself.  Your man has you all figured out, is getting all services for free, and it appears he has it pretty good with you paying so much of the stuff in the home, cooking, cleaning, running errands, taking care of the dog.....  So he pays the mortgage....big deal!  You would come out ahead by leaving him and renting an apartment and have some time for yourself to find someone who would love you.  But I don't give you much hope since you settled for so little for 12 years.

 

Rosanne, I got the feeling you were fed up.  And I hope you hit the highway and that some wonderful man out there saw you and contacted the show.  You do deserve better.  Don't give the milk away for free.  You DO DESERVE SO MUCH MORE.  Drop that baby and find a real man who will love you and tell you so.

 

 

 

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