Quote From: djmixonI have been married three times and I have a theory...
The amount of happiness and longevity you have in your marriage is inversely proportional to the amount of money you spend on the wedding.
If a person is so wrapped up in possessions and things, there is nothing left to give to your spouse - or your future. I am amazed at how some people spend 10s and 100s of thousands of dollars on weddings for marriages that are then plagued by debt and unhappiness.
Find a JP and get married. Then you will have more money to build longer lasting memories on, and perhaps even have a down payment on a house.
Likewise, I am alarmed by the size of some engagement rings I see. There is another materialistic item that just sets ordinary people up for failure. How can a normal person with a normal income keep up with that kind of standard?
Be yourselves and be happy... that is what really matters.
It really bothers me when i hear of all the money people are spending on weddings,; for most its a downpayment on a house, have they thought abaut that?
My husbond and I was 21 when we got married; my dress cost $20, my husbond had a new suit on, no tuxedo, my flowers paid for by my husbond, thats the tradition, where I come from, and the florist delivered them 1 hr. before i left for church, they vere buitifull. The reception was held at my mothers apartment, ,,,, Bedroom empty,,, set up for sit down dinner for 26 guests, food came from a hotel in town; cost: less than $100:00, my mothers 2 girlfreinds did the serving, and after we all dansed the night away, this is 43 years ago, and we atill talk abaut the fun we had.
I have 2 daughters, married, the weddings cost us, $ 4000.00 for 56 people, the other $ 7000.00 for 134 people, and yes that incl. hall, food, free bar and vine with dinner, and all had a great time, and our daughters/soninlaws both moved in to houses at the same time. All I am saying is that it is possible to have a nice wedding without spending a small fortune.
