Quote From: ruthiegIf not, why not? They're his kids too. Maybe he could take care of them for you, for a couple of hours so you can go for a walk. Getting out of the house without the twins might be a great stress relief for you. Try not to feel guilty. As Dr. Phil says, "You can take care of those boys better if you take care of their mother." Give yourself a break. You need it. Even a 21 year old mother would have her hands full with twins.
You are doing the best you can, and that's obviously pretty darn good, or you wouldn't come back. What I will suggest is that you go to the doctor and get a prescription for some anti-depressants. It is not a sign that you are a failure as a mother. On the contrary, it is quite the opposite. There is no shame in getting help from chemical sources. You might be surprised at how well they help. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. They don't even need to know, if you don't want to tell them.
Take care of yourself, so you can take care of your family.
Bye from Australia.
Ruthieg
you are not in need of meds. That , to me, would be the last resort. You have twin babies, a full time job, your mother died, your daughter left with her husband, your son is gone. It sounds to me more like you need some support and understanding. I would find a support group for parents of multiple births and rally with other mothers in your same situation.
I have seven children and am very familiar with the feelings of guilt when you leave for any length of time but the more you give yourself that few minutes to yourself every day the easier it gets. It doesn't hurt them and it does you a world of good. They won't even remember you were gone.
Cheer up, you are not alone, its just a tough time but remember, it doesn't last forever. Soon it will be a distant memory.
