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December 28, 2006, 8:05 am PST

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 It is hard to quit smoking.  It's hard to get out of bed and and hard to go to work.  There now that you read that you can go back to your self distructive behavior.  Sorry but none of those things are hard to do, it's what you have been told and led to believe.  It would have been easier for me to quit smoking if some one would have told me what to expect and how to deal with it.  Ok so what I am about to tell you will not work for you , but do not stay in bed all day.  On December  2 1994 I smoked my last cigarette after 20 years of smoking.  I used anger and discipline towards something positve.  The first day was a Saturday so I chewed a lot of sugarlees gum, drank a lot of water, and kept busy all day.  The more I ignored the nicotine wave that over powers you the smaller the wave got.  After 3 days of this I was free.  To be free of  nicotine is experiencing part of what true freedom means.  So a few days later my blood started to flow, no more restless legs, but my body felt like it feels when say your arm falls asleep.  So I wore legs weights and wore them for 3 straight days including sleeping.  You see I was working out while sleeping.  after a few weeks I signed up at a local gym and have exercising ever since, It is called resistance training not resistance to training.  giving up and bad habit and taking up a good one makes a world of difference.  Do not wait for New Years Day to arrive to start a resolution.

 
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December 29, 2006, 10:02 am PST

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Being abused is not an easy thing to deal with.  What does one do when a spouse is irrational, contradicting, selfish, sllef centered and REFUSES to go for counseling for the sake of the children and marriage?   I have been a victim of domestic violence  many times.  I went before a judge and explained the problems.  She was so impressed that she stamped and signed court order family counseling thru the Friend of the Court.  After one year of waiting and my son turning 18 I cancelled, which was a mistake as I still had a minor child at home.  A good book to read is Dr. Laura's  The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. 
 
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December 29, 2006, 10:06 am PST

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Being abused is not an easy thing to deal with.  What does one do when a spouse is irrational, contradicting, selfish, self centered and REFUSES to go for counseling for the sake of the children and marriage?   I have been a victim of domestic violence  many times.  I went before a judge and explained the problems.  She was so impressed that she stamped and signed court order family counseling thru the Friend of the Court.  After one year of waiting and my son turning 18 I cancelled, which was a mistake as I still had a minor child at home.  A good book to read is Dr. Laura's  The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.  It gives a good insight on relationships but my wife refused to read it
 
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December 29, 2006, 10:07 am PST

relationships

Being abused is not an easy thing to deal with.  What does one do when a spouse is irrational, contradicting, selfish, self centered and REFUSES to go for counseling for the sake of the children and marriage?   I have been a victim of domestic violence  many times.  I went before a judge and explained the problems.  She was so impressed that she stamped and signed court order family counseling thru the Friend of the Court.  After one year of waiting and my son turning 18 I cancelled, which was a mistake as I still had a minor child at home.  A good book to read is Dr. Laura's  The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.  It gives a good insight on relationships but my wife refused to read it
 
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April 1, 2007, 12:28 pm PDT

I hate this marriage

First time marriages and first  time single parents should be required to take parenting clases.  When it comes to raising children there should be a mutual understanding of what is acceptable and not.  The roles of the parent should also be agreed upon so that there is no misunderstanding.  Many times the woman takes on the fathers role thus disminishing his character.  How does one try to reason with a spouse that is irrational,  irresponsible, selfish, self centered and REFUSES to go for counseling?????
 
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April 29, 2007, 11:57 am PDT

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obesity is an expanding problem that needs to be dealt with.  The overweight women is in denial and causing  an unfair environment.   The first thing she should do is admit she is the problem and has a problem.  The body can only process food at a certain rate.  to keep eating is not solving the prolem..  As a truck driver I feel fuller standing up than sitting down which is when i eat.  To off set the prolem  i have started walking while my trailer is being loaded.  I have walked over 30 miles in the last 3 weeks.  This helps with the digestive system.  I have also have started drinking replacement meal such as slim fast.  It takes the first step to make a differance in life.  You are either part of the problem or part of the solution.  Failure is NOT a option.
 
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May 6, 2007, 11:16 am PDT

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This reply seems to more about YOU as opposed to the women on the set.  Give it up - what, do you want a standing ovation for your accomplishments ?? Failure is not an option - it's the feeling of hopelessness.  I coudn't help notice your name was motivator.  I guess I should count my lucky stars that I don't have you motivating me !!!  In my opinion, it's arrogance that is causing an unfair environment - and it is opinions like this that MAKE people feel they are  failures.  Keep up the good work, maybe Dr. Phil can do a show on free advice.
  there are those who are in denial and the world for them will never change.  It takes wisdom and courage to admit failures and faults.  It is part of the healing process of the heart and soul.  It is YOU  or oneself that has to do something.  This situation reminds me of the hurricane victims sitting around waiting for the world to rescue them when it was their responsibility to do something.  The world owes YOU nothing.  It is every persons RESPONSIBILITY to contribute to humanity other wise the world would not exsist.
 
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May 23, 2007, 12:31 pm PDT

dominating spouse

A long long time ago during the farming age the men went out and farmed, hunted and took care of basic neccesities for the family to surviive.  the wife took care of the home and played an important role raising the children.  The industrial age came along and the mom decided she did not want to stay in the house and went out and got a job.  Then day care came along and then the child was being raised by another adult.  Mom then decide she wanted equal rights.  Remember the ad :You've come a long way baby' should have said "You're going the wrong way baby"      Now there are more women in politics. in the military, in sports, and in prisons.  Couples should have an agreement of what is acceptable and what is not when it comes to raising children.  They should also have a mutual understanding of what their roles are and that of their spouse..  Being a dominating spouse turns the family upside down.
 
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May 23, 2007, 12:32 pm PDT

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A long long time ago during the farming age the men went out and farmed, hunted and took care of basic neccesities for the family to surviive.  the wife took care of the home and played an important role raising the children.  The industrial age came along and the mom decided she did not want to stay in the house and went out and got a job.  Then day care came along and then the child was being raised by another adult.  Mom then decide she wanted equal rights.  Remember the ad :You've come a long way baby' should have said "You're going the wrong way baby"      Now there are more women in politics. in the military, in sports, and in prisons.  Couples should have an agreement of what is acceptable and what is not when it comes to raising children.  They should also have a mutual understanding of what their roles are and that of their spouse..  Being a dominating spouse turns the family upside down.
 
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December 2, 2007, 12:34 pm PST

shocking teen trends

Todays teens behavior is the result of changes in the structure of the family that dates back to the pioneer era.  In early times the father built the home and farmed for food.  The mother took care of the home and raised the chidren.  The industrial age changed the family structure when the father went away took a factory or office job leaving the mother  insecure and detached.  Females then started the feminist movement demanding to be equal to men.   They drove cars, got the rights to vote, took up smoking, and went to work out side the home leaving the children in the care of  others. The equality women demanded is a delicate topic that needs to balance the roles of women as a mother and a wife  and a males as a husband and a father.  For females to continue to deslove men's masculanity by demanding equaility only puts a downward trend on the structure of the family

 

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