Messages By: itsjustlife22

i am a single mom and receiving absolutely NO help from my 3 week old daughters father. I also just recently moved and am in the process of unpacking. I need sleep...I am desperate for this because it is EXHAUSTING doing it all on my own. My daughter sleeps absolutely wonderfully if you hold her, but ten minutes after I put her down she is back up screaming! I don't know what to do. One night she slept in her car seat but that hasn't worked since then. I need any suggestions for getting her to sleep on her own so I can go to sleep too! I tried lavendar lotion too and I tried just letting her cry it out for a few minutes. It seems like nothing works. IF anyone has ANY suggestion please tell me?

I am a white female and have really only dated black males. I am more attracted to them and in general have connected better with the black men that i have met over the other races. I am SO blessed because my entire family (with the exception of my grandmother) is completely supportive of this. I am glad that I come from a family and have friends that truely value what is on the inside and not by the color of someone's skin. I know there are people who disprove of this however I try and point these people in the right direction. Skin is skin - underneath we have the same parts. Differences also should be cherished, not frowned upon. No one should be judged by anything, but definitely not based on appearance. There is so much to the human mind, body, and soul that not being able to see past the color of someone's skin is one of the saddest things I have ever heard in my life. I will encourage my daughter (who is black and white) to date any good man that she finds despite the color of his skin or what he looks like. I hope that as I get older and watch new generations begin to date and grow up that they will be less and less racist and judgemental.

I quit smoking when I found out that I was pregnant - my daughter is a little over 3 weeks old now and I am just DYING for a cigarette. I had maybe 3 cigarettes while I was pregnant and am trying very hard to stay away from cigarettes. I know it sounds silly but there are a lot of things that have helped me not have a cigarette. First of all I live in Wisconsin and it's too cold outside to comfortably enjoy a cigarette. Second, I am a single mom and could really use the extra 4 dollars a pack to put towards any needs my daughter has. Third, when I am stressed out and am most tempted to reach for a cigarette I walk around my house and find other things to do to keep my mind off of it. Sitting still or watching TV makes me just crave cigarettes more and more. I often clean things or spend time with my daughter or on the phone to get away from the cravings. I also told my friends who smoke that I am not going to smoke again so they try not to smoke when I am around, or at lesat don't invite me out for a cigarette or make it obvious that that's what they are doing. I also suggest physical activity and avoiding places that allow smoking, especially places where alcohol is served. If you and your spouse are smoking make some kind of pact or deal. Or take money that would have been spent on cigarettes and save it up and then do something fun with it. You'll be surprised.

im 22 and have always been overweight, i used to be in shape though because i have always been a successful athlete even through college. in the off season i would run and lift and i was never skinny but was always happy. i had my first child 5 weeks ago and im raising her alone right now. im exhausted and try to exercise but im too tired, i hate it. i dont mind being thick but i hate being flabby. i always had high energy and now my legs are just so tired any suggestions?

im 22 and have always been overweight, i used to be in shape though because i have always been a successful athlete even through college. in the off season i would run and lift and i was never skinny but was always happy. i had my first child 5 weeks ago and im raising her alone right now. im exhausted and try to exercise but im too tired, i hate it. i dont mind being thick but i hate being flabby. i always had high energy and now my legs are just so tired any suggestions?