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January 16, 2006, 6:54 am PST

You can't be serious

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I don't know were you get more then half of the recipients on welfare are Caucasian.  I live in Calif,  and it doesn't work that way out here.   

  

Case in  point, about five years ago when my husband was unemployed we went and applied for food stamps. That all we needed we just wanted help in buying food for the family.  I was setting in in one of the cubicles and over heard a case worked telling a black woman not to claim her child support because she would not get welfare benefits.  I was told to sell my car ( which is needed to get to work) and to cash in my 401K.  

  

So don't tell  me there are more whites on welfare than anyone else. Go to a welfare office in CA, you won't see that many caucasians.  

You really can't be serious with what you just said. Because someone told you to sell your car and cash in your 401K (which the other woman may or may not have had in the first place to be selling) that means that more blacks than whites are on welfare. I'm sorry you had a not so great experience, but if you look all over the country, and not just in the city you applied for foodstamps in then you will see that most of the welfare recipients in this country--especially in the midwest are caucasian. And I'm not pulling that out of my behind either--six of my stepsiblings are social workers and work in welfare agencies in various places in this country. 

  

Some of what I've been reading here simply makes me want to puke. If you have to preface a statement with "I'm not a racist, but..." or "I don't consider myself a racist, but...." then that leads the person on the receiving end of that statement (us the reader in this case) to believe that you are a racist. I don't have to tell people that my group of friends may as well be the rainbow coalition or the United Nations, because it doesn't matter. I don't have to defend it, I don't have to explain it. It is what it is. If you really see the world through multi-colored glasses as some of you say, then you don't have to count how many friends of whatever race you have. You don't see their race, and you "sho' 'nuff" don't have to explain why how you were raised allowed you to be friends with someone of such-and-such race. Reading between the lines of some of these statements and watching people's actions say a lot more than "I'm not a racist, but...." ever could. If you were truly not prejudiced in some form or racist in one way or another, you wouldn't have to make sure the world knows that you're "NOT a racist"--you wouldn't give a damn either way. 

  

Allow me...I have O positive blood, and the red cross recruits me hard because I'm a universal donor. They don't make me specify my race, because blood is blood is blood. If you received a transfusion of O positive blood and it saved your life, you'd be pretty damned grateful, no? So if tomorrow you found out that that blood was from my "disgusting negroid/black veins", would you die from negro-itis? Nope, cuz blood is blood is blood, we all got it, it's all red. My skin might be darker than yours, but my blood could still save your life, or yours could save mine. There are so many more things to worry about than someone's skin color, so please, let it go.  

 
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January 17, 2006, 5:26 am PST

I agree

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 uh, actually blood is blue, until it is explosed to oxygen, but I get your point.  Even though I believe everyone is a little bit racist to some extent, even if it's only using race as a physical descriptor.
I do agree that we are all racist if you use it as a physical descriptor. And your snide little comment about blood being blue--I do know that, but when you receive a blood transfusion, you are given the oxygenated type. And technically, the liquid is not blue when you take away the oxygen--the color you see is what is not refracted thru the light that your skin filters, and it's not really liquid, it's a bit more coagulated than oxygenated blood. But thank you for understanding my point.
 
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January 24, 2006, 6:11 am PST

night terror show

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What does ADHD or ADD stand for?   

I will be very interested in this show.  I have walked, talked, and ate in my sleep.  I have also kicked doors and not remember anything.  I usually have a good time in my sleep.  I'm told that I laugh a lot.  BUT, I do get mean sometimes.  One morning when I woke up my 2 dogs were acting terrified of me.  I had a feeling I did something in my sleep.  I was having scary dreams every night for a period of time.  I figued out it might be the Noni juice (1 ounce at night) that I had started drinking.  I changed from drinking it at night to drinking it in the morning and the terrifing dreams stopped.  The Noni juice works for colitis.   

I saw a show about a guy that had drove to his mother- in- laws house and killed her in his sleep. A sleep specialist had proof that he stayed too long in his deepest sleep and he got off.  How could you live with yourself after that.  This can be scary stuff.  Sure is a mystery to me. 

I can only hope there is help out there for everyone, including me, with this problem.   I know Dr. Phil will be able to help........     

  

ADD is Attention Defecit Disorder and ADHD is Attention Defecit Hyperactivity Disorder 

 
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May 2, 2006, 9:35 pm PDT

I understand, but am still frustrated

Most all of you have made valid points, and while some of you take offense to what is being said, there is some validity to all of these points. There are also myriad excuses being made, when there is obviously a lack of responsibility in this woman's situation--maybe not in all areas, but definitely in what she is eating. Now please don't think I'm one of those "skinny people who like to make rude comments when I can't relate" because I too am overweight. I was a professional tap dancer that was always heavier than the rest, but I broke my back and I gained weight due to not being able to move around a lot and also because I ATE myself fat. I take responsibility for my own actions. I gained 160 lbs in 18 months, and I've managed to lose 95 of that through diet and exercise (I am now back to dancing--not at the level I was once at, but I'm getting there through determination and desire to be back to the person I remember) 

  

Ok, so enough about me. Genetics may play a role in disposition to be heavy, I understand that. However, that is not something that can be diagnosed simply by looking at the other people in your family. Most people may see that their parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc were overweight and think that because they were overweight that you are genetically predisposed to being overweight also, but how many people really know what those family members were eating. A lot of people are closet eaters, so you have no idea what people ate or eat behind closed doors. A genetic 'condition' is quite difficult to diagnose, and is typically done by a genetisist. Most people don't have access to these researchers, and their primary doctor usually cannot do this type of research--nor can it be done in your average lab (like labcorp, etc). This type of research is highly specialized and complex, and even researchers are still hunting for the specific 'fat gene'. So using genetics to explain weight is typically trivial at best. 

  

Yes, conditions like lymphdema do cause people to look much heavier than they really are due to the large quantities of fluid in their systems; however, by DeeDee's own admission, and the video footage on the show, she eats much much more than she should. If her condition were solely caused by lymphatic problems, she would more than likely have suffered congestive heart failure by now. 

  

Some of you have said that larger people are hungrier than average-sized people, which is true. But often we (all of us) mix up hunger and thirst. Many times, we may think we are hungry, when we are actually thirsty. (A large majority of us are borderline dehydrated and don't drink enough water) If DeeDee (I think that's her name) would drink a large glass of water when she feels hungry, she may find that her hunger pangs subside. It goes much farther than the 8 glasses of water that we are supposed to drink per day. Larger people require more water intake. If you divide your body weight in pounds in half, that is the number of ounces of water per day that you should drink. An easy way to accomplish this would be to follow the advice that Dr. Phil gave to MaLynn and replace the juices and soft drinks with water or unsweetened tea (if flavor is an issue) then she would be drinking enough water, and may find that she feels less hungry. Also, since her metabolic rate has slowed due to her weight, a change in diet to increase that rate would be helpful. Spicy foods have been known to increase metabolic activity due to their thermogenic properties--and they taste good! Also, protein tends to make you feel fuller faster, so increasing protein intake is a good way to lower caloric intake while still feeling full. Adding egg whites or grilled chicken to a salad can make a lot of difference, and also make you feel like you're eating real harty food and not something you should be feeding your pet rabbit. :-) 

  

I'm glad that she has a strong family unit to help her in what is undoubtedly going to be an uphill journey, and I'm hopeful that the whole family can adopt healthier eating habits and help her win this battle. It may sound silly, but increasing activity even the slightest bit can help her to burn more calories. Tossing the TV remote she has to get off of the bed/sofa/wherever to change the channel or adjust the volume will help. It may not seem like much, but it will result in more activity. We all have to crawl before we walk and walk before we run. Good luck girl!! 

  

And to MaLynn, keep dancing sweetie. That is one of the most beautiful forms of self-expression, so even if no one is watching, dance dance dance!! With your mom on your side, you'll do great. And all that dancing will be good practice for your senior prom in a few years!! 

 

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