Messages By: maria3255

I have never been on jury duty , and i am 55 years old. I often thought that i would like to serve on the jury and do my service for the State, but after seeing and hearing about the Scott Peterson trial and the terrible emotional and mental distress that these poor jurors suffered and are still suffering in their different ways, i don't want to serve on the jury personally. I do believe that the State should have offered them the counselling that they needed at the time, maybe they would have been further on in their healing stage. Maybe they will never get over it as one of the lady jurors said of herself.  I feel sorry for all these poor innocent jurors, who had to put up with death threats to them and their families.  I just pray that God will eventually heal their memories and they can find peace again in their spirits and minds.

 Regards,

 

Lory  

 I hope Frank learns love in the context of how much Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for Her.  His attitude should be of respect and being humble to his wife, and loving her enough to die for her if he had to. That requires a great deal of extra spiritual love in his heart and i hope that Dr.Phil can lead him to that place and then of course allow God to take over. Jodi needs to ask for his respect as a woman, loved by God. I have watched my sister being ground down to hardly nothing, because her husband is such a bully and so violent and mean to her and their children. She has suffered so much at his hands and yet she thinks she has done the right thing by staying with him. All i see is an  insecure, scared, scrawny unkempt woman just turned 50 who is scared of him still after 27 years of marriage. She did leave him once, but he stalked her and the kids with his gun. She gave up and didn't want to risk the safety of the children. He is now a drunk with a bad heart and he's had a mild stroke a few years ago. I will be sad for his children when he goes, but i know my sister will be a lot happier and peaceful once she gets over his mourning.            Maria3255. 

Dear lady,

 

I hope you and the children take care of yourselves and please remain strong. Are you seeing a counsellor?  I really think it would be to your advantage if you did. But i don't know what your husband would say about it, but then it's really up to you. Maybe he would go too if you would ask him to, or maybe you just want to get out of the marriage as you seem to have had enough. I watched my poor sister suffer at the hands of her bullying husband and it's broken my heart forever because she has accepted that its her lot in life. I would  hate to see you end up the way she has. I'm sorry to say but i won't miss him when he's gone.

Feel free to email or write to me if you want,

Sincerely and with love, Lory

 

Dear lady,

 

I feel so sorry for you, how my heart and love go out to you. I am glad at least you have your doctor that you can tell your problems to. He really must have been horrible to you to have broken your spirit, and think yourself as worthless. You must find it very hard with being ill plus suffering from depression on top of it, to handle your situation. Please dont feel sorry about his bad heart, he doesnt have any form of compassion or kindness towards you. You must look after yourself now, especially since you are not well.  You didn't mention anything about children so i presume you dont have any. Well, thats one blessing anyway,  Please feel free to contact me if you wish.

Love,

Lory(maria3255)

Dear Debra,

 

So glad to hear that you came out of your relationships positively. It's nice to be treated with respect isn't it?  My 2nd marriage has been great for me as well, as my spouse always looks after me and gives me breakfast every morning in bed. That had never happened to me before. My 1st marriage lasted 22 years and not once did my ex-husband ever make me a cup of coffee. So i know how nice and peaceful it is to have a caring and  loving husband by your side. 

 

Love,

 

Lory (Australia)    

Hi,

I was gang raped by four  men when i was 12 years old, I am now 55, and i still find it hard to get over it.  When it happened i felt ashamed and dirty, and thank God i didn't suffer any injuries, except emotional and mental ones.  I was praying back then that i somehow wouldn't fall pregnant from that as i was terribly scared of what my mother would do.  Mother was an alcoholic and Dad i could never talk to either about things like this.  I know i was terribly scared and it was my first lesson about the birds and the bees. Boy! what a way to learn. I kept it hushed up and never never told anybody except when i shared this with my grown-up girls a few years ago. If i had told mum she would have blamed me.  We had emigrated to Australia 3 years before and the country was still fairly new to all of us.  I had so called friends that used me and i wish now that i had some sort of street sense in me to look after myself, to protect myself. I was very naive and until i was 9 i still believed that babies were delivered by storks.  To add insult to injury i was molested by my father in my late teens.  I felt betrayed and never trusted dad again. I was terribly hurt because he never did anything to my sisters, I mean i'm glad  that he left my sisters alone, but i was somehow seen by him as a sex symbol. I went from loving dad, as i was close to him when i was a little girl, to never going near him again. The trust was lost completely.  My sisters hailed him as a wonderful saint of a man but i never said anything, i didn't want to spoil the image of perfection they saw him as.  Anyway, I have had unsuccessful relationships in the sex dept. with my ex-husband and now with my 2nd husband. I suffered postnatal depression with my 1st and 2nd child and bad anxiety.  6 years later i suffered another horrible bout of severe depression which seen me hospitalised. I could not understand what was happening to me. I was afraid, terrified of this great black hole inside my soul of which i felt i could not escape from, plus i had anxiety attacks.  My 1st husband threatened to stick me in the looney bin if i didnt pull myself together and take the children off me. That would have destroyed me.  I hated my ex for saying that, for not getting help, for not realising that there was something terribly wrong with me that i needed urgent treatment for it. I finally did get help, myself, yes myself.  I went to my doctor and begged him to get me some help or else i felt i was going to do something silly as i was tired of feeling this way and i wanted someone who could tell me what i was suffering from. It was the loneliest period in my life and i used to go to church and read the Bible every day and pray daily to Jesus Christ. People in my church used to say why hasn't the Lord healed you yet?  They would blame me. Some were saying that God wasn't healing me because i had a big sin in my soul and i hadn't dealt with it.  I ended up leaving that church in the end because it was adding to my desperation.  Anyway enough of this as i could write all night but i do still suffer from anxiety and clinical depression, i am on anti-depressants, which help me to keep stable thank God. I was hospitalised last year for 21 days in a Psych Hospital and had Shock treatment as i couldnt cope with life as it was then. Thank God i have a good Psychiatrist whom i can trust and i know cares.  Sincerely,  Lory(Australia) ( maria3255)  

 I don't believe Heather and Earl deserve their children, unless Earl does want to change his life around by changing his attitutes and Heather should stop protecting Earl. The children are best to stay with the grandparents until some positive change in their daughter's and Earl's lives. I hope that Earl & Heather will come to the point where they will see their desire to put their children first and change themselves.  I believe that Kelly and Clift, the grandparents, are absolutely right  and have the children's best interests at heart.  I believe that Sarah is wasting her time and life being married to Willie, who is in prison for 26 odd years. How does she know that he's not going to turn violent towards her and the kids when he gets out and shares their house. Perhaps then the girls would have left home, thank God. I think she feels safe having this type of relationship because she can visit him during the week and still have her independence at home, and no one is telling her what to do. But when he gets out it will be a different story. Plus i wouldn't bring my two girls into a man's prison, especially since he's not their biological father.  What is she going to tell the girls when they get bigger and they start asking questions about why he's in there, and what's he done to be in there. I"m glad it's her and not me.  The girls are too young anyway to be exposed to prisons, it's not a healthy environment for them. Too much for their little minds to cope with.  Sarah should put her girls before her strange relationship wants. She's selfish and i hope she takes on Dr.Phil's help to make her see the light.  

 I am sorry that you suffered abuse when you were a baby and I hope life is much better for you now.  I agree with you 100 percent , it's not right that children need to suffer at people's hands.

Sincerely,

 

Lory(Australia)

If i had been Nicole I would have been so embarrassed at having T.J. as a husband that i probably would never excuse his behaviour. The only way i would excuse him is, like Dr.Phil said, that he must understand the gravity of his actions, which were fuelled by all the alcohol that was drunk before and during the wedding . It would be hard for me to personally excuse him, unless he did see the trauma that he caused. I just wonder how other people at the wedding still feel about this particular wedding that they attended? ( Maria3255)

Dear Lady,

I would advise you to quietly pack your bags, write a "Dear John" letter and leave it where he would see it.  He's had quite a long time for him to realise what his actions are doing to your emotional and mental health. I see him as a very selfish person and staying with him i believe will hurt you more and more, so dear lady, leave him now.  Contact someone who knows what is happening and is supportive of you, like your Pastor, family or best friend.  I don't know how much money you have, but i would see a Counsellor or Therapist, or your Psychiatrist  and see if they would mediate for you and your husband, as you will need to sort things out like possessions, house/s, car/s etc,  When you come to the final conclusion  that this man you married will not give up his adulterous lifestyle, then please see your lawyer to finalise your marital money affairs and get as far away from him as you can.

I wish you the very best,

Lory(Australia).