Messages By: iamvip

As far as I know, no one looks at a magazine or a tv show and suddenly develops an eating disorder.  These issues/illnesses run way deeper than than the media.

I totally agree with Dr. Phil's guest (Drew?), just because you aspire to do something doesn't necessarily mean that you CAN do it.  Look how many great athletes never make it professionally.  Or, look at all the "wedding singers" you see and hear in your town - - don't they sing as well, if not better than many of the people you hear on the radio? 

Not everybody has IT.  So, don't blame the people that do have IT for your failures, illnessess.

To all the folks who look at magazines and wish they  looked like the models, how about you get a foster child or something and find a more useful focus in your life?!  Or, if looking at magazines makes you so sick, how about not looking at them!

I look at magazines and think about how I can adapt the latest styles to my proportions (I'm 5 feet tall).  How about all the short people start crying about the extra expenses we incur to find stylish clothes, pay full price for them and then have to pay almost as much to have them tailored?

The last time a checked, the media was not the greatest source for shaping and defining a life.  So don't depend on it to define yours!

WHY AREN'T YOU IN SCHOOL?  In my house, no school, no tv, no radio, no Dr. Phil, no fun!

Honey, if people on the runways looked like regular Janes and Joes there would be fashion shows.  Who would pay to see what they can open up their doors and look at everyday for free?!

YOU stop talking to your daughter about her own and the appearance of other girls.  Start talking to her about education, her future, and making money!  Tell her she's smart, not pretty.  Shift her focus from appearance to acheivement.

I have a daughter too, instead of talking about how pretty JLo, or Beyonce are, I talk to her about how these ladies are making money, supporting themselves and giving back through their talent.

Last I heard, (at least here in Ohio), you can't put a picture of yourself in your electric bill and expect to keep your lights on!  Teach your daughter how to pay her own bills!

Baby,

I'm the BOMB!  I'm petite and beautiful and smart!  I've got more important things to worry about than my height.  In fact, I rarely think about it.  It's the way God made me!  Yes, it would be nice to purchase a nice outfit and NOT pay to have it tailored, but those are the cards I was dealt, and I deal with them masterfully. 

I've got two businesses to run, AND two healthy, smart , confident children to guide.  And I know there are millions of people in the world in far worse shape than I.  Me,  worry about my height, or that last few pounds of baby fat - - NEVER!!!!!

All I'm saying is that it is not the media's responsibility.  The media does not owe us anything so folks need to stop expecting more that what it  (the media)has ever provided.  Those people are in business to make MONEY at whatever the cost to you or me or our daughters.

Instead of supporting this madness, how hitting them where it hurts the most?  Stop buying it!!!

Dr. Phil, please hurry up and remove the aunt from the situation.  She is possibly one of the meanest people in the world.  If she really wanted to help, she would have intervened in a more positive and helpful manner.  This lady just likes to argue and be right.  Sure, the mother is in denial and is probably an alcoholic, but has the aunt introduced any solutions?  Seems to me she has just created another layer of conflict into the situation stemming more from her long time dislike for the mother, not out of loving and wanting the best for the children.

I know of someone who when faced with a similar situation, sought and received custody of the children involved, got the children into counseling and still tried to help the mother.  Sure the mother went ballistic, however this person moved forward in a very calm manner to do what was best for the children.  All without fighting, screaming and calling names. 

That's the easy way out - -pointing fingers.  If the aunt was so concerned and felt the mother was so unfit, why didn't she do something about it?  Why?  Because it was easier to keep flapping her lips than to take custody and really help the children!  As usual, one more person who has all the answers but can't be bothered to get her hands dirty in the rebuilding of a damaged heart.

And the mom needs to stop making excuses and step up to the plate.  I think that she probably won't follow through in the long run with whatever Dr. Phil prescribes because she is a selfish person.  She wants peace in her household, but she won't be a mom.  Seems like she wants to be more of a friend than a parent.  Mom, your time to party and be free will come again once you've raised your children!

Poor Grandma!  Poor dazed and confused teen! Poor Everybody! 

Haven't folks learned to set the parental controls on their computers by now?  You can set these up so that your kids can't download anything, enter into any chat rooms, go to certain sites., etc. without me entering my password.  Even when they send/receive email, their systems emails a permission slip to me for my approval.  Half the time, the program is so restrictive that I have to call the phone company to help me navigate these controls! 

Of course, I change the password frequently, but by now, my  15 year old is so tired of the parameters, the computer isn't that much fun.   Also, she knows that I have complete access to her every move and I will check up on her! She does what she needs to do and gets off. They have computers to do their homework and that's all, and that's how it was explained to them from the start. It takes time to set up and monitor and my friends think I'm crazy, but I say it's my job!

These desperate women make me sick!  Doing any old thing to keep some piece of man is just stupid to me.  Where is the self worth and value?  Any time a man tells you he doesn't want you - - THAT'S A DEAL BREAKER!  No further thought required!

I get so tired of women making excuses for their DUMB Ass men and taking their crap for years on end.  And, then, they act like they hit the lottery because the corralled some fool into marrying them and he still treats 'em like crap!  Then they spend the next couple of years crying and complaining because the fool doesn't love them.  Until, he hits the jackpot and leaves her for the love of his life - - some teenager in bobby socks sucking on a lolly pop!

Niki is a fool.  Move on.  You can do better if you DEMAND better. 

As for the lady with the eating problem, I don't blame the guy!  Why walk  into problems?  Some people just have too many issues and they should work on those issues before they burden someone else with them.  If she were a drug addict or an alcoholic, nobody would blame him if he didn't marry her! 

It's all about the money!  I'm not against pre-nups and would sign one if asked - - but not a post-nup!  That's just some jerk who has already made up his mind to leave you trying to get away with everything you both worked for!  And, I'm not going to sign a pre-nup that doesn't protect me and leave me with the secure life.

We make decisions about how to live as a couple, what neighborhood, what cars , what schools, how many kids,  - - why should one person (and probably the kids) have to change her whole way of living just because some ass is going thru a mid life crisis? Even when we don't "work" we still make valuable contributions that make the family "go".

both these women need to leave these jerks and get  some self esteem.  These guys just don't like these women!!!! He doesn't like you!!!  Anybody that would put you out on the streets  does not love you!  I say  - -Get lost creep!

...what's up with the judge?  She's scary!

Babe,

Just leave.  My husband is an a**hole too.  But I refuse to let hime bring me down any further.  He too, buys whatever he wants but questions every loaf of bread I  buy.  If he thinks I have money, he won't pay the bills until he feels that I've spent every dime out of my account.  I'm tired, I can do bad by myself.  Things might be hard for a while, but my mental gain will surely outweigh my financial woes.  I own a business and work part-time, because of the up and down nature of my business there are times, when my funds are low and he won't even help pay my daughter's tuition. (that's YOUR daughter, YOUR bill).  I'm leaving and so should you!