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January 18, 2007, 5:04 pm PST
 Quote From: lvacffeshp You are absolutely right Parisfan! I am not the social worker in this case. ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! But if I was.... Kelly would not have those kids unless she treated Heather right.
Your comment: "I don't have kids, but..." See that is your problem... YOU DON'T HAVE KIDS. This is the problem in the social and justice system: people who make decisions: WHO DON'T HAVE KIDS... and don't know the curiosity and mischief that a NORMAL CHILD is capable of.
See this is why I don't just jump on the bandwagon when the courts or social work makes a decision.... It is the facts of the case, but also it depends on the judge or social worker and their perceptions which may only be perceptions and not reality.
I do have a child and I think you are wrong. Kelly needs to keep custody of those kids. Or I guess you think it would be better for them to be with their parents so when an accident does occur they'll just laugh it off instead of bringing them to get the medical attention they need. Yeah, that makes sense! |
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March 21, 2007, 5:26 pm PDT
Quote From: kimmaci I saw today's show for the first time. Just 2.5 weeks ago, I was arrested by my 'daughter-in-law' and sat in a jail cell while my husband had to bail me out.
History: My son's 18 yr old girlfriend was kicked out of her home 20 months ago - right after graduating high school. We thought we were doing a nice thing, and knowing she would go off to college in the fall - allowed her to move into our house. Her parents pulled her college funds and we were stuck having her live with us. Our son was a senior in high school at the time.
Our worst nightmare happened - she got pregnant - and we strongly believe - on purpose. Here we are 20 months later.
Our son graduated from high school, and they are going to community college and working 'a pt job'. Our lives have been hell since she moved in. She's lazy, won't help out around the house AT ALL, and is extremely disrespectful towards me. My husband and I work professional FT jobs, but our 2nd job hit us when we walked in the door. Many time the baby was 'thrown' at us to care for. Of course we had our regular times we babysat, which we committed to, while they were at school/and/or work. Kayla had a sense of entitlement and was so disrespectful.
After a couple months, we noticed her 'blow-ups' and home disruptions were about 30 days apart. Hmmm. PMS? Finally, my husband and I found a therapist and went to see her. We needed help with the kids. They had no direction, desire, or maturity - we needed help.
Two months ago she had another blow up and called 911 "to find out about custody laws were." Of course, the police were dispatched to our house. My son told me over the phone and I rushed home. Two cop cars in my driveway! How devastatingly embarrassing.
30 days later - blow up again - only this time she went to the police station, made a report, and I was arrested on 3 charges of Domestic Violence. Her parents who have not assisted with one thing since she moved out (by the way, we gave them both a car, cell phones, paid all the bills, even paid for 90% of the things for the baby- where her parents have never even bought him a gift) they have taken Kayla and Aidan in, but not our son. He was welcomed there -but after one week - they let him move in.
I feel our son has turned his back on me. We have begged her to go to the prosecutor and tell him she doesn't want anything to happen to me - but she's too lazy. She can't be bothered. While I was sitting in a jail cell - she had the nerve to tell my son, "I guess I won't be able to move back in, huh?" I have always known she hated me, and during our argument - she shouted 5 times, I HATE YOU.
Now, I'm going through the legal process, and although the prosecutor told my husband he has no problem dropping the charges - I still can't get over this. It's absolutely crushed me.
We haven't seen our grandchild - she won't let me. She'll let my husband - but not me. My husband says we're a team - if I can't - he won't. She has no desire to mend our family.
Where do you go from here? I won't be held by her emotional hostage. My husband and I have come to terms we won't see our little Aidan any more. How do you heal? I know they are young, but she has anger issues and hates authority figures.
I can somewhat understand what you are going through. I went through a similar situation 2 years ago right after my son was born.
My husband and I got pregnant right when I was graduating high school and he still had a year left. We got married and i moved in with his family. Everything was fine until my son was born. I felt that my mother-in-law was trying to tell me how to raise my son and i resented her for it. After 2 months we maoved out and went to live with my parents. It was fine at first, then things just got out of hand. After four months, they were ready for us to move out. We started lokking for a place to rent and was having a little difficulty. Then one day we come home to find that they had changed the locks on us and were kicking us out. While we were moving our stuff out my dad called the police on us. So, we decided to cut off all ties to them and they did not see us for 6 months and that was only for our family Christmas dinner. We didn't start socializing with them for another 3 or 4 months after that. And now a year later, i have never been as close to my parents or to my in-laws. So, it can get better and i hope it does.
By the way, we found an apartment that day after we were kicked out and now we are living in our own home.
Also, as a grandparent, you have visitation rights. Look into getting court ordered visitations so you can at least see your grandchild.
Another thing, one thing you said disturbed me. You said that "our worst nightmare happened-she got pregnant. Realize that your are calling your grandchild a nightmare. I would never say the my son was a mistake, he was a surprise.
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