Messages By: nadwil65

I totally agree w/ your take on the whole thing.  Just an added note...I think if Tasha really just wanted to set up some type of "public forum" for women to discuss their failed relationships, then she should set some rules.  Simply making sure the men also stay anonymous, to me, would've been the best way to handle this type of situation.  I'm not a fan of man-bashing, but yes, it does go on.  We all have done things we may not be proud of & I don't see anyone setting up a web-site to bash themselves.  The reason?  People don't want other people to think badly of them.  Didn't everyone's mother say, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all???"  This stuff always comes back to bite you in the butt.  Just take the high road & be kind.  Wouldn't the world be a better place? I think the whole website is just plain immature, but still, if you feel the need to vent, you don't have to take someone down with you, just anonymously vent. I really can't even begin to guess where this lawsuit would go & I'd hate to be the judge, but I think Tasha should definitely make some changes so that, at the very least, people aren't getting hurt, since she has no way of tracking things to verify whether or not they're true. 

First - Gloria Allred is ridiculous!  I've never seen her make such a fool of herself! However, would probably want her on my side if I needed an attorney.  

The solution is simple.  Yes...the mother lied & started the whole problem.  The dad should not be required by law to provide child support for a child that isn't biologically his & the mother should try to locate the real dad & have him pay.  However, another avenue would be for the victimized dad in this case to pay to a trust fund or college fund or something, so that the money actually goes to the child & not the mother.  The dad should obviously continue taking care of the child emotionally, regardless of what the money situation is.  If the court still holds him responsible, then he fights w/ them, not take it out on the child.  The child should be completely unaware that there are money issues even being discussed.  It has no relevance (or shouldn't) to the child/father relationship.  This is really a no-brainer - even too simple to be on the Dr. Phil show (although I think he handled it well).  Didn't catch that guy's name that got the bill passed in GA but hip hip hurray for him!  He was the star of the show & the only one that made any real sense.  I'm a mother & can't fathom doing what that mother did - Crazy!  It all comes out in the wash.

Bingo you're right on...The 1st thing I noticed right away was how the mother took this as a personal hit toward her.  I mean when her husband "chose" the daughter over her - that's why she took it out on Heidi & not her husband.  This, I'm sure has something to do w/ low self esteem issues, probably extremely deep.  I was very surprised that it seemed Dr. Phil didn't pick up on that part, although he definitely saw right thru this mother.  Although Heidi seemed very strong at this point, it appeared she may have some eating disorder (just a guess, I'm not expert) and so I hope she gets whatever help she needs from Phil & I hope she's able to put the past behind her & "press toward the mark"  only looking forward.  Sure, it's sad to go thru life w/o a loving, caring mom, but it's available.  She & her family seem to be doing fine w/o her mom in their lives & although this mom said she wants to make amends, it's obvious that what she wants is for someone to say to her "yes, we understand why you did what you did"  probably to help her feel less guilty when in fact she just needs to swallow her pride & take all the blame & move on.  Whatever...write her off.